To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Reading this thread makes me think of some beautiful lines from a Philip Larkin poem:

”We should be careful
Of each other, we should be kind
While there is still time”

I am so sorry. I hope they get excellent treatment and recover quickly xx

i have a strange discomfort under my ribs and pain around my boob area (one side) sometimes. I’m scared. I have three young children. Don’t want to go to doctors as I want to take out health insurance first.

under immense pressure in work. Marriage is crap. Very unhappy. Feel like I’ve lost all of my friends the past year.

My dad is dying.

I think all you can do is maybe say, completely out of the blue, "I know you're introverted and don't like to talk much, but you know you can always come to me if your anxious or worried about anything. I'm your mother." Then just change the topic or leave the room and not approach the subject again (unless you definitely see something). xxx

Pip renewal
Autism
Adhd

Abusive partner
Feel like I’ve screwed up my life and am trapped because if I leave I don’t end up with what I want from life but if I stay I don’t either

Remo22 your post for the op was just lovely and you sound so loving and kind. Op please be kinder to yourself and write down your positives and do not be so hard on yourself...Wish I was 30 again. To all the people going through illness and poor health wishing you all the best and especially to Mumaway, wishing you the best and have fun with the hair and remember it will grow back.
I wish I had my energy back as diagnosed with underactive thyroid which was undiagnosed for years as useless doc. Need my meds upped but he is such an arse. Also wishing I still had my mum in our lives as she was the one person who was always there and we just 'got' each other and never judged each other unlike rest of family. Also worry about my son if anything happens to me as just the two of us.

To Swordtoflamethrower please go to Citizens Advice and see if they can have someone to advocate for you as know how difficult it is with all the forms and then the intimidation as they make you feel nothing wrong with you. It is worth a try as here in Ireland they have staff that will go with you if have a meeting or review and advocate on your behalf.

Childcare struggles.

DS has SEN needs and has been excluded from after school club and holiday club as he’s too challenging for them to accommodate.

DH and I both work f/t and can’t afford to give up work. I’ve reduced hours temporarily but the financial impact is huge.

no scope for benefits top ups.
no family to help.
every childminder and nanny I’ve spoken to has backed out.

I just want childcare where he’ll be happy and they can meet his needs.

For me it’s the relentless pressure of caring for an ND teen, my other child and now poorly parents alone. I’ve been missing late DH for so so long now. He was so supportive and fun.

You are all amazing women. I salute you x

Similar for me too. DP has suspected ADHD, and as a consequence is in and out of work all the time, or doesn't understand what an agency is paying him and it turns out it's much less than he thought, so we're compering up for groceries by the end of the month...

We have two very little children too, so have them to consider. I wanted to continue working part-time a little while longer until they at least got their 30 hours childcare at 3 years old, but have asked work if I can go back full time, as have lost hope of him being able to get it together.

My wish would be that he could just hold down a job that paid enough for a modest lifestyle, where he wasn't miserable (and with my part-time contributiob). Or that we could win the lottery so none of it would matter.

Loneliness in older age
financial issues

You've probably heard all the treatments anyway, but just in case... for me, keto diet MASSIVELY improved my endo - to the point I didn't even realise when I came on, if you can believe it.

I'm fat and struggling to lose weight. Everything else in life is fine, but this one thing. I am considered obese according to my BMI and I feel gross. Really need to start disciplining myself regarding calorie intake.

I'm a cancer survivor and while I'm so grateful to have beaten it, the treatment has wrecked my body. My bowels and bladder don't work now, have spent almost 6 hours on the toilet this evening which has done my arthritis no good at all. i've crapped myself 4 times so far, just because I can't move fast enough. I've got to be on the motorway at 9am for a 2 hour journey and I'm dreading it. The absolute horror of being out of the house, away from immediate access to a toilet destroys any joy in my life. I wish they had left me untreated, I honestly don't know how to go on like this for the rest of my life

I’m fat and feel low!
My DH is on the 2 week cancer diagnostic pathway- biopsies done now waiting for outcome
My DD has an eating disorder and is under camhs
My amazing FiL is very poorly

Perma-thrush after having Mirena. Itchy shit show. 😂

Thank you for replying.
i will look into that, thank you. My consultants only option for treatment is a hysterectomy (which I would like) but as my endo has spread so much into my bowel there would have to be removal of that also, leaving me with a stoma bag which I obviously don’t want. At some point I probably won’t have any choice in this and it may be my only option. For now all I can do is to suffer and deal with my symptoms as well as I can. I will look into the diet thank you x

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I can't afford the drum kit that would make my sons life better. He needs an acoustic style e-kit to practice at home. He's a musician not a little kid that wants to mess around.

I mean I have many mundane problems of my own but if I could just do this one for him..

I'm so sorry for all the posters who are facing such monumental worries and brutally hard situations. I really hope that life gets better and easier soon.

Back pain...Please go away!

With kindness -
She is 18, you need to let her live her life.
Stop projecting your fears on her - you will either scare her or suffocate her.
You may not want to live in London but she does and she's made her decision. You need to respect and accept that.

Had a stroke last November and am terrified of dying and leaving my 12 year old behind with my 29 year old. Constant sense of impending doom.