He leaves his chair out most of the time after a meal .
… drive s me mad .
I have asked and asked that he put it back - remind him
most days- or many days -sometimes call to him upstairs to come and put it under.
it infuriates me beyond measure !
it feels inconsiderate to me .
Its silly but it really stresses me out now - i have developed a learnt reaction and i get angry.
does it really matter?!!
dh says he tries but forgets daily.
he is semi retired so this can happen 3 times a day at meal times ultimately.
he has suggested that i “ work on my reaction” ( it is ott)
and
that he does not use the table - which will affect out life !!
my thought is you are a grown man and you can put a chair under a table !!!
he also moves the coffee table daily and does not put that back either. Every day or many days i move it back.that bothers me less.
AIBU?
Dh - his annoying habit .
Notanana · 16/04/2024 08:14
Am I being unreasonable?
746 votes. Final results.
POLLCurlewKate · 16/04/2024 08:44
I think many posters are missing the point. It's not that he leaves his chair out. It's that the OP has asked him not to and he still does it. It a very easy thing for him to do. It may not bother you or him, but it bothers her. So he should do it without even thinking.
cooldarkroom · 16/04/2024 09:02
Matthew Fray's article (about his wife divorcing him because he left dishes by the sink) comes to mind.
Its not the chair, its the lack of love & respect that makes it a problem
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CurlewKate · 16/04/2024 09:06
@Notanana "But - i know he wd say if you want to leave over something so ‘ petty’ .. then that is bonkers."
So tell him "If it's that petty, why not just do it?"
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