Clare's Law - police visit, normal?

[MyPerfectHotel]

I have had some issues with a relatively new partner (8 months) which have raised some concerns.

On the back of this I have made a Clare's Law application.

Within 24 hours the police attended my property unannounced for a safeguarding check. I have since received a telephone call and been given some information which has sealed the deal for me.

However they now want me to come into the station next week to discuss their findings. What will this involve? I am feeling nervous about finding out even more information or will they just go over the ins and outs of what happened with the 2 incidents they have reported to me?

Thank you in advance.

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[MyPerfectHotel]

I posted in a hurry and realised that my topic of thread was not very relevant to the questions I was asking.

I am wondering if this man is such a danger that it required an urgent safeguarding visit. People are telling me they usually ring.

[neverendingcold]

Why do you feel nervous? Are you worried you may be in danger when you break up with him?

[Pheeeeebs]

Do not meet up with the BF again!
Go to find out what you started to ensure you have all the information you need to keep yourself and any children safe.
If you do have children, then anticipate social care contacting you to discuss safeguarding the children. This seems very serious.

[ThePoshUns]

The police obviously thought your hopefully ex partner was high risk so did an immediate visit to give you some information. They will want to meet you for a proper meeting to be able to tell you his full history and also check you're ok and signpost you to any support you may need / want.

[Neighneigh]

Have they given you any advice on how to handle him in the meantime? Would you have been seeing him normally? I'd ask police what to do, to prevent him reacting in a way that puts you in danger.

[Singleandproud]

I would imagine it would depend on how busy the team are right now they may just havebeenin the area and fitted you in, they could have a local team policy to visit all people that make a request to open up doors of communication prevention is better than afterwards. He could be a right wrong'un who is very dangerous and you were a priority.

I'd be grateful, be gladI was ridiculous of him (you are right?) and go to the meeting with a open mind. I'd be surprised if they would give you case specifics but might want updates on you on his current behaviour etc.

[ThePoshUns]

Yes he is a danger hence the urgent visit

[Catza]

I don't think we will be able to answer any of these questions. Maybe they will let you know about other incidents, maybe there were no other incidents and they will give you more information about things you already know. Maybe he is so dangerous that it warranted a visit, maybe it is their standard procedure. Just wait to go to the police station to find out and make sure you look out for yourself and your kids in the meantime.

[Arlanymor]

I think they are doing their job really well, although I can understand that the fact your fears are confirmed is anxiety-inducing as is the speed at which things have happened.

I imagine they will discuss what disclosures they can under Clare’s Law, will ask you about the initiating incidents that led you to make the check and then outline what next steps you can take and how you will be supported.

You have done the best thing for yourself by seeking out this information. Let the professionals help you now and get yourself out of danger.

[MyPerfectHotel]

Have they given you any advice on how to handle him in the meantime? Would you have been seeing him normally? I'd ask police what to do, to prevent him reacting in a way that puts you in danger

They recommended I install a Ring doorbell. We have broken up but he is still continuously contacting me. I blocked him and now his Mother and Sister are contacting me.

I am grateful, I am sorry if it came across as I wasn't. I am just feeling very anxious at the moment.

[Roughlythisbig]

Follow their advice and keep your phone in your hand at all times. It sounds so stressful but hopefully the police can help.

[ap1999]

Access to PNC here .. multiple Claire's laws applications.. only the ones at high risk get this type of attention in my constabulary.. tells you all you need to know.

[Axx]

Maybe they want to check you've broken it off with him and that you're safe.

Thank god for Claire's law.

[DanielGault]

Trust your gut. You've had issues and concerns. And now this.

[Justkeepingplatesspinning]

They want to make sure you have the support you need and maybe signpost you to women's aid. Probably they want to do a safety plan with you. Likely they also want to find out from you the soft intel that made you ask for the Claire's law search.
I think this man is pretty dangerous for them to have turned up on your doorstep within 24 hours. They just don't have the resource to do that. As someone else said, thank goodness for Claire's law and glad you are safe.

[SideEyeSally]

I think it's perfectly natural that she feels nervous. She's basically had it confirmed that her ex, who is harassing her, is a potential danger. I don't pick up anything ungrateful in her post and find the first reply very odd and tone deaf. Well done on taking steps to be informed and protected OP!

[SpiritedFarAway]

It's completely normal, they either attend or ring.

However be aware that they will likely just give you the information about your ex and leave it with you - sometimes you may find out about previous DA which you may not be expecting which can be a bit shocking.

They can ask local womens aid services to check in with you, or you can ask for their details. Might help to talk things over and safety plan with them.

Also, not to sound like I'm being rude but her name was Clare (not Claire, no'i') just like to honour her and her name correctly

[idontlikealdi]

Did you mean to come across as awful in your opening sentence?

Op is likely shitting herself about a whole load of possible permeations of what's going on.

It sounds serious op. Can you get to Argos or somewhere this evening to get a ring doorbell?

[Beatrixslobber]

How about showing some understanding towards the op and shoving your positive vibes up your victim blaming backside….

[neverendingcold]

@Neighneigh

Have they given you any advice on how to handle him in the meantime? Would you have been seeing him normally? I'd ask police what to do, to prevent him reacting in a way that puts you in danger.

Yeah this I'd what I'd be concerned about.

[Beatrixslobber]

@MyPerfectHotel

Have they given you any advice on how to handle him in the meantime? Would you have been seeing him normally? I'd ask police what to do, to prevent him reacting in a way that puts you in danger

They recommended I install a Ring doorbell. We have broken up but he is still continuously contacting me. I blocked him and now his Mother and Sister are contacting me.

I am grateful, I am sorry if it came across as I wasn't. I am just feeling very anxious at the moment.

Block his mum and sister too.

Do you have anyone to support you?

[neverendingcold]

@MyPerfectHotel

Have they given you any advice on how to handle him in the meantime? Would you have been seeing him normally? I'd ask police what to do, to prevent him reacting in a way that puts you in danger

They recommended I install a Ring doorbell. We have broken up but he is still continuously contacting me. I blocked him and now his Mother and Sister are contacting me.

I am grateful, I am sorry if it came across as I wasn't. I am just feeling very anxious at the moment.

Oh god. You have every right to feel anxious. I would contact 101 if you're worried and he keeps contacting you/it gets nasty. Is it really his mother and sister or is it text based so you don't know.

Keep safe. Do you have a friend you could stay with until you manage to speak to the police?

[Maray1967]

I don’t know what the visit signifies, but I’d send a very blunt message to his mother that she and sister are not to contact you at all as the police are involved.

[Chunkycookie]

Thank fuck you did the Claire’s law, OP.

Take along evidence of him and his family contacting you so they can log it.