Thinking that women would benefit if they were more open minded about height in a potential partner…

[Moonfishstar]

… and not write off the majority of men who are under 6 foot (85%).

Women seem to be fighting for a small proportion of men - with the disappointment that will inevitably bring to the many who inevitably won’t succeed. Of course, it’s even crapper for the good,
but short, men out there.

Of course, we all fancy who we fancy, and I’m not saying we should date shorter (or even average!) men out of pity or a “sense of fairness”, but how much of women’s desire to bag a tall guy is actually societal, and down to how they think other women will view them?

The objectively most attractive man on earth is about 5’6”/7” ish. If you don’t know who that is I can’t help you.

But your very tall though.

IME when younger, female friends teens, early 20s went for more pretty boys, at the time it was Band members of Blur so quite pretty men, men that were cool with music tastes and could talk about interesting things like Art and politics but the biggest attraction point was definitely humour and if they could make you laugh. I think it is in no way an arbitrary 6ft and that will do, attraction is more dynamic than that imo, a boring 6ft man is just that.

I find a partner being taller than I am really awkward, to be honest. Hard to have a conversation or kiss if you're constantly on tiptoe.

You’re not ‘your’

Rishi is not dishy.

DH is about same height as me I'm 5 ft 6 he's 5 ft 6.5. Kids have ended up about our height DD1 same DD2 few inches taller and DS about my height.

I'm not a big heel wearer due to own issues but I think DH being noticeable smaller than me - I may have found that off putting though not sure why.

IL are odd about height - FIL inordinately proud of being 6ft - yet own Dad and paternal GF were so it seems not such a big thing to me. Their comments over years have led me to worry about DS height a bit - though recently family event older ladies kept coming up and remarking on how handsome he was and he doing well academically and aiming for a well paid career - so hopeful.ly a non issue.

I did see data from decades back in USA that height and seniority and pay were related - but not sure that holds here or even there now - quick search found this:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1184250/Size-matters-comes-salary-Tall-men-highest-earners.html

I think dating apps add extra blocks but not sure it's clear how successful they are anyway.

im 5”4 and my DP is 6”1. If anything I would prefer if he was a bit shorter. 5”10 is probably my ideal, but I wasn’t going to rule him out for being “too” tall, same as I wouldn’t rule someone out for being “too” short. It’s merely a preference.

I think it’s more of a thing on OLD than in the wild as you have nothing to go on other than a couple of photos and a few facts such as age, location, height. It’s human nature when faced with a sea of options to filter in some capacity so height is a common one. I doubt many women are meeting attractive, friendly, funny men in bars but saying no thanks you are an inch shorter than my criteria

Tom cruise is a creepy twat and would be one if he was 10ft tall.

What's being challenged here is the must be 6ft tall bit. I don't believe it is true women are only interested in men who are at least 6 feet tall.

If the op had said straight women are generally only or at least are more interested in men who are taller than they are, I'd agree. I think a significant number of straight women do prefer men who are as tall or taller than them. Prefer does not even mean would not date if shorter though.

But the whole must be six feet tall or not interested claim?

Nah.

I've dated shorter and taller men. I agree that as a society, men who are shorter than their partners should not be emasculated or ridiculed.

However in my case most of the stick came from his friends. It then made him uncomfortable if I wore even the smallest heel. Eventually he didn't want me socialising in group sessions with his friends and their partners.

Safe to say I left him.

I would suggest that it is insecurity that is more unattractive to women, rather than small stature.

6ft was more illustrative of my point that we tend to prefer tall men, whether we classify that as 5’10 or 6’2 is by the by.

All other things being equal, anyone who thinks that a 6ft guy wouldn’t get tons more attention that a 5’5 guy is deluded… That’s not making a moral point, it’s just how it is.

She couldn’t have meant Rishi could she. 😮

Ha - I bloody hope not! I have heard he's short, but that's not the reason he's unattractive. Wonder who this small but objectively attractive man is.

Or that they don't make logical sense and must be ingrained by society or a result of trying to one-up other women, because women don't have inherent individual desires.

I expect most women do prefer a tall man in the same way most men would prefer a superfit and very naturally beautiful woman. Most of us are aware that we're not physically perfect and that in a long term, mature relationship, while attraction is important, other things matter more than our partner embodying every physical preference and fantasy that we have.

Ok, I concede on the 6ft thing - being taller seems to be the main thing - but being that height does give you an advantage I believe than those who are 2 inches shorter than the 5’10 average at 5’8.

Oi. My husband is 5ft 8 and he's perfect just the way he is thank you very much 🤣

I suspect op is a small man.

I'm 5ft8" and my lovely DH was 5ft6" when we married but now that he is older he has shrunk a little. I'd say I'm about 5" taller than him now. Doesn't bother me one jot.

I think you need to change your thread title to men would benefit tbh. Who are you to tell women what they should find attractive or not OP?

maybe all the men under 6ft can identify as taller and then we’ll be told to accept that ludicrous lie too

Oh god definitely not Rishi 🤢

How many men would be happy being in a relationship with women a lot taller than them? I've only ever been with 1 person who was smaller than me and that was only by a tiny amount.

I wouldn't be happy being half a foot taller than my partner and I can't see the man being happy with me being half a foot taller than him! It's shallow I suppose.

True. It seems to be a non negotiable for many men. The whole a man should be taller than the woman he is with thing works both ways.

I've dated men from my own height up to 6'3". I don't think about height when I get to know someone, I think about whether I fancy him.

And if I don't, then I don't. I can't help it.

I'm 5'9 and my wife is 5'2 - no problems here.

I worked in an office with this, how shall we say, facially challenged bloke, who thought he was irresistible to women JUST because he was 6'3. 😬 Height isn't everything.

Ok sure, if you change the whole premise of your post it might make a bit more sense. Sure.

Glad we cleared that up for you.

I'm 5.9.. DH is 5.5.. I've always dated shorter guys. No particular reason, I just liked who I liked.
Could also be said for men who don't date tall women.. also a thing 🤔