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To refuse to let DD drink coffee?

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TheKeyToTheJungle · 18/04/2024 20:47

DD (13) is constantly asking me if she can drink/try coffee. So far I have been saying no because I don't want her to get addicted to it like I am, I have both DD and also a 1yo DS as well as a very demanding job and I just can't function without coffee because I'm always exhausted and need it to function. Coffee helps to keep me alert every day when I'm exhausted, honestly wouldn't be able to function without coffee. DH thinks that I should 'consider' letting DD try it but I'm worried that she will end up addicted like me. Aibu to not let DD drink coffee?

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ThisIsWhatIDo · 19/04/2024 11:19

I've been drinking it since I was about 9 or 10 (basically since I started making cuppas for my Mum & Dad) I think I used to have instant with a tonne of milk & 3 sugars 😂
on the real stuff now and have cut out the sugar😇

MissBedelia · 19/04/2024 19:01

BedBugs5 · 19/04/2024 10:12

I really don’t see the issue with coffee. Clearly she shouldn’t be having 10 espressos a day, but I’d have thought it was perfectly normal for teens to have a cup or two a day.

My DC frequently went out for coffee with friends around that age. Their school canteen also offered (caffeinated) coffee as an option at breakfast and lunch. Are we really at a stage now where teens have to be mollycoddled to such an extent?

Agreed. It’s bonkers what some people think about perfectly ordinary things. Like coffee

nothingsforgotten · 20/04/2024 00:13

KimberleyClark · 19/04/2024 08:35

We had one in the sixth form lounge in the 70s.

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I started drinking coffee at school in the sixth form, also in the 70s. I don't know if we even had it at home.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 20/04/2024 01:49

Gen X kid here’s…My mum’s favorite story to tell was at my first communion dinner (7 or 8 yo) our server didn’t blink when she ordered me a small glass of wine. But stopped dead in his tracks when I ordered a cup of coffee.

Gen X.. I started making coffee for my parents when I could reach the coffee maker around 5ish (my mum admitted my coffee was better than hers)… drinking it fairly regularly from about 7 on… by 12ish was a one cup in the morning kind of gal.

I’m still particular about it in the morning but 1 1/2 cups in the am on a typical day…one large cup of tea (16 oz) during the day… then a cup of tea or coffee at night before bed. All fairly average and in moderation.

No harm done… but clearly I would have been 12ft tall if I hadn’t started drinking coffee (that was the old wives tale when I was a kid… coffee would stunt your growth!)

VestibuleVirgin · 20/04/2024 06:41

fieldsofbutterflies · 19/04/2024 08:07

I'm not here to argue semantics.

We all know what people mean when they say they have a caffeine addiction - yes, technically they may mean they're actually caffeine dependent instead, but to most people, it means pretty much the same thing.

Caffeine is addictive in the sense that, for the majority of people, it wakes you up and makes you feel good. If you go without it you can get withdrawal symptoms from headaches to body shakes, to nausea and vomiting.

Oh, I'm so sorry to piss on your semantics parade.
But there is an important difference. And clearly some people here do not know the difference, so important that the difference is made,
Semantics are important

VestibuleVirgin · 20/04/2024 06:42

uncomfortablydumb53 · 19/04/2024 01:42

Meant to say Caffeine IS addictive

No it is not!

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