To think this is a perfectly fine evening meal?

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Had porridge at about 7am this morning and have been busy all day. Have just made myself tea (see pic) and my aunt (who is staying with me for a few days) has made me feel really bad about it - apparently it's too much food and a "greedy meal"

Aibu to think it's fine as an evening meal?

It's four new potatoes, boiled and crisped in the pan with a little olive oil (not how I'd usually have them with a salad type tea, but they were still a bit hard!), two slices of cheese, a tablespoon of fat free cottage cheese/coleslaw, two slices of ham, and a bit of salad cream (plus the salad leaves)

It's sounds like your Aunt was saying that you put too much food on her plate and she would have preferred a smaller portion? My MIL would have only eaten 1/4 of that.

That's 500 cal at most, a very nutrious light meal imo.

You had a good low cal day then ;)

Your aunt sounds a bit rude. I think a bowl of porridge and your dinner isn’t much to eat all day. You

Have you tried the promise gluten free bread from Sainsburys and the Sainsburys GF crusty cob. I’m not GF but my husband is coeliac and both of those are lovely.
your tea looks perfect by the way

Perfectly normal, even if you had eaten both lunch and tea. Tell your aunt to mind her own business.

Competitive undereaters need to do one. Hope you enjoyed your tea. I love a salad dinner like that!

If that will fill you it's absolutely fine!

You are being unreasonable eating 'low fat cottage cheese' (shudder)

LONGLEY FARM

Im shouting because everyone seems to eat the abomination that is low fat cottage cheese these days.

In fact, if Im not mistaken, I think shops dont even label it low fat anymore, they take it as read that this is how it should be. NO, thats not how it should be.

Full fat please.

I hope this is the last time you will have her to stay?

that's not her plate its the OP's

Oooh congrats on the new allotment.

your aunt is being rude ! And weird about food

and doubly so if you’ve been outside working allotment all day - I would have been starving !!!

Grown adults should not be policing other grown adult's food by act or words.

Regardless of the size or composition of uour meal, your aunt is a dick.

Def average. Not loads. Having missed lunch I would probably end up eating crisps or chocolate later too. Your aunt must have very low muscle mass (often happens to the elderly then they start thinking a piece of asparagus is too much. They don't need to comment though!)

@soupfiend YES ! The best Cottage Cheese.
I like it with pineapple. Then chop a bit of pickled beetroot in for good measure.

Needs some pickled onions.

Nothing wrong with it at all - tell her to stop trying to push her unhealthy ideas around food on to you - cheeky cow 🤣

Looks like a balanced meal, especially if all you had that day was porridge. Carbs, protein , fibre, not too much ultra processed.
People have many different eating habits, maybe your aunt has a larger lunch and a teeny evening “tea” rather than substantial dinner.
It is so rude to comment uninvited on anyone’s food choice. Many threads on MN about similar but in other spaces (work lunchtimes, family meals out etc. Comment like these are how bad eating habits and poor self esteem begin.
Suggest the MN favourite “did you mean to sound so rude?”

I agree, I have eyes that can weigh common foods like bread, cheese, nuts and measure a table spoon, however on that point, I find tablespoons a bit of a ball ache because my 'measuring spoons' which apparently are the right measurement are no way near as big as my big metal 'tablespoon' in the drawer.

I use my proper spoon to measure out oil and whatnot so I suspect Im having 2 tablepoons not one each time. I really need to do a proper comparison

OP’s meal isn’t a “big” tea in the slightest.

The competitive under-eating on this website is actually insane.

I'd have something to say about her saying it is a greedy meal. That's spiteful. Your plate looks delicious.

Oh my god, love this

I had a big dollop the other day with aubergine curry. Surprisingly good.

Your meal looks tasty and balanced with appropriate portions especially as your only other meal was porridge.

Aunty needs to pipe down. Your plate looks perfect.

In fact OP, isnt this 'high tea' that I keep reading about on various threads, there seems to be a plethora of threads about 'high tea'

Or tea, as I know it

I like your high tea, its very 70s, but as you said, egg next time for the full retro vibe.

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