Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

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… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

I think a lot of women rule out potentially great partners for spurious reasons. At the same time, attraction doesn't yield to rational pleading.

I can't imagine someone citing height as grounds for divorcing a partner so, to me, it seems odd to use it as a strict selection criterion. Suppose a man was ideal and perfect in every other way - would you compromise on that one factor?

I'm not attracted to small men.

Don't like blonde hair either.

Small hands.

Men who smoke or take drugs.

How far we taking this OP?

Should I be finding a short arsed blonde small handed junkie?

Hi OP. Out of interest are you male and shorter than 6 foot tall?

Same here. I'm 5'3 so that's fine and I'm sure it would be fine if I was a bit taller too.

Of course there are many shorter men with partners, and I’m not saying “every” woman will only date a tall man… but in general, it’s difficult to deny that stats.

I’m absolutely NOT saying that women should date shorter men to be “politically correct”… Just wondering (for those who do prefer their men to be tall) how much it’s actually innate attraction, and how much is socialised.

I’m married and mid 40s I met my 5ft 8 husband 19 years ago in person so it is not a thing to me as I didn’t use an app.

surely it depends on statistics of your average height of a man in the country you live in. In the UK, I’m unsure of the average but I doubt it is as tall as the average in Denmark for example. It therefore seems a bit silly to have no context for this.

I used to think I’d only date a “tall” man, 5’10 plus (I’m 5’3), then I met my husband who’s 5’6 and I thank my lucky fucking stars every day that I decided to ignore my “criteria” and meet up with him. I was hooked from day 1. He is an absolute gem and pretty hot to match. We have a bloody wonderful life and we’re now married and trying for a baby after years of being single.

Translation: I really want women to "admit " how terrible they are for not fancying me, so I won't listen to their real life experience, just cherry pick so called studies that " prove" all women think a certain way.
Maybe it's the vibes you give off, mate?

No!

DH is 6ft4. I didn’t go out looking for a tall man. I’m 5ft 4 so he’s quite handy to have around tbh.

Among all my female friends, I only know one woman who has a height preference, the rest just want a decent man, height (and, in most cases, looks) are fairly irrelevant. My youngest daughter is taller than her partner, she towers over him in heels and neither of them care. I've always like a man the same height as me (5'6) because I don't like big men, makes me feel like I'm out with my Dad.

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men

Is this in real life or just on those sites with by odd, undatable men who look to blame women for their issues?

My husband is three inches or so shorter than I am, but I'm not going to nag other women about their preferences. I'm sure other people would cavil at the fact that I could not, under any circumstances, fancy a man who misused semi-colons, and that I would be unlikely to date someone without at least one postgraduate degree.

Because men are NEVER superficial in their dating choices......

Ffs, just because I posted this doesn’t mean I’m a short incel male! I’m not!
Taller men are more attractive in my opinion - I’m just trying to work out whether that’s just me, or society.

In my early 20s I sat on a barstool in a short skirt and high red heels... I got talking/chatted up by a man and sparks sort of flew...

I got off the stool and...he came up to my boobs...!

34 years and 3 beautiful DCs later we are still happily married...

It helped massively that neither of us had hangups about our respective 6ft and 5ft 3in heights...

But I honestly don't know what would have happened if I'd been aware of his height before he flirted and made me laugh.

He knew how tall I was because he told me he'd seen me walk in the pub...

He'd been told by his mates he didn't stand a chance with me...
He still makes me laugh 😂...

Someone up thread said that they couldn't date someone smaller because it would make them feel huge..but at 6ft I already felt/feel huge compared with everyone.

I’ve never dated anyone male who was shorter than me, but as I’m barely 5ft I haven’t seen that many to choose from anyway…

Of course they are… but I’m not sure how such whataboutery adds anything.

I'm reasonably tall and I wouldn't have dated someone shorter than 6 foot. 5'10" at a push.

I wouldn't date a man who was skinny or fat or with facial hair or tattoos either.

It's just personal preference as to what I find attractive.

It's not just you, but I don't think it is 'society' per se, perhaps biology.

I find tall men more attractive. I wouldn't rule out shorter men, and have dated shorter men. I'm 5'4 and have dated between 5'7 and 6'4. The 6'4 man is now my husband- not because of his height! But I do like it.

I don't think the question itself makes you sound like a short male incel, but there's something very unpleasant about the pseudo David Attenborough tone to it as if women are a wild animal species whose mating preference is to be studied and analysed...and tbh, this line really stinks: how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

I'm 5ft1 and remember a woman once telling me I was selfish for marrying my 6ft3 husband as it meant the 'pool' is smaller for women her height. I laughed and still don't know to this day if she was being serious.

People can filter for height on dating apps. I agree people should not have to date anyone they're not attracted to, that goes without saying. But if you met someone an inch shorter than you wanted he might turn out to be the perfect man. Just like a woman a few sizes larger than your ideal could be your soulmate.
I wonder how this impacts on men who are wheelchair users?

I don’t like skinny or fat. But not too muscly either. 😅 I hate tattoos. We can be as ‘discriminatory’ as we like when dating, regardless of reasons.

I’ve only read the first point on that article and skimmed the rest, but does it even say women prefer “tall” men as oppose to “men taller than them”? It even mentions 5 foot 9 as an average which is much below 6 foot!