To think it's childish when grown women ask other women what they're wearing somewhere?

[pregahes]

Especially when it's days in advance it just seems...trivial.

AIBU to find it annoying?

I always ask my bestie’s wife when we are going to the same place. I don’t go out too much and getting ready/doing make-up and going from “mummy Hagpie” to “mini-dress, dangly earrings and stilettos Hagpie”, is part of the fun. I just want to make sure I’m not overdoing it.

Unfortunately, she is an indecisive as I am! Love her to pieces!

I ask ever since 3 of us turned up in tartan dresses (when they were in fashion 🤣) we looked like a bloody girl band 🤣

@ChestaDroors perfect response

OP - some people may just need a little hand hold, and, if they've been brave enough to reach to you (God forbid) you don't need to tell them IN DETAIL what you plan to wear - merely: black tie vs jeans and a top - it's REALLY not that hard and actually quite kind.

YABU to find it annoying. Just be kind.

It is kind of a bonding thing I suppose. My friends and I always ask, we like clothes and we like to make sure we aren’t over or under dressed for things. I don’t think it’s childish.

Nope. It's a harmless social interaction between two consenting and usually like minded women who are interested in clothes/want to clarify a dress code/ want to add to the sense of anticipation of an occasion. If you don't want to participate just roll your eyes let our your inner superior sneer and tell them you have no idea because you're above that nonsense. They'll not ask you again.

Yabu. People usually ask so they get an idea of how dressed up/casual others will be and they don’t want to be over/underdressed. If it bothers you personally to give away outfit secrets in advance then just say “not sure yet”. No big deal.

No.....on Wednesdays we wear pink !!!! 😄

Clearly I'm unkind...that's completely fair enough that judging from these replies IABU.

I should try not to let it annoy me in future 😂

I'm 50 odd and I still do this. I don't care what others wear but I do want to know how dressy my peers will be.

I think it's because people should just wear what THEY are comfortable in irrespective of being over or underdressed. Surely we have been to enough occasions as adults to know what surrounding require certain type of outfits that's all.

@Mnetcurious it's not a secret but I often don't give it thought until the last minute!

Nope you dress for the occasion and comfort- otherwise I’d go everywhere in pyjamas

I think if it was something formal and you weren't sure what level of 'effort' others were going to, you might ask? Like, are we dressing up or not so much?
I also always ask my mum what she's wearing if we are going out to a do together just out of interest and we like to style eachother a bit.
I guess if it was for every single day, I'd be like warm a trackie? You wearing the ballgown again? Haha.

Childish? Why?
We discuss this at work before going to certain conferences and events - we need to make sure we look professional and discuss dress code etc. One conference is in the snow so we discuss snow boots etc.

Quite a weird thing to find childish.

Good for you that you always know what to wear in every occasion, every restaurant and circumstance.

YABU. Very much so. Surely this is just normal chit-chat amongst friends so you don’t turn up wearing something wide of the mark?

If you are always secure in your clothing choices well, then, aren’t you marvellous.

I'm not remotely immature, but I'm not great at clothes or reading how dressy a party or event is likely to be. So I'll often ask someone who's also going, what they're planning to wear. It's anyone's found it weird or immature of me, they've been kind enough not to show it.

Ok sorry

Oh cheer up

I don't see how it's childish; it's the last thing I can imagine actual children discussing.

Some people find clothes interesting. So what?

Disclaimer: I don't give a shit about clothes, I just think people are entitled to have interests.

You probably have a much more active and varied social life than I do.

But that doesn't make you more mature then me. We simply have different lifestyle it seems

This. You sound like a bit of a prat. Is it really any skin off your nose?

Does light bend round you?
Myriad reasons...
Don't want to feel left out
Don't want to stand out
Not sure of dress code
Want to feel included
Don't want to look like a numpty
Want to gauge opinion
General banter
Scared

I could go on.

You caring about it it trivial. It's a perfectly normal thing to ask 🤷🏻‍♀️

YABU.