Husband embarrassed when I felt unwell

[OneBrightCrow]

My husband and I were at the wedding of one of his uni friends on Wednesday. It was a great day however I came over unwell during the speeches, probably due to not having enough to eat before a couple of Proseccos. I was not drunk at all, but came over pale, felt clammy and like I was going to collapse. I didn’t want to cause a fuss by getting up and leaving, but felt so awful that I put my head down on the table. I understand that this could have looked rude but I’m pretty sure the other tables did not notice, and everyone on our table could see that something wasn’t right.

Despite asking my husband to just leave me be for a few minutes, he persisted in trying to get me to leave the room, but his persistence was really not helping, and I tried explaining that if I stood up I was afraid I would collapse or be sick, and I absolutely did not want that to happen.

He wouldn’t let it go so eventually I managed to stand up and sat outside for a bit until I felt better; but I wasn’t quite right for the rest of the day. I chose not to drink any more, but even after multiple glasses of water I was struggling with the noisy room and drunk people getting a bit close for comfort. We found a quiet room with a sofa where I sat for a while, and he asked if I wanted to leave. I said no but we argued when I tried encouraging him to rejoin the party so that he could see his uni friends that he rarely gets to see, including his best friend who had come just for the evening reception; but he kept saying we should be there as a couple.

He got a bit arsey, questioning how I was feeling and saying that he has never known me to “do this” as though I was choosing to behave this way. I said I felt very pressured by him, and was hurt that he had been more concerned about how I was appearing to other people than whether I was OK!

He eventually stormed off and returned about half an hour where we argued again, so I just grit my teeth and rejoined the party even though I still felt unwell.

It’s left me feeling quite hurt about it, and even when I tried talking to him about it (thinking that now he’s sober he would be a bit apologetic) he maintains that putting my head on the table was rude and we would have to agree to disagree.

Am I being unreasonable in feeling hurt??

Not seen anywhere where the op had stated she wasn't disabled?

It's the result of unstable blood pressure or blood glucose directly triggered by alcohol. No need to split hairs.

i'd have been mortified! you should have left the table im afraid as soon as you started feeling unwell

To be fair I didn’t feel ill on an empty stomach. We’d eaten starter, main and wedding cake by that point. But that probably came a bit late in the day and the prosecco before hand didn’t line my tummy particularly well. I wasn’t remotely drunk.

Thankfully I rarely get spells like OP's but when they have come, I have had to get down on the floor asap, whether that's on the floor of the tube as no seats free, or on the floor of the bustop. I would not have been able to walk even 10 yards. The most important thing is to get my head down. And I'm teetotal.

The lack of sympathy for OP is terrible.

I tend to accept things at face value as this is an anonymous forum so why would people lie. In any case what's possibly the point of rewriting the scene yourself and then making judgement. That's weird.

I'd just hide this thread op. It's gone barmey

You admit in your OP you felt unwell because you had Prosecco on an empty stomach. Doesn’t matter you weren’t falling over drunk - it was caused by drink and entirely self inflicted.

@User356432

An adult should also be able to regulate their alcohol intake to avoid feeling unwell at crucial moments. "Several" glasses of prosecco on an empty stomach sounds pretty intense. Even it was within your tolerance in the past, it's clearly borderline risky behaviour.

Why have you used and even highlighted the word several when that's not what the op said. She said 2. TWO. but of course you had to fabricate something to make it sound bad I suspect most people there had at least 2 on an empty stomach

Are you actually serious? 😂

Totally.

I really don't understand why you didn't leave when he suggested it & why you both kept arguing.

Are you?

Putting your head on the table was really weird behaviour!

You should have left discreetly

Yup, at 14:45 to be precise.

I was going to say the same thing!

I'm not arguing with you; you're either drunk or dim. Or both.

She says she only had two glasses of Prosecco. She then describes the actions of her DH, which make a lot more sense if you consider that maybe she had more than just a couple...

Think your timing is well off there lovely.

Because she was pissed.

Sorry, but he sounds just like my ex.

I was heavily pregnant with my 3rd baby.
We had gone to a children's farm. The car park was wet and slippery, and I fell on my back, hurting my elbow.
Thankfully Baby was absolutely fine (but we didn't know that at the time of the fall) and I was naturally terrified.
He (my ex) was more concerned that I had embarrassed him by falling.

I really feel for you that your husband seemed so unconcerned.
For what it's worth, it sounds like you dealt with it all really well, despite him making things worse. You really don't need arseholes like that when you feel unwell. Hope you are okay now.

Wait a minute. Bit of a drip feed.

Did you have any wine with your meal?

Well I had a glass of cider 2 days ago, so according to people on this thread I must be trollied.

I just asked why you assumed that the op wasn't disabled? Do people needs to state their ablebodiedness when they post now? I AM disabled, so have been known to have to sit on steps, peoples garden walls, put my head down on tables etc. A lot.

Why that has been taken so badly by you, who knows.

I'm rereading all of OP's posts and cannot find any indication of "two". She said "a couple" which is widely understood to mean anywhere between 2-4, usually 3.

Regardless of that, unless you're a total alcoholic, two Proseccos on an empty stomach is a significant amount of alcohol for any adult and you will be feeling the effects.

Even if it was - so what?

OP didn't do it on purpose, and she was being quiet and discrete about it. She wasn't off her tits and trying to shag the best man, she just - gasp - put her head on the table because she was feeling a bit faint.

It's fucking ridiculous to be labelling that as embarrasing or mortifying.