For thinking DH shouldn't be buying alcohol for DSs mates

[Thehalls191]

DS is in year 10 so his mates are all 14 and 15.

They've stared having house parties, usually around 30 to 40 kids (not at our house I should add!).

Im happy for DS to go, he's been to a few, he takes a few beers and has never got himself into a mess, he's home before 12.

He's asked DH to buy some alcohol for his mates and they'll give him the money. No spirits, just beer. DH has said yes.

I'm saying a big fat no. It's one thing supplying alcohol to your own DC, another thing entirely to supply it for other people's.

Love this reply to that holier than thou comment ❤️

We’ve bought alcohol for our own child but absolutely wouldn’t consider buying it for anyone else’s child.

I’m glad to hear that your husband had taken what you’ve said on board, but I’d be disappointed that he needed it explaining to him. How could an adult not realise that it isn’t ok?

As long as the other kids parents are aware that they are drinking alcohol then it's fine. I buy for my dd and her friend but only if the other parents know and are OK with them having a drink, same if my dd goes to her friends, the other parents go to the shop for them

The best way to keep a young person safe in this day and age is to create a warm and confiding relationship with them, where they can tell you what they’re doing (whether it’s sex, drinking etc), with who and where, to allow you to guide and support them through challenges (provided they’re not really really endangering themselves obviously). Teens brains are primed for risk taking and silly mistakes so to think because you’ve said no they won’t engage in silly behaviour is ridiculous. I therefore don’t think buying your child a few beers is terrible. I also think if your child knows you know they’re drinking, even if you don’t support it as their best choice, they’re more likely to ring for help than the child whose parents gave a hard no. Buying for others is however questionable as it takes the parents right to a choice away.

I don't know why you're getting so defensive OP when you know very well that your DH is in the wrong here.
Attitudes towards alcohol will vary but regardless of that it is illegal to buy children alcohol, so you can spin it however you like but your DH needs to recognise the potential consequences of his actions.

Year 10 is really young. Most of the yr10 mums wouldn't like this. I let ds1 take a couple of cans to a party, but ds2 friends mums seem more conservative.