Would you be offended if your Bil picked you up?

[Stressedjustthinkingaboutit]

If you were flying to visit your sister on your own with your kids to another country. Would you be offended if her other half came to pick you up at the airport and drop you at your hotel?
Reason being, it’s at night and your sister is doing bedtime with their dc, would this bother you? Or would you expect your sister to be the one to come?
They will see each other the next morning

I wouldn't be bothered by this, I'm confused by your voting!

No, I don't like driving to the airport so I would probably send DH!

Not at all. You’re overthinking this.

The picked up sister is going to a hotel.

It wouldn't offend me in the least. It has happened in fact.. no problem.

If you wanted to see her on the night itself are you able to pop round to the hotel to say hello, once kids are asleep?

Wouldn't be offended at all. Be very clear about explaining the arrangements and be sure she knows what's happening and why.

Apart from anything there could be delays - to the flight, coming through luggage reclaim, passport control etc.

I’d just be incredibly happy and grateful that someone had come to pick me up

Heavens, no!
I would be thankful that he'd do it.

You know I might be inclined if it were me to get DH to do the airport run for your parents instead and you do your sister. As there are two of them and you will have more time with them that day anyway, I think they'd not be too offended surely. Your sister coming on her own and late and you haven't seen her for ages, it might be nicer to pick her up? Otherwise why not run it past her. If you really are not confident night driving, that's a good enough reason and you can say so surely?

I lived overseas for 20 odd years and no one from my family ever picked me up from the airport when I came home to visit- it didn't occur to me that they would, it's a big chore. I used to catch the coach or train.

Can’t stand people who are so self centred / expectant on other people. The sisters will see each other in the morning. It’s very likely easier to get the children to bed the way they usually do. Sister at the airport is lucky to get a lift and should stop being so ridiculous.

Not at all.

Honestly after travelling I would just be grateful for being picked up!

My DH picks my mum up when she flies and I sort the kids out she's never once said I'm disappointed it's not me doing it as I just say its DH as I sorting the kids. Again she's just grateful for the lift!

This is reverse, isn’t it?

Nope, I’d be offended if I arrived in another country late at night with young kids in tow and noone came to get me, as arranged, but BiL is family too, isn’t he?

In light of the MASSIVE drops feed.....

No OP, I don't think your sister should be offended.

I thought you meant if your BIL physically picked you up.

In both cases, no, I wouldn't be offended at all.

I was fully expecting you to mean bodily like a fireman's lift or something! But in the car? Of course not! Your sister is being silly and ungrateful. I hope she grows up and shows a bit more consideration sharpish or good luck with the rest of her stay.

Exactly. I wouldn't mind at all.

Yes, I'd be very happy with that.

Not offended at all. It happened last week in fact, I was fully prepared to take an uber/ public transport especially as my sister, bil and kids had just arrived back from their own holiday earlier that day. Bil dropped sister and nephew home and came back to collect me and my 2.

Unless BIL is creepy or problematic in some way, no.

No. I'd be pleased they were giving me a lift.

@Stressedjustthinkingaboutit

depending on what part of the family it was I'd rather sleep on the sofa...

but another part of the family a hotel for sure!!

@YeahComeOnThen We have only two
bedrooms, dc will come in with us. Sister and two kids can’t sleep on the sofa, plus I think that would be a bit too much of a chaotic house 😬

AIBU in feeling angry and bitter towards my husband …..