To think my friend shouldn't have eaten my burger?

[knowledgeablyclueless]

Out for dinner a couple of nights ago.

Me and DP, friend and her BF, and another friend.

All paying for our own food.

I ordered a burger but didn't finish it all, so offered it to DP. He said Yes please, but let me finish mine first.

Immediately after that, friend said 'Oh could I try a bite first?' - she ate about half of what was left, then proceeded to offer it to her DP, and when he said no, our friend.

AIBU to think this was fucking weird? Me and DP were both a bit like, Erm, wtf to say something at the time!

OP, I feel like everyone has gone mad except you and me.

I would also offer to my DH and not 'the table'. I would assume that DP who is used to sharing saliva with me, and has a healthy appetite would be very happy to eat it, whilst non-family would rather not. Plus (minor point but...) you mentioned you were all paying for your own food which makes this a '@knowledgeablyclueless Family Burger'.

If friend wanted a bit BEFORE DP got his chops on it and you said 'yes', then she should have taken a bite and returned it to YOUR DP who had already staked his claim on it.

It was not 'hers' to pass around.

YANBU

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The responses show that many people often don’t read the OP well enough before responding.

Think I would have just cut a bit off for her when she'd asked to take a bite and then put the rest aside for dh.

Her behaviour was weird though. Almost seems like she was doing it to prove some sort of point? Has there been any incidents with food sharing before?

The burger version of Pass the Parcel. Yummy yum yum.

Your friend was bizarre. Greedy and bizarre, if she scoffed half of your otherwise claimed leftovers.

How did the third-hand burger offerees react? Who finished the burger?

Would your DP have wanted it after your friend had taken a bite?

I don’t think you are unreasonable for being annoyed and I understand why you would start a thread because I think I would be wondering why someone would do what your friend did and I’d be wanting an opinion on what is very bizarre behaviour.

Does your friend normally play pass the parcel with meals? Did she snatch it quickly before you had a chance to say your DP wanted it?

I often order a burger when we eat out at a specific place because they are lovely but huge, I save half for my DP and he orders a smaller meal then normal because he knows he’ll be having half of mine, if my friend attempted to take it from him he’d probably growl 😂. If he then had to watch it get passed round then I don’t think he’d be impressed at all and he certainly wouldn’t want it after someone else had their chops round it!

I don’t know why this has caused so much bickering amongst posters but it’s certainly been entertaining!

Anyone else think your friend must have misheard your DPs response? Miscommunication no?

Classic MN where people insit the OP is wrong and also don't properly read the opening post.

Look, op, your just plain wrong because I was there and you wasn't. It's not all weird handing around a hamburger that you all take bites from. In fact its very normal here to order a 6lb burger from McDs and we just pass it around, doesn't everyone? 🙄

We aren't big eaters so normally buy a kids happy meal and that fills up all 6 of us. We then pass what we couldn't eat around the in laws.

I hope you feel suitably gaslighted now. Also it wasn't HER oh, he's married to YOU. You just don't really know who your partner is. Very easy to make this mistake. I keep thinking I'm married to the postman ( these men all look the same)

Yes, she is very weird. I’m not even very germ adverse but a burger handled and bitten by one person would not be something I would choose to eat. Unless it was my husband.

Then she offered it around, that is so strange.

Yeah, the idea that everyone at the table is entitled to your food and you were rude to only offer it to your partner is weird af to me.

I even gasp offer to let my husband try some of my food/drink/dessert and don’t offer to anyone else because gasp he’s my husband and gets preferential treatment.

Why would it be up for grabs? She gave it to her husband.

I work with a really annoying woman at work. Every time I am eating anything (I try and eat secretly now) she comes up says ' what are you eating?' and without even asking dips her hand in and takes some. Pi**es me off so much. I don't even go in the staff room now and go and eat in my car instead.

So when she was offering it to her DP and other friend, where were you? Why didn't you say something?

Err no. Because she said "can I have some first" not "I'll have it" & the fact that she then offered it too her own partner & other friend suggests she was determined to finish it or expected them to pitch in & stop OPs partner from having it but was left high & dry with half a left over burger she'd just randomly munched on.

To requests like that I always say - sorry, do you want to share my toothbrush as well? I don't fancy mixing your saliva and mine. There is no way I would agree to 'sharing dishes' with people sticking their saliva-laden forks into a common dish or, perish the thought, double-dipping. Disgusting. Absolutely vile.

She sounds greedy and embarrassing. Who asks for someone's leftovers and then offers it around. Grim.

Agree. What a piggy

But why? Just why would someone be determined to stop OP’s Oh from getting a bite? It’s a half eaten burger not a trip to the Maldives.

Im sure she just misheard. She probably heard op offer it to her OH and when it seemed not to be taken up immediately, assumed he’d declined. Anything else is way too weird. Burger envy just isn’t a thing; half- eaten burger envy less so.

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If she misheard "Yes please, but let me finish mine first" as "No thank you, offer it around the whole table" then she needs to get her ears syringed.

It is weird. Eating a left over burger is weird (as opposed to left over chips that havnt been in somebodys mouth). Doing it in front of others is weird. Offering it too other people to have some of a left over burger is weird.

Some people are just weird. (Or really really hungry)

What kind of friend is this that you didn’t say anything?? I can’t think of a case where I wouldn’t be like ‘ah I’ve just offered it to DH’ or ‘Oi, what do you think you’re doing’

She offered to her own DP not to Op's Dp. People keep saying it was spare but OP asked her dp and he wanted it.

It was weird of friend to want a bite and then to offer to two other people.

😂😂

I'm very squeamish about food and hygiene so the idea of trying to eat while several people take turns with the same burger actually makes me queasy. YANBU.

Or maybe she has hearing loss that isn't wax related! Many people do