Is this friend taking the piss?

[gailedit]

My friend and I visit each other with our children (5 years old) often, we usually alternate hosting.

No long ago we were at her house and they were talking about this juice they started drinking, which is on the expensive side. She diluted it with water for the 4 of us saying that is because of the sugar content but also to make it last longer.
Fair enough.

DD and I really liked the juice and started buying it. I didn’t want to dilute it for myself so DD asked to try it undiluted and she prefers that way too.

So next time the friend is due to visit, I tell DD that I will dilute the juice for the 4 of us because this is like how they drink it (and I didn’t want to create friction between friend and her DD in case her DD wanted the juice undiluted too.

So they came, and when is snack time DD explains (not my instructions, out of her own accord) that we like the juice undiluted but we will dilute it today because they are visiting.

So friend very quickly say ‘absolutely not’ since it is our house, they can drink it undiluted too.
Okay no problem.
And they really love it and keep having more. I serve in a jar so topped up when needed.

Then it was our turn to visit them again and to my surprise, friend serves 4 glasses of the diluted juice and that is it.

Then her DD blurts out that she is looking forward to come to our house next so she can drink lots of undiluted juice again😅

Friend was mortified and quickly changed the topic.

Btw, her household income is double than mine. But I appreciate she might have debt as she is always complaining about money and the price of things… for instance she complained that her cleaner uses too much product and should use more elbow grease lol.

I don’t have debt. Nor a cleaner.

Should I serve unlimited undiluted juice next time?

I would have forgotten to buy any juice next time. Whoops.

I’m only intrigued as to what this juice is that’s causing such an issue. 😬

Or serve lots of fruit with a cheery 'I thought this would be the healthy option' if questioned!

I wondered that too but was also slightly wary that this is a novel selling tactic so didn't want to ask 😂

I don't understand this at all. Surely you only dilute cordial type of juice, other juice is served as packaged as it's ready to drink?

That is why I didn’t reveal the brand but it is a slightly unusual brand and fruit

She dilutes this particular juice and apparently now all the other basic ones too.

Fuck me, I'm a boring sod and get stuck mulling over details sometimes, but even I couldn't get excited enough to remember or ruminate on this kind of thing more than a minute after it happened! Unclench op, it's fine ❤️
Ps, what juice ...? 😆

Is it pomegranate

Desperate to know what this juice is now 😂

Serve it however you like, and don’t sweat it when your friend serves it how she wants to. Or serve an entirely different juice and save the special juice for yourselves.

I don’t think she’s taking the piss, for what it’s worth. Sounds like you’ve actually got a lovely comfortable friendship there.

No, I don’t think they are being cf, as they haven’t demanded un- diluted juice at your house.

Friend respected what you do at your house, and continued with what they usually do at their house.

It’s one of those ‘out of the mouths of babies’ scenario where her dd blurted out preferring the undiluted stuff. Maybe she requested this from her mum and her mum refused.

so she hasn’t actually been a cf .

Just buy some cordial, why the fixation on serving this one juice?

I just think it is funny

It is. Kids eh 😄

I do this with Welch's purple grape juice as it's quite strong anyway but pricier than other juices. Is it that? I only buy it occasionally as a treat and as I'm the only one that likes it.

Your friend is a cheeky fucker!

But yes, I would just not have the juice (or just 1 portion of it) available next time. Hide it in the cupboard (or freezer or just in the garage or somewhere with an ice pack if it should be kept chilled) or just run out and top up after their visit.

Apart from the money issue your friend is right, multiple glasses of fruit juice is very sugary so nobody needs unlimited glasses of it.

If you are considering labelling your friend a CF over SOME JUICE, then your friendship has bigger problems. There must be some other reason you're giving this headspace.

I would buy a supermarket brand juice and serve that next time they visit.

You serve it how you want to, they serve it how they want to. Don't let juice spoil a friendship.

I'd probably get something different next time to avoid the issue altogether.

Fwiw my sister would let DC drink it undiluted at a friend's house because you r house, your rules, but is a sugar nazi at her house and all visiting children have sugar restricted, her house, her rules.

How on earth have you managed to get thr complete opposite from what OP said?

"friend very quickly says ‘absolutely not’ since it is our house, they can drink it undiluted too."

I.e she DID demand (or at least madeit impossible for OP to reject) undiluted juice at OPs house...and then encouraged her dd to drink loads of it, while only serving measles diluted portions at her own house.

I just wouldn't have it in next time they came.

That's a mighty long post on the subject of juice! Sorry, I have nothing else to offer on the subject 😅

Be a good hostess and serve your guests what they like.

I dilute fruit juice with water, and always have (as does my entire family). I find it claggy and not refreshing otherwise, and would need to drink water afterwards.

I actually thought that was normal?

I like to treat my friends generously, I don't keep tabs or play tit for tat over food/drink. That seems a miserable way to live.