Prostitute checked into our hotel!

[GrumpyL]

Ok, so away in London for a couple of days with DH and DD (10). We were staying in a 4* Hotel which is part of a large chain of hotels, not a small independent. We went to reception about 10.30 on the 2nd morning and was met with a lady (who was very obviously a prostitute) being told her room would be ready in 5 mins and her handing over £100 in cash to the receptionist. The hotel is £250+ a night and check in is 3pm!

AIBU to this this made the hotel feel a bit icky and sleazy after I saw that? Husband and I spoke briefly when DD wasn’t listening and he said “well they have to work somewhere!”. Not sure if I’m turning into a prude in my old age, but I really didn’t feel comfortable in the hotel after I saw that. I’m sure for her, it was a safe and comfortable place to work and I know this goes on in hotels, I suppose just seeing it in broad daylight shocked me a bit. We knew what she was there for, the receptionist knew what she was there for, the man behind us in the queue knew what she was there for, maybe I thought she and the hotel should have been a bit more discreet if they allow this to go on in their hotel, especially when it’s a family friendly hotel and there were a lot of children around?

I am so tired of entitled parents acting as though all of society must cater to them and their children! OP, if you want family friendly, go to disney. 🙄

Wow. So you see women being used in this way as tantamount to consensual sex?

Now in the hotels are these to purchase or to borrow

I imagine most rapists’ mothers, daughters and wives think that.

Many rapists are otherwise normal men.

Don’t be so naive.

Quite. You're not going to know who's who. People have sex in hotels. Shocker.

I agree. He'd paid his N.I for years to get that. It's not taxpayers money, it's his right. When will people stop thinking that pensioners are spending THEIR money. Who paid for schools, doctors etc when they were younger and not earning anything!

Seems the op isn’t keen to explain why she’s decided the woman was a sex worker. I suspect because she knows full well she’s been judgey and people would point it out.

It's amazing how some people seem to be unaware that there is a cost of living crisis going on for part of the population...

I’m wondering if it was me! Around the same time today I checked in to a London hotel for £250 to get a room for my boyfriend and I. I dressed a bit sexy/slutty today too. We went up there and had sex for 3 hours and then both went home. The reason I checked in during the day is because both of our children are at home at the weekend and we need to find somewhere to have sex.

The PP is JOKING

If it's what you are, you shouldn't be offended.

Id just get a lock on my bedroom door 😆 cheaper and all that.

I am so sick of people who are openly hostile to children and their parents being on mumsnet.

Used to work in hotels as a housekeeper. Believe me, every second men buying prostitute. And 80% of them will come back in next work trip with wife and kids. Or even sleep with prostitutes one week and then beg to change sheets and deep clean room in 15 mins because his wife visiting. Then ordering expensive champagne, lots of shopping and the same evening after wife is leaving - prostitute again.
All hotels have "trusted" prostitutes which they recommend for guests, sometimes prostitutes paying £100 for reception for "referall". Yes, prostitutes will get priority even in fully booked hotel because they are the reason rich mens will pay for expensive rooms, will order lots of drinks, etc.

There are some hotels that do day rentals for when people travel.

Have you considered it may just be a woman who had been at an all night event, who was renting a room at a day rate to get some sleep and a shower before travelling home later that day?

The PP didn’t call it sex work, nor did she say it was cool. She said it was a safe environment, which compared to the street it surely is. So if the woman WAS a prostitute her choice to work there is understandable, isn’t it.

I use the term prostitute because I object to the term sex worker, which has been adopted for political reasons to make an inherently exploitative business seem mainstream. Trafficking and abuse of women iin prostitution is common. There has been research in countries were prostitution is fully legalized and ‘above board’ which has shown that the prostituted women there have as high, or higher, levels of disassociation from their own bodies than child sex abuse victims. And even for the small minority of high earning prostitutes who can choose a small number of clients they are safe with and freely do choose that work, I still object to prostitution as I have a strong principled objection to a society where men are able to buy intimate access to women’s bodies. That is something that I strongly believe no one should be able to purchase.

So away with your sneering about old fashioned. I’d rather have looked into and thought about issues and make my decisions based on that, rather than on what’s ‘fashionable’.

YES AGREE TOTALLY

@theduchessofspork I fully apologise if that's what it was! I was on the fence with the post but might have taken it the wrong way.

"day use" is mostly for sex with mistress or prostitute. 1 in 100 will pay for room to have a shower and a nap before flight.

I'm surprised you didn't add the other hackneyed MN phrase " and no one bats an eyelid"

The "sex work" vested interests have clearly done good work on you that so can be so casually blasé about exploitation.

You had a much better day than me schlepping around kids sporting activities not jealous at all

but you can hire a room for a few hours. it’s not dodgy. i arrive at heathrow at 730am and my onward flight is not until 430pm. i can rent a hotel room at the “day rate” from 9am to 5pm and have a shower, sleep and room service. it’s a thing.

My friends husband was a very attentive son and visited his father very frequently. It involved an overnight stay. She assumed he was staying with his father. He wasn't. He booked the same Premier Inn everytime and was visited by a sex worker the evening he arrived. Sometimes she stayed all night to service his needs again before checkout.
My exhusband attempted suicide in a Travel lodge and the cutting of his wrists made a huge mess in the bathroom. That was several years ago. He succeeded in killing himself a few weeks ago. That was in a Double tree Hilton. He used pills and huge amounts of alcohol. The mess in the bathroom was horrendous as his stomach ulcer burst at the same time. Honestly Op people do all kinds of things in hotels and a lot of it involves bodily fluids. If you dwell too much on what's gone on you'd never stay in one.

I'm disgusted. I don't stay at hotels to have sex. I would be disgusted to have to sleep.in a bed where people have had sex. I don't care if they are married. I should not have to be subjected to the idea of people having sex. I hope you and your husband didn't have sex in the hotel, or even within 72 hours of arrival. Don't deny it. I can tell.

’They’re hardly rapists if they’re paying good money for it’ Wow. I’ve heard some pig ignorant bollocks in my life but this goes above and beyond. Have you got any idea how many women are forced into prostitution? Have you ever spoken to a victim of trafficking? What they have inflicted on them many times a day is always rape. Always. And let’s not pretend that the men who pay to rape them don’t know about it. Every adult in the UK knows about victims of trafficking being forced to work as prostitutes. They know that there is a very large chance that they are paying to rape someone. There’s an equally large chance that they are taking advantage of a woman who finds herself in a desperate situation and has no other option. They know this and they simply don’t care.

Personally, I think the OP is being insane. But don’t make out like these men are morally sound, thoroughly decent blokes. Because they aren’t.