To think my friend shouldn't have eaten my burger?

[knowledgeablyclueless]

Out for dinner a couple of nights ago.

Me and DP, friend and her BF, and another friend.

All paying for our own food.

I ordered a burger but didn't finish it all, so offered it to DP. He said Yes please, but let me finish mine first.

Immediately after that, friend said 'Oh could I try a bite first?' - she ate about half of what was left, then proceeded to offer it to her DP, and when he said no, our friend.

AIBU to think this was fucking weird? Me and DP were both a bit like, Erm, wtf to say something at the time!

Ugh. How big was this burger that you were all passing it around the table and having bites from it?!

Definitely odd behaviour! Is she just greedy? A bit socially inept? Even with a close friend I don't think I'd eat their leftover food, especially a burger they'd half eaten 🤢

You were unreasonable to offer your leftovers to anyone at a table where others were eating. If you and your DP had been alone swapping around leftovers between yourselves would have been okay.

She also might have not really heard much detail at all ( noisy/ listening to someone else) but seen oP offering to OH and the plate/ burger not being transferred across to OH ( because he was finishing his). It could look as though he didn’t want it.

Personally I'd have no issue with this, happy to share food with friends and would expect my DH to say something if he was that bothered. We are talking about a few bites of a burger you didn't want, my friendships are too valuable to fall out over something so trivial. I mean, you could have said no to her trying it, but I'm thinking the reason you didn't was because it would've sounded petty...which in all honesty it is!

Christ I couldn't be arsed worrying about who ate some leftovers. Presumably you'd all had a meal so nobody was starving. If it was so important that your DH ate the rest of the burger then you should have either said no to the friend, or cut her off a piece.

So then why would she have said "can I try a bit first"?

Oh I didn’t notice that bit. Well I don’t know what she was up to then.

I’m struggling a bit now to summon up the requisite interest to think further about a leftover burger tbh…

Does friend dislike OH op?

Ah yes of course, hearing loss so significant (mistaking a "yes I want it" for the complete opposite) that she managed to participate in the whole conversation throughout the meal, without any issues, and the OP has never become aware of it throughout the whole course of their friendship but suddenly kicks in at this exact moment. Burger related hearing loss, thst well known phenomenon. Would you like a ladder for that excessive reach?

Except that the friend clearly did both hear and understand the DHs reply because she asked "can I have a bit first."

I can't believe the way this has kicked off 🤣 If only said burger knew what a phenomenon it has become.

Really? I mean, I will eat food my DH has taken a bite out of but only because we share bodily fluids. I wouldn't want a burger anyone else has been chomping on! Offering it to anyone other than her DP would have been weird and gross!

OP why did you give her the burger though?! Were you just so surprised that she asked that you didn't know how to say no?

She’s explained that, she thought she would take a bite then give it to her partner,

🤮

Op were you doing that thing where you pretend not to want to eat your food so you can give it to your partner?

is that why your friend made a point of them sharing it, as they all knew you weren’t eating so you could give it to him?

does he expect you to do that?

Yeah but that's gross. If my DH did that I'd be quietly fuming with him and pointedly not eat any of the burger afterwards and have a right go at him later 😆

Don't hurt yourself reaching like that!

Well it's apparently the size of the MN chicken that feeds a family for a week so of course people are interested!

Try to be more original…

Ew. It’s no wonder your dp chose not to eat it after your friend had had her mouth on it.

Her partner had the right idea and I bet he was cringing at being offered a burger that was yours and therefore he didn’t want a bite of. Made even more cringey because your friend actually thought your dp would still want it after she (and her partner if he had a bite) had a bite.

Honestly? Is this really worth a thread?

so so so so petty

I think it’s rude and weird! I wouldn’t want anyone to actually bite my burger, I would maybe have cut a small bite. And what’s so unusual about a burger that she needed to try it? If she was still hungry, she should have asked if she could have it. You know what to say next time she asks for a bite.

I think your friend is weird.

She’s really strange

Indeed what is this burger made of that so many people wanted to try it?

Perfectly normal I often leave food and only took glad to.ket someone finish it. I've even let strangers finish my meal before when they've asked.