When did it become a thing to bring your dog to other peoples houses ?!

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DH & I bought a house last year & have been really enjoying having friends / family over - but I’m getting soooo fed up of people asking / assuming their dog is invited too!!

I spent all of last Saturday cleaning my house & then friends bought their dog along so I had to reclean the whole house the next day to get rid of all the dog hair etc. I even found dog hair in my bed the next day 😱

We even had a friend who bought some manky sausages & asked us to cook them for the dog!!! I was trying not to gag.

I’ve started trying to say no, but find people take it soo personally if you don’t embrace their dog too. We’ve also had friends say they can’t leave the dog so would have to cancel (an hour before they were due to arrive) so I feel like my hand is being always being forced.

Has this always been a thing ??!! AIBU to think it’s rude and you should leave your pets at home.

Let them cancel. I will not have dogs in the house. Even before we got our cat it was still a blanket no to dogs in the house. Now my cat would actually try and attack them so it is an easy no.

Just say no. Say no every time, and they won’t keep asking.
I don’t let any dog in our house, a) we have a cat b) Ds is allergic c) I just don’t want dogs in my house.

Wouldn't take mine to someone house, unless They were invited. Just like anywhere else I wouldn't either.

It's not a thing. It's your friend's, they cf and rude. You ask if you can bring your dog.

This has never happened to us before. It’s rude and I’d not be having a dog in my house.

While yanbu and I wouldn’t do it it’s true they possibly wouldn’t be able to visit/stay as long. Never had anyone bring their dog!

It's rude to bring them without asking first.

In my family when I was a kid, my aunt and uncle always brought their dog to visit us and my grandparents, and we did the same with our dogs. That was in the 80s and 90s! But everyone liked dogs and everyone was pleased to have them visit. Obviously we wouldn't have taken them to visit people who didn't want them there.

Definitely rude not to ask! And cooking for a dog?! Good God, you’d should have drawn a line there.

I'm a dog lover, but YANBU, it's very rude to assume. OK to ask though, in some situations eg. used to take mine to close family barbecues, with clearance. My family are dog lovers though. Definately OK to say no, regardless of the situation. Stay firm.

I take my dog to my mums and nans. Sometimes my friends if we're going to be there a while. But never unannounced.

It doesn't bother me if people bring their dog to ours if they have asked before hand and they get on with our dog, and don't chase cats and are generally well behaved.

No of course it's not 'a thing'.

I'm surprised you even think it might be.

You just know some very strange/rude people.

We have a couple of friends who (with agreement) bring their very well trained dogs with them when they come to stay for the weekend, but local friends have never just brought them round when they've been round for an afternoon or evening.

To be honest I wouldn't much mind, especially for a summer BBQ when we'd predominantly be outside but the dogs would be restricted in where they could access. Having said that, our friends dogs are very well trained and friendly. I would have a very different opinion if they weren't!

It’s your friends. Also, how many people do you know with dogs?! Really rude and entitled to just assume that their dog would be welcome and then cancel an hour in advance, also presumably they’re not keeping these pets under control at all if you are even finding dog hair in your bed following a visit.

It’s not a thing, you need to have a conversation with the friends who keep doing it, that you don’t want and will not have dogs in your house.

Wow. I don't know if this is a thing but people seem to be becoming more selfish and entitled generally, so maybe it's iust part of that!

DM always used the dogs as an excuse to leave, as in: "Labradors will start eating the kitchen if I don't go home now. Thanks so much for having us".

So rude.

A colleague brought her dog into work a few weeks back and now we’re all being bitten by fleas.

Grotesque.

You are NOT being unreasonable at all. It has happened to us only once. We simply told them that sorry but we don't want dogs at our house and off they went.
This situation with dogs that we describe is another demonstration of the skyhigh level of entitlement of many individuals in todays society. The whole "I go as I please and you MUST adapt to my circumstances".
Well, fuck you and, in this case, fuck your mongrel. This is my house and I don't want no cur running around and putting its paws in my bloody sofa or my childrens toys.

I would not have a dog in my house. I actually like dogs but my house is dog free and that’s that. I would just say no.

Tbf family are the worst offenders ! We insist the dogs stay downstairs but I just feel the hairs get stuck to you and end up everywhere

I think it has become a thing as the OP says. Never ever growing up would anyone bring their dog to your house. Just maybe if it was family or if you happened to be out walking. But then again not many people put their dogs in cars than either.

It’s not a thing. I would never take my dog to somebody else’s house without it being invited and don’t know anyone who would, I have never had anyone turn up with their dog without checking either. You must know an unusually large number of rude people.

I've wondered about getting a pet crocodile and then if people ask if they can bring their dog I can say "Oh yes please, Snappy will love to meet it

Say no. If I wanted a dog in my home, I'd get a dog. It's okay to say no.

It's just rude to take your dog unless the dog is specifically invited.

She has a standing invitation to family houses though, and her own bed and toys there....