To ask what your biggest problem in life is at the moment?

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Just that really... mine is that I feel frumpy and ugly. Having always been tiny, I've gotten to 30 and I suddenly just feel disgusted with what I see any time someone takes a photo of me.

If you could click your fingers and remove a problem you have, what would it be?

FIL died last week, so supporting DH is top of my concern list.

I have a terminally ill friend in hospice care, so I feel like I'm in some sort of stasis, awaiting the grim and unavoidable grief.

For me, I'm kinda chubby, and I feel the pressure of being the primary "bread winner" (DH has a decent job, but mine is the one that keeps us afloat).

Recurrent miscarriage

Empty nest stuff
Health of various relatives
My ADHD sabotaging attempts to build a fulfilling life before I'm too old.

That my 'fit and healthy' husband has terminal cancer with no prediction of how long he has left.

The last 5 years since his diagnosis have been a roller coaster or treatment/ hope/ disappointment for me, and our children.

Whatever problems you have in your lives, if they are under your control, just sort them.

The only ones that matter are the health of you and your loved ones.

I am so sorry. This sounds horrendous . Can you get any help with this?

Money worries

I have lots of other problems but having no money worries would make the rest a lot easier

I've been there got talking therapy after being diagnosed with GAD it was so good a great help good luck xx

To paraphrase Dr John Cooper Clarke, my biggest problem is that I'm not someone else.

Hard to pick a biggest problem really but right now I'm retraining for a new career and the problem is that its hard to find jobs in my area in this line of work because I'm British (living abroad) as most of the jobs in the area are military connected and they won't employ foreigners for this work, not even if they have duel citizenship. So if I could click my fingers and take away my Britishness my prospects would be a lot better but would I really want to do that just for a job?

Money is the main one. I’d love to be able to afford to own a stable home for my children.
My brain is rubbish. Constant anxiety, self hatred, agoraphobia and dissociation. I fear for my future because I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to work a good job, if any job, and that’s the only way to solve the main problem - money. Currently a SAHM.
Otherwise happy and blessed with my three beautiful children and partner.

This was me mid divorce. Everything else seemed to go wrong at the same time and the prospect of a poor financial future and loneliness of having lost all my friends was devastating
. Its so damned hard.
You WILL get through it somehow and rise again.
Hang in there. 🌻

Trying to get the NHS to put right my 2017 botched surgery that I have been disabled by. I have had one corrective surgery but need at least two more and they are dragging their feet. My DH has cancer and is currently ill from an infection too. He has been this way since November and the NHS are probably not going to treat him. We can't afford private for either of us.

My H of 23 years walked & has left me with sole care (24/7) of 2 disabled kids.
I worry about their future. I worry about dying & l leaving them alone. I worry...

I am also disabled (whilst being their Carer). Just found out last week that my surgeon will no longer put me forward for the 2 mobility operations I've been waiting for since 2019. I've no money. I've no family. My roof leaks, my basement floods & my (interest only) mortgage is due up in 5 years. I'll have to sell it but the house floods so I'll be lucky to sell it too. I will lie awake for 5 years worrying.

I'm very isolated (exH doesn't 'take the kids' - ever - ) & very lonely. I cry daily.
I also try to be glad I am here & find joy in any small things with my kids.

You’ve probably thought of this but you can put some leak sealant through the system it costs about £10.

We are in the same situation past 2 years - no money spare to drill up concrete floor to find the leak - but the sealant has got us through 2 winters.

Ditto

Hope your hair looks sensational! Don't forget to take pics. of the 'new' you!

Sending all good wishes for your op. and any follow-up treatment. Hope you are spoilt by all around you while you are recovering, you deserve it. 🌷💐

I'm also frumpy and overweight, but that's topped by being a parent-carer to a two year old who can't even crawl yet and recently finding out I have cancer (treatable, awaiting an operation).

@kokos88 hi,I've had this issue multiple times, its 2 causes
A- expansion valve leaking water or something with boiler.

If you have a bank account that allows you for emergency heating electric cases they will look at it

B- leak is in the pipes somewhere.. in which case if you can spot dampness anywhere, your trace and access under your building insurance will cover it. But you need to show water damage is occurring somewhere which impacts the building and structure .

Please feel free to dm ive had to deal with 5 leaks in the past 3 yrs !

Thank you.

I'm sick of being sick. Doing my best to live as normal a life as possible with my various chronic illnesses including stage 4 breast cancer, but sick of appointments, tests, treatments, symptoms and side effects and most of all, just feeling really rubbish too much of the time.

Money - lack of and a lot of debt.

Weight - I’m not happy with it but have crap will power when it comes to healthy eating! 🤦‍♀️

Son with a severe ocd diagnosis and been on the waiting list for AGES for asd/add assessment. Waiting list for the Maudsley ocd outreach too.
Just fed up of years of waiting for help for my child when if it was a physical illness he would have been seen years ago.

I'm sorry for your loss :(

My biggest problem at the moment is isolation. I have a job and a roof. My health is good and would be better if I wasn't so sedentary.

Infertility pretty much broke me and I lost everything else. Hobbies and social life went first, slowly fading with each failed treatment. When my ex decided to place his bets elsewhere, I lost my mind for a while and with it went my business, my friends, my interest in the world and desire to experience all of it.

I'm only 40 but I feel like I've disappeared. One of those dead-end aunts on the family tree who the next generations mark with a curled line over a dot.

?

I'm trying to dig myself out but when I'm not working, all I feel is tired.

Oh lord I feel for you. Mine didn’t sleep through for years. Broke me.