To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

[Biggybigbiggles]

Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

Infertility - I wish I could just snap my fingers and make all the heartache go away.

Oh I feel sad for you, sounds like such a worry. I am worried about how my DD will cope when our 12 year old dog dies. She’s grown up with him.

I hope someone will take him under their wing when you’re older, I certainly would if I knew anyone in your position. Sending love, your son sounds lovely.

Same, almost certain the school my DD will be given on the 16th will be the one who have just come back and said they can't meet need. can't wait for the stress ahead in the coming months.

that and never having enough money, hating my job but feeling trapped in it untill littlest goes to school in 2027 😭 nowhere else will let me do the minuscule and mental hours I currently do.

I was about to post then read this.

My biggest problem now feels tiny, sending you, your DH and DD lots best wishes x

Best of luck to you and your little one, we had a meeting with the primary Senco and they had quite a few things in place already for children with SEN. It’s just a massive worry!
Hope goes well for you on the 16th!

I can also relate to the money worries, I have my youngest in preschool too, she’s 2 but we don’t qualify for the 15 hours free childcare as I don’t earn enough, but I can’t work more hours as there aren’t anymore at my work. But if I take another job, there’s nowhere with the same flexibility as where I am now!

it’s a tough world at the moment.

Unexplained fatigue that’s gone on for two years and just brought my life to a standstill
Elderly parents with dementia

Needing some work done in the house, really overdue, struggling to find builder, just got the one quote which is eye-watering

To get my confidence back after being bullied out of my last job so I can start looking for work

To magic up more availability in my child's nursery so I could go to work if I could find a job

Magic up some money so I could survive until I found work (can't claim benefits)

Magic back my parents

Magic back my good health

Magic my child's health issues away

I don't have a partner, and I couldn't cope with one, but I would live to find a reasonably priced handyman to fix all the broken thing in my house

That's just the basics to keep me from topping myself

I just feel quite crap all the time. My back hurts, I’m quite anxious a lot of the the time especially at work, my brian whirrs like a hamster on crack, I have just neck back and jaw tension when I sleep which means I hardly ever sleep for more than a couple of hours at a stretch. My guts are awful acid reflux, diarrhoea or bunged up.
I would love just to feel well for a few days a week. I gave up smoking and I feel worse. Im pretty overweight but it’s hard to lose now and quite frankly when I’m eating is a small portion of the day when my brain chemistry seems to tell me all is ok so frankly it’s all I’ve got to look forward to. Apart from that I’m grand.

I'm realising this too, it's a kick in the guts. Hope you find your way forward soon x

How I look, fat, frumpy.

Then finances, no money to fix a garden fence which is falling down. Feel my neighbours must also think its an eye sore. I can't take it down as it keeps my dog in. I'm saving to fix it next yr if nothing else burns my money up.

Where to start ?

Pretty poor health and my medication means I always get run down with colds.
Very dysfunctional family where I am the least favoured.
No friends.
Single
Living with stepdad. Can't afford a place on my own
Low paying and highly stressful job.
Very unattractive and as I approach 40, I am getting bigger without even eating much (As in I eat what I always have which isn't very much.).

I hate my life.

My exhusband committed suicide 2 weeks ago. He was not a good man. He shafted me and our tiny children, moved on to wife 2 and did same to her and their child. After their divorce he met another woman. He was busy conning her when he was rumbled. Nowhere to run this time and he killed himself.My sons are adults and are his n of k. They are dealing with the estate ( discovering bit by bit that he was completely penniless). I am supporting them emotionally through this. I feel nothing for my exhusband but the strain on my boys is obvious and painful to see. I hope it will be over and done soon and they can begin a life without him causing drama and pain in the background .

My house. I absolutely hate it, from the first moment i saw it. (My DH had a mortgage on it and there were some debts so made sense for us to start off married life here.) I always hoped to move or get it renovated so we never spent money on fixing or improving anything. Now we are in a.position to get a badly needed extension and upgrade but the price of building work has tripled so we can't afford it any more . I am coming to terms with my family squashed into this dump all my life.
Other problems are my son with ASD's challenging behaviour and if he will ever be able to function in society without me scaffolding everything.
And my relationship with my DH is pretty bad also, too many years of dealing with the kids alone while he worked away, then him working 16hr days all during the Covid years, and the pressures of looking after a SN child and his siblings with no family help and can't get babysitter due to son's aggressive behaviour mean that we have not really any time for just us. We nag and bicker a lot. Had a big chat last night (again) and are both going to try really hard (again) to be kinder to each other but I worry its too little too late and the affection is dead.

Sorry, that turned into a right pity party. I havent read the whole thread and I know some people have serious health problems and suffered bereavements so my problems are not as bad in comparison. But I can only live the life I have, as the saying goes, and atm that feels hard and hopeless.

I’m really bloated and uncomfortable from injecting myself with hormones everyday for the past 10 days… 😖 and feeling miserable due to not being able to exercise because of this.

God, it’s so crazy that we don’t reach out to one another more. Why aren’t we kinder to one another? So many people are so unhappy and f-ed up and heartbroken (and I include myself).

Don’t worry about wat the neighbours might or mightn’t think, could yu get a pallet or two and strip timber lats off it but few nails and put them up temporarily.

wishing you the best of luck

Oh shit. Crying reading all the posts and hidden hurt. Last year I was misprescribed medication which brought on heart failure symptoms, so I pretty much thought I was dying. By the time the error was found months later, I was up 5 stone on my already heavy frame. I have lost my mobility and the medication had turned me into a mental zombie and I haven’t regained full cognition or memory

My child has cancer.

My broken marriage that I’m too scared to leave because I can’t contemplate not seeing my daughter every day

I'm seriously unwell with multiple health problems that have rendered me housebound and needing help to care for my SEN child. It's utterly terrifying and miserable. I used to worry about silly things like appearance and then this became my reality.
I know it's all relative btw and that isn't a dig at others.

Balancing completing my Masters degree with working in a FT senior role that whilst being high paying and being mostly home based, I don’t particularly enjoy due to the company culture, some members of the management team and just not feeling like I have the opportunity to stretch and grow.

Add into the mix 3 large dogs (including a recently adopted rescue dog) to care for, a house that needs some maintenance work doing and seems to constantly dirty from dog hair and muddy paw marks on the floors and a DH who works long hours in a stressful, physically demanding job but is quite needy of my time and attention and can be sometimes dismissive of my workload and unrealistic with expectations as I work from home.

But all pales into comparison versus the current torture of being an Evertonian. Going the match with my Dad is my outlet. But between terrible performances, another relegation fight, a points deduction (with another looming), a disengaged owner and a takeover bid from questionable investors that’s taken months and still isn’t finalised with the resulting threat of administration, the thing I would normally do for fun has turned into the most depressing and stressful thing in my life.

At least we managed a win today….our first in 4 months 🙄 Come On You Blues!! 💙

@daisypond what a lot you have on your plate 💐 wishing you and your DH good healing and everyday joys.

My heart is breaking for you all kind of sorry I stumbled on this thread as it is upsetting, I want to banish each and everyone of your worries, pains, financial challenges, health issues.( If only I could)

Right now things are fairly ok with me and mine had a few rocky years, deaths, miscarriage, marriage breakdown ( blessing really as ex was abusive), family suicide, money worries.

I will keep you all in my prayers tonight and in the coming days, hope life becomes kinder and more gentle to each of ye.

🙏🏻🕯️💐

My 32 year old sister has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer. Terrified of losing her, anticipatory grief is weighing me down. Terrified of what it will do to my parents