To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

@App13 - my DS never spoke a word until he was nearly 4. He is now diagnosed autistic but has started to speak, he is just delayed. I felt the same fear as you do, but I just wanted to offer some reassurance that there’s still time for words to come. Sending love.

My major stress is all the problems we’re having with my husband’s work van. He’s self employed and we’ve paid a fortune into getting it repaired and it just seems like endless problems. We can’t afford to replace it so we’re pumping endless streams of money into getting it repaired.

and hugs for everybody who is struggling .

An emotionally abusive partner who won't engage with any help and blames me for his outbursts.

My weight, working long hours as a single parent. Trying to juggle the kids and make sure they are happy / sorted / settled.

trying to make time for myself and planning lots of things with friends, although feeling very low as every single plan in the last two weeks my friends have cancelled, nothing personal just circumstances but it has made me feel so isolated.

Daughter being bullied at school.
Trying to find new school.

Ohhh god If I could flick fingers and get one problem gone from my life , it would be my unexplained infertility , having no kids and not finding the cause it’s like I’m living in a nightmare , stuck in mud . Feeling left behind in life to others is heart destroying for me . :(

Completely wasted my talents and feel like I’m going to die never having done anything I really wanted to do.

I am very lonely. Married but despise him.
I am estranged from my other family members. But hey, DD likes me.

Shitty and protracted legal dispute with lying shites of tenants.

mother in law with alcohol induced dementia, living in a care home, endless admin

but I have a wonderful DH, two gorgeous DCs and my health. Not all bad.

this is such a good post, when we’re down we all feel so alone and yet we’re all fighting our own battles.

big hugs to everyone that needs them right now

Health
Hair loss alopecia
Joint and stiff pains
numbness in legs

Yes, money doesn’t buy happiness but goodness, it would make a lot of problems simply disappear.

Negative equity! Cannot afford to sell our flat in London to move close to my parents for support with my one year old. Also cannot afford the increasing service charge, ground rent and cost of living plus all the costs of a baby! Feel so panicked and stuck

That sounds tough, wishing you happier times

Debt and finances cost of living is on the verge of splitting up my family. Not because we want to but because we can’t afford to live together anymore.

Losing ability to walk and having to hide it from everyone.

These stories are heartbreaking. Sending love to you all.

Same. It’s the sixth time for us he has been made redundant. He usually gets another job quite quickly but this time seems to want to take his sweet time. I can keep the lights on, just, but it’s a huge amount of pressure and I can’t keep doing this.

I had a total meltdown this morning about always being the only adult in the house, having to organise and cope with everything alone because he’s avoidant, and he’s agreed to relationship counselling.

Big love to everyone on the thread.

Such a sad thread, but a good reminder of why it’s so important to be kind. You just never know what people are going through. I send you all a virtual hug. We really should be kinder to one another 😞

For me, it’s being 47 and having nothing to show for it. My young life was wiped out by mental illness. I never did anything, and am now left with deep feelings of shame and regret. The tragedy of my life is that I overcame a crippling personality disorder too late.

I have an ageing mother. She’s in OK health atm, but it’s just a matter of time before cancer, or some other hideous disease, slowly and painfully tears her away from me. And even if she avoids them I’ll have to watch her shrivel up and slowly die of old age.

I’m isolated. The only family I have is a younger sister, who depends on my mother. When my mother dies, I’m terrified that my sister will fall apart and attempt suicide. Then I really will be alone.

I’m single, my looks are fading, and I’m hurtling towards my 50s with nothing to show for it. I don’t even want to think about the longer term - dying in some grotty, council run old people’s home, I suppose.

Money
Being fat 😢

Ah your poor soul..😥

Can I just say that this thread is probably one of the most touching, thought provoking threads I've read in a long time. My heart goes out to everyone who is having concerns or worries, be it financial, health or relationships.

My ds 19 has not stepped foot outside for 7 years, he's autistic, has adhd, and some other mental health problems, and relies on me for everything, his best friend is our aging family dog , they are inseparable. I worry what will happen to him as I get older, worry how he will cope when the time comes for our dog. Everything is a worry for me with him and he is a awesome guy! X

My ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia. If someone’s could take those away please.

Going through a third appeal for funding for my disabled son. Before that we went through 2 education tribunals. It’s mentally draining. I’m not a crier but have found myself in tears many times this year. It’s also financially destroyed us with the tribunals costing tens of thousands.

Unable to have children. Tried everything. I generally have accepted it but sometimes it hits me. Im stuck in a rut in life & seeing everyone else progress, have families & knowing my life will always be this.
Endometriosis & no “good” treatment options.
2 stone overweight & just can’t motivate myself - again stuck in a rut