To think my friend shouldn't have eaten my burger?

[knowledgeablyclueless]

Out for dinner a couple of nights ago.

Me and DP, friend and her BF, and another friend.

All paying for our own food.

I ordered a burger but didn't finish it all, so offered it to DP. He said Yes please, but let me finish mine first.

Immediately after that, friend said 'Oh could I try a bite first?' - she ate about half of what was left, then proceeded to offer it to her DP, and when he said no, our friend.

AIBU to think this was fucking weird? Me and DP were both a bit like, Erm, wtf to say something at the time!

A lot of people seem to be struggling with reading comprehension...

Yes it's a bit weird

Presumably everyone else had ordered the food they wanted, so weren't starving either, so if OP's DH said he wanted it, why would it be 'up for grabs'?

Yeah, that's weird.

Unless she hadn't heard your DH accept it first?

So you and your DH paid for a meal each. You didn't want all your meal. Your DH presumably had a full meal.

I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to only offer my unwanted food to my DH and not my friends who I was enjoying a meal with just because DH and I had paid for it.

I would just say something like 'I can't finish this, you lot feel free to take what you like from my plate."

Aaaaah, missed that bit.

So she clearly knew your DH was having it.

DEFINITELY weird.

yes, because if I'm struggling to make ends meet I save money by going out for a meal in a restaurant.....

Passing a burger around for everyone to take bites from is very, very 🤮🤮🤮
Can't get past this bit of the story.
😂😂😂

I honestly don’t understand this mentality that if you don’t agree with everything a loved one says and does that “you obviously don’t even like them/ you don’t like them much do you”. Such an odd stance that I don’t believe many people would hold in real life if they’ve got at least half a brain cell. It’s just a nonsense line that gets trotted out on here because people would rather have a really unoriginal dig at the OP because they don’t have the ability to think of anything constructive to say. Either that, or people are just obsessed with making other people feel small because their lives are lacking. In reality, life doesn’t work anywhere close to like this. Rant over.

Well said, @ForestForever. There’s a friendship issue thread running at the moment where almost everyone agrees that the OP’s friend is a total arse - yet STILL someone has popped up with the “Oh, so you don’t actually like each other” guff.

It's a bit weird but I wouldn't have been able to summon up much outrage over it.

I don’t know why you said yes to your friend. I could understand your husband not minding eating something your chops have been around, but would he really want to eat something she’d been munching away on? 🤢

I don't think most of my friends would eat a burger that I'd been biting into. And I wouldn't want one from them. Chips, Yes. Similar things that don't require your mouth all over it yes I'd probably offer around. But a burger? Only my partner would I offer that to.

I'd also assume her friends had had a full meal not just her partner. So it wasn't like they were sitting there starving and she offered it to the only other person who had food!

Well I would never eat food from anyone other than my husband or possibly my teens.
I would think her odd to ask to be honest, seeing as she presumably knew your husband wanted it. The only way I wouldn't think her odd was if she mistook husband's reply as a no.

I’m honestly tired of seeing it, it makes me eye roll every time I see it because it’s so petty and ridiculous. Just have some originality for the love of God. 🤦🏻‍♀️ It’s like the over use of the term “Karen” by every half wit who can’t think of anything else to say, just don’t say anything at all then. 🙄

This is one of those situations for which ‘USE YOUR WORDS’ was invented.

I think it's odd that anyone would want to eat someone else's half eaten burger tbh.

But ultimately, you didn't want it so someone ate it. I really couldn't get het up over who finished off a half munched burger.

Your OH presumably didn't go hungry, since he had his own burger to eat, so the whole thing is weird, but of no real importance.

It's a bit yuck let's face it

As if your dh would munch that after two other people have had their mouths around it!

Can't you read? The spaghetti packet said on the front of it that it contained alcohol, the horse could have been poisoned!

Passing a burger round that everyone had had their hands and gob on is very very weird.

But do you know what's even weirder? Some of the bonkers replies on this thread.

I don’t really see the issue. You didn’t want it, your partner still had some of his burger left.

Why the fuck are none of you bothered about germs?!

... how big was this bloody burger ...?

And you/your DH would have been happy to eat if after she had taken a bite out of it?
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