I moved into my grandma’s home a couple of months ago, with my partner and our 6 month old baby. This is because I’m on maternity leave and my DP is training to do something else career wise, so we’re having to be careful with money. We were hoping to be here until September..
My grandma offered and said we could stay for as long as needed, we are so appreciative as we didn’t have much option other than to rent and hammer into savings.
Since we’ve lived here, my mental health has plummeted. We try to keep the house as tidy as possible with a 6 month old, I cook a nice home made meal every night for us all, do the shopping and be as respectful as possible but can’t help but think she is always trying to pick a fight. I feel as though I’m walking on eggshells constantly.
She makes hurtful comments often, she said I was fat because my jeans don’t fit after having the baby, said I care about no one but myself as I wasn’t sending photos of the baby fast enough to other family members, she watches like a hawk and will make comments about what I’m doing with the baby, how I’m weaning her etc. I’m so fed up.. last night she screamed at my partner because the baby woke up crying and he ran into the living room to turn the monitor off and said he didn’t want it to disturb her TV… she said she thought he was being funny with her. AIBU to think she’s being a bad person as she’s letting us live in her home and we’ve turned it upside down as a family???
AIBU?
To think a family member is being awful, although we’re living under their roof?
PeachyGreen95 · 16/04/2024 07:42
Am I being unreasonable?
834 votes. Final results.
POLLBubziOwl · 16/04/2024 08:37
There's being stressed by new living arrangements, and then there's calling a new mother fat.
Get out of there as soon as you can would be my advice OP.
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PeachyGreen95 · 16/04/2024 11:07
I really appreciate your messages… of course I understand the stress it has had on her too. We’re trying to be as respectful as possible.. but the constant digs and comments are getting to me. I am also navigating motherhood and this can be full on. Someone mentioned she wasn’t gaining anything financially.. my partner earns an amount during his training which is going directly to her for housekeeping and we also pay for the shopping for the household. I agree that the best thing to do would be to leave as it seems to be taking a toll on our relationship. I knew she could have ‘no filter’ prior to moving in but didn’t think I would be under constant scrutiny.
it would have been ideal to stay for a couple of months until I return to work but I don’t think this will be doable …
PeachyGreen95 · 16/04/2024 11:07
I really appreciate your messages… of course I understand the stress it has had on her too. We’re trying to be as respectful as possible.. but the constant digs and comments are getting to me. I am also navigating motherhood and this can be full on. Someone mentioned she wasn’t gaining anything financially.. my partner earns an amount during his training which is going directly to her for housekeeping and we also pay for the shopping for the household. I agree that the best thing to do would be to leave as it seems to be taking a toll on our relationship. I knew she could have ‘no filter’ prior to moving in but didn’t think I would be under constant scrutiny.
it would have been ideal to stay for a couple of months until I return to work but I don’t think this will be doable …
saraclara · 16/04/2024 08:12
She probably offered this to be helpful, without appreciating how stressful she would find it to have two adults and a baby in her home for an extended period
That. I adore my kids and my grandkids and see as much of then as I can. But I'm used to living alone quietly, and I'm as sure as I can be that even a week of having them live with me would be really hard.
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