Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

Why are they more attractive? You may be attracted to tall men but if you live in a society where the average man is 5ft 4 you are going to be very disappointed or limited.

Me 5ft6 four long term OHs in my life and they have gone 5ft8, 6ft2, 5ft10 current partner 6ft4 i didnt search for height i went for the person

But they wouldn’t be perfect if the person isn’t attracted to someone shorter than them. A man a few sizes larger wouldn’t be my soulmate as I don’t like ‘larger’.

I’m feeling incel vibes here. My DH isn’t 6’ and IDGAF. I care about his:

• kindness
• humour
• work ethic
• honesty
• shared interests with me
• education background similar to mine
• family dynamic background similar to mine

I grew up during the diet culture, where it was also very much norm that women shouldn't be bigger than men.

I'm also tall-ish and I would like man to be bit taller than me, and not too skinny. Same way than men might prefer curvy or skinny girls etc. It's only a preference, and a lot of people end up with someone who may not be 100% their physical preference but have other qualities.

I've seen this said on here as well when a short woman says she prefers tall men she gets told to leave the tall men for the tall women so it's definitely a "thing" 🤣 I'm 5ft 4 and this isn't an issue for me I have no trouble dating tall men (6ft+) because I find tall men prefer short women in my experience!

Is it definitely because you’re short rather than because you’re a bit of a nob?

My husband is 5ft 8 which is plenty tall enough.
How many men are even over 6ft anyway?

Back in a mo.

Google says 30% of UK men aged 25.
So I'm assuming it's less than that for older men.

Tbh I think the truth is men with an incel mindset who claim women only want X, Y, Z are inventing issues to avoid looking at their personalities, sense of entitlement and misogyny. I can't possibly be the problem, it's these 'females' with their demands, they owe me access to them how dare they reject me...

When I met my now DH I admit I did initially think he was a bit short to be my 'type', but I'm not daft enough to turn a date down for that reason! I don't think height is a deal breaker for many women really? He's still taller than me though, and tall enough to reach high shelves 😄

I'm 5'1" and my criteria was a man tall enough to stand behind me at a gig and still clearly see over the top of me, my DP is 6' and yes that was a "selling point" 🤗

I'm 5'9" and DH is 6', so he's a bit taller than me, same height if I'm wearing heels. He's actually said to me he wishes I was shorter! So maybe us tall ladies face prejudice also ;)

I'm really not that fussed about height, I only know one woman who was, and she was 5'3"! Not sure why it would be such a punishment for her to go out with someone under 6', but there you go...

I'm 5ft 11.

I don't find men shorter than me attractive

I'm 6ft. Same size or taller.

Can't help who I'm attracted to

Height has never been a pre-requisite for me. I’m only a little over 5 foot so if you are over 12 you are probably taller than me. My ex was 5 foot 7. My DP is 6 foot 3.

Yes, exactly, if you are referring to the UK the average height of a man is 5ft 10!!

Yes, this. The bumble study result is most likely due to tall women looking for taller men.

I'm 5'9 and I quite like short men. I don't like incels though, so bad luck OP.

Agree with PPs, no one can help what they find attractive. I've not come across anyone that has a "cutoff" height, just a preference for taller men.

I think women generally want a man to be taller than them, not necessarily over 6 ft. Younger women are taller generally though, so maybe that skews the dating sites.

DS is 5 11 but most people would describe him as 'tall' so if women only want over 6 ft they are missing out on men who are quite tall irl (some would probably lie and say they are 6 ft then the honest 5ft 11 ones would be overlooked )

It's interesting how many in here are saying they've never heard of it, or that they're surprised it matters, but I'd say a good 50% of comments in here are that they'd never date shorter, they like heels, they need someone to reach the top shelf, my husband is taller and I like it, tall men are more attractive...

So the OP does have a point.

But it does seem like it's one of those acceptable requirements. A woman saying she likes tall men is normal and not really questioned, a man saying he prefers big boobs is shallow. It's funny how there's a filter for one but not the other on dating sites! :)

This sounds a little bit like the rhetoric some men use where they think there's a conspiracy behind why women aren't interested in dating them.

I don't think I know anyone with a fixed line on height. If you connect with someone then you can connect and fall in love even if they don't tick every single physical preference.

Cos you don't see 50000000 million articles on the Internet about women complaining that men only want to date younger, slim blonde women with massive tits.

But God forbid women express one tiny little preference.

Height doesn't particularly bother me. But they would have to be taller than me...I'm only 5'3"

Op's point is that men have to be over 6ft. The responses on here saying "I want a man to be taller than me" is not the same thing.

This.