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AIBU - Etiquette disembarking plane

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planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:30

I recently flew into LA, the flight was jam packed and the overhead lockers filled up quickly so the flight attendants took bags off people and put them wherever they could find space in the lockers.

I was in an aisle seat, and had a connecting flight, so when the seatbelt sign went off I stood up like everyone else, got my carry on out of the overhead locker and waited to disembark.

That's when an American lady from the row in front of me turned to me and said she needed to get past me to get to her luggage and then bring it backto her place in the queue.

I said sorry, that's not going to work as the aisle is really narrow and filled with luggage right now, it'd be best if you sat down and waited until some people have disembarked so there's more space.

She got angry and said "Fine, if you don't move I'm going to BLOCK the aisle. We'll get the flight attendants involved"

It wasn't just her, there was also a group of men in front who needed their luggage from the back of the plane as well and they backed her up (!)

After such a long flight I was over it, and said in my most calm but firm voice:

"Guys, waiting is a fact of life, you're just going to have to sit and wait.

"Your luggage is down the back of the plane. I'm sorry but that's not my fault. This is a very narrow space and I don't know what you want me to do."

In the end the flight attendants never got involved, as someone behind me passed luggage over my head to the lady and the men.

At the time I thought I was in the right (I fly a lot for work). But the more I think about it, is that just how they do it in the US? If you're "ahead" in the rows, you retain the right to get off first even if you're not prepared? If that's the case, I understand why she was angry.

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Weighnow · 19/04/2024 14:36

I don't understand why anyone gets up until the doors are open. Then filter from the front/back and it's all calm and efficient. Your connection can't be that tight.

Whateveer · 19/04/2024 14:37

If people like you hadn't blocked the aisle there would be no problem in people grabbing their luggage.

Luxell934 · 19/04/2024 14:38

So you got your stuff and waited in the aisle but she's not allowed to do that? and then you spoke to people like they are children 😂

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What a about "connecting flight" was that hard to understand?

JennyBeanR · 19/04/2024 14:42

YABU, you caused unnecessary grief by not allowing her to get her luggage. Why is it ok for you to grab yours and stand in the aisle blocking the way?

Whatwillitbenext · 19/04/2024 14:42

GrumpyPanda · 19/04/2024 14:40

What a about "connecting flight" was that hard to understand?

It still doesn't make it quicker to do this. Let the plane empty then when you get off if you absolutely need to (if the connection is really tight) then run. I have lots of experience in this area, it's never quicker to queue to get off the plane.

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:42

Luxell934 · 19/04/2024 14:38

So you got your stuff and waited in the aisle but she's not allowed to do that? and then you spoke to people like they are children 😂

No, you've missed the point. Her luggage was down the back of the plane and it wasn't possible for her to get to it at that time.

And yes, I spoke to her like a child as she was having a tantrum like a child.

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Weighnow · 19/04/2024 14:45

Whateveer · 19/04/2024 14:37

If people like you hadn't blocked the aisle there would be no problem in people grabbing their luggage.

Yes, surely it makes much more sense for you to stay in your seat until the doors open, as your luggage was with you and met those who need to move about the cabin do so.

I think you were really rude. You could easily have re-taken your seat to get out of the way.

Luxell934 · 19/04/2024 14:45

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:42

No, you've missed the point. Her luggage was down the back of the plane and it wasn't possible for her to get to it at that time.

And yes, I spoke to her like a child as she was having a tantrum like a child.

Couldn't you have just moved aside and let her past though? Annoying to have people squeezing past but thats what usually happens.

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:45

Luxell934 · 19/04/2024 14:45

Couldn't you have just moved aside and let her past though? Annoying to have people squeezing past but thats what usually happens.

No, it really was that tight. It wasn't a wide plane.

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Weighnow · 19/04/2024 14:46

GrumpyPanda · 19/04/2024 14:40

What a about "connecting flight" was that hard to understand?

Come on, connecting flights aren't so tight that the last person off the plane would miss it.

Luxell934 · 19/04/2024 14:46

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:45

No, it really was that tight. It wasn't a wide plane.

But you could have sat back down in your seat?

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 19/04/2024 14:46

Whatwillitbenext · 19/04/2024 14:42

It still doesn't make it quicker to do this. Let the plane empty then when you get off if you absolutely need to (if the connection is really tight) then run. I have lots of experience in this area, it's never quicker to queue to get off the plane.

"It's never quicker to queue to get off the plane"

What do you think is quicker....

  1. Queuing to get to off the plane so you are (for example) the 10th person off.
  1. Sitting waiting for the plane to empty , then getting off last.
planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:47

Weighnow · 19/04/2024 14:45

Yes, surely it makes much more sense for you to stay in your seat until the doors open, as your luggage was with you and met those who need to move about the cabin do so.

I think you were really rude. You could easily have re-taken your seat to get out of the way.

Have you ever transited through LAX? I nearly missed the connection. If I had waited with the families and everyone else who hung back, I would have definitely missed it.

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InWalksBarberalla · 19/04/2024 14:47

Why didn't you move back into your seat?

Saschka · 19/04/2024 14:47

Luxell934 · 19/04/2024 14:45

Couldn't you have just moved aside and let her past though? Annoying to have people squeezing past but thats what usually happens.

She could probably have squeezed past OP and everyone else to the back of the plane to get to her luggage. I’m not sure she’d then have managed to push back past everyone again to get back to the front of the queue, this time also carrying a load of luggage. That’s the part that’s unreasonable.

BashfulClam · 19/04/2024 14:48

Weighnow · 19/04/2024 14:36

I don't understand why anyone gets up until the doors are open. Then filter from the front/back and it's all calm and efficient. Your connection can't be that tight.

Last time I waited to get off I then spent 3 hours in the queue for immigration at JFK…next time I’m using people’s shoulders as a human ladder!!

fieldsofbutterflies · 19/04/2024 14:48

Weighnow · 19/04/2024 14:46

Come on, connecting flights aren't so tight that the last person off the plane would miss it.

They definitely can be, especially if the original flight was delayed for some reason.

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:49

InWalksBarberalla · 19/04/2024 14:47

Why didn't you move back into your seat?

Because my luggage would still have been blocking the aisle anyway, I was in economy and the aisles were extremely narrow

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kelsaycobbles · 19/04/2024 14:49

So you could have sat back down and let her get her stuff but you wouldn't ?

That's mean

idontlikealdi · 19/04/2024 14:49

I've never understood why people jump up as soon as the seatbelt sign goes off

InWalksBarberalla · 19/04/2024 14:50

Saschka · 19/04/2024 14:47

She could probably have squeezed past OP and everyone else to the back of the plane to get to her luggage. I’m not sure she’d then have managed to push back past everyone again to get back to the front of the queue, this time also carrying a load of luggage. That’s the part that’s unreasonable.

And then the OP has one less person getting off the plane in front of her - making it quicker for her to get off.

idontlikealdi · 19/04/2024 14:52

I do agree with you about LAX though and I'm still bitter they took my airside LHR Bacardi and piz bin sun cream off me when I rechecked through. Pored them in a bin in front of me. I will do anything to avoid LAX and also JFK now.

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:52

kelsaycobbles · 19/04/2024 14:49

So you could have sat back down and let her get her stuff but you wouldn't ?

That's mean

See my other post, my luggage would still have been blocking the aisle.

I don't believe it was mean, because I believed at the time I had right of way. I was in the queue first and had my luggage ready to go.

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