Would you be offended if your Bil picked you up?

[Stressedjustthinkingaboutit]

If you were flying to visit your sister on your own with your kids to another country. Would you be offended if her other half came to pick you up at the airport and drop you at your hotel?
Reason being, it’s at night and your sister is doing bedtime with their dc, would this bother you? Or would you expect your sister to be the one to come?
They will see each other the next morning

I'd be glad I was getting a lift , unless there is some sort of issue with bil?

I'd be grateful for the lift. Wondering why you didn't just book a taxi?

BiL often picked me up. DS was a terrible driver. When I went to the States recently, my friend’s husband picked me up at the airport. When friends come to stay, DH often goes to collect them. I really don’t see the problem.

Wouldn’t cross my mind to be an issue

@Boredwiththinkingofanotherusername Saves money for her 🤷🏻‍♀️

You can just explain that DH is doing this pick up as you picked up parents and that you need to cook for parents and put dc to bed.

Fair enough 😀

Though I do stand by my assertion - and I would also say that in this situation relative strengths don't matter. It's not a case that "well, my husband is more musical so if one of us has to play in a band it'll be him" (Silly example but I think you know what I mean.) But in this case you don't need to be particularly "good" at driving - if you meet basic standards of competence- which I'll assume you do if you drive regularly- there's no reason to defer to your husbands "superior" skill.

I'm still wondering how long the drive to the airport is.

@Zonder 30 minutes, why?

Because, clearly, the distance you're having to drive is key to assessing how much of an effort the drive is. Don't be obtuse.

If it was a four-hour round trip, I for one would be a bit more understanding of the "but I drove it yesterday and I'm tired" excuse (and honestly, yes, I do think that's a poor show.) But half an hour each way is nothing, and it would contribute to my disappointment that my sister couldn't be bothered to inconvenience herself for an hour to greet me.

Yeah, a half hour drive is nothing. I'd feel like you can't be arsed.

What @candyisdandybutliquorisquicker said. Seems like a sensible question to me @Stressedjustthinkingaboutit

It's not just half an hour in itself though. It's half an hour each way plus kids to deal with and other guests.

If I were her sister, I'd have been expecting to get a taxi or a bus, so a lift from anyone would be something to be grateful for, not to complain about because my first choice of driver wasn't available.

It’s not just a half hour, it’s half hour there, parking, waiting, bags away, 20 ish minutes to the hotel, drop, bags etc, 30 minutes or so back home

It's not really about complaining about it tho. Would I be offended, annoyed or complain about it? - no.

Would I feel a bit hurt/disappointed? - yes. I'd probably be hopeful of getting met and welcomed by my sister.

Being grateful for a lift doesn't exclude feeling a bit disappointed as well. Emotions are complex. 🙃

OP, you just don't want to make the effort to see your sister when you can see her the next day. As you can see from the responses here, some people would be disappointed, some wouldn't care. If she is disappointed, talk to her about it. But stop with all of the "but what about..." Just own it.

I would be delighted anyone would turn out at 9pm ish to pick me up

You sound very thoughtful OP

have a lovely time with your family

I might be a little disappointed not to see her when I landed. With that said, you'll see her soon so suck it up.

better than a taxi

I wouldn't be offended and would be glad of the lift

I wouldn’t be offended at all.

Unless my bil and I had a really really poor relationship and this was we'll known, then I would have no issue with it. A lift is a lift.

Get a grip

Please put all relevant details in your OP if you want accurate, honest answers about what posters would do/think/say in any given situation, otherwise what's the point of posting as it's just a waste of everyone's time.
You've given info out in dribs and drabs throughout this and not everyone reads updates - some only read the first post and give their opinion based on that one post. If they don't have all the facts in that first post then they can't give you an accurate answer! I've seen a few threads like this lately where an Op is asking "what would you do?" etc but only vague details are given in the opening post.

As for collection at the airport I'd be grateful for any lift so no, I wouldn't be offended. If I hadn't seen my sister in a long time, I'd be excited to see her so I'd probably be a bit disappointed if she wasn't there but it would be disappointment at having to wait a bit longer to see her.

If it was the other way around and I genuinely couldn't collect her from the airport I'd speak to her before her flight and explain why. I would probably send snacks like sandwiches, biscuits or muffins etc plus drinks with Dh so she and the kids could have something in their hotel room. Just in case there was nowhere suitable open at that time. Plus a message saying that I was really looking forward to seeing her!

My DH has regularly collected my sister or friends from places because I was at work, or dealing with a child who only wanted me. Sometimes life just happens like that and if you want a lift, you take it from whoever is available.