To think it's childish when grown women ask other women what they're wearing somewhere?

[pregahes]

Especially when it's days in advance it just seems...trivial.

AIBU to find it annoying?

Ffs what a weird thing to get upset about. What if you turn up in jeans and everyone else came in a cocktail dress?!

I sometimes ask if I'm not sure what the dress code is. I don't give a rats what anyone actually wears or what I wear. I just want to make sure I do the right thing. I'm not very intuitive about dress.

I have three children, one disabled, and no childcare. None. I haven’t been out in the evening for 7 years as my disabled child won’t settle without me. If I ever get invited to anything again (doubtful), I’ll absolutely be asking what people are wearing, because I have no idea what people wear for various occasions nowadays. Sorry that irritates you, I hope my friends would be more tolerant.

Omg lol what are you doing on mumsnet and starting a thread about me of all things?!

[Seriously though I panicked a minute there and advance searched you and you aren't her. Whew.]

Depends - every time we meet up would be annoying. Big events like a birthday party, wedding etc, it’s nice to bond over outfit planning and gauge what the dress code will be like.

Then you can't answer the question, can you?

What's the big deal?

Bla bla bla… women are childish. Misopedia and misogyny all in one post.

But if people are worried they will wear the 'wrong' thing (over/under dressed) then they aren't going to BE comfortable, are they?

No its not 'childish' and yabu

I was about to ask my husbands workmates wife what she is wearing to a belated Christmas do next week...oh well..

Yes, you are being unreasonable.

It's enjoyable chit chat, bonding, reassuring each other, confiding.
I think you're being very harsh & something of a killjoy OP!😑

I do this. I lived in the NE until I was early 20s and most things we did we dressed up for. Still do even if it's just a pals birthday meal and a few drinks on a weekday. My friends in my midlands city, I can never pinpoint what the hell the dress code is even after 10+ years of knowing and going out with them. It's all well and good saying people should just feel comfortable in whatever they want but if feel like a tit in a dress and heels when everyone else has rocked up in jeans and jumpers. Plus RSD so... yanno...

I checked with my sister and it turned out we had bought the exact same dress, just in different colours, to wear at the same wedding. I went shopping again....lol.

‼️BREAKING NEWS!!‼️

Women like to discuss clothes.

I do this with my friends sometimes. We are just having a conversation and being interested. The last wedding I went to we all asked each other if we had decided what to wear, showed each other pictures of our outfits. It’s just being sociable and friendly.

Yep, one of my fav things to speak about building up to a night out. OP, you’d be horrified, but my friends and I actually screenshot outfits and send them to one another 😱

I'm with you OP! Only thing more boring than "what are you wearing" talk is "I've lost 3lbs on this diet" talk.

Always makes me think of Jackie and her friend in Friday Night Dinner...

YABU.

Don't be a fun sponge.

Yes to this.

Spent all day in London today and my mate and l did ask what the other one was wearing cos the weather was so inpredictable. Didn't affect anyone else so sorry op but l thinl yabu

It’s only childish if the mindset is a competition.

Ita a normal question.

OP I have never asked anyone what they’re wearing since I was about 15. I don’t even know what i’ll be wearing until I’ve had a shower. I will have considered a few options and will see how I feel on the day.

I think this may be more of a thing if you aren’t very sure of your style and need reassurance. Also if you have a very disjointed wardrobe. If you have a particular style it’s easy to get dressed because everything works together. it negates the need for lots of forward planning.

You seem fun 🙄

I have zero interest in what I wear or anyone else but I am if people ask me this as 1. They are making conversation 2. It helps them in some way

So I have no issue answering