AIBU to buy the necklace?

[Weetabixagain]

A jewellery shop local to me closed down late last year. There was a gorgeous necklace in the window that I’d been looking at for ages, but I didn’t buy it. It was really unique looking and Ive never seen another like it. But at the time, I didn’t think I could justify spending that much on myself.
Since the shop has shut I’ve had major regret about not buying it. So much so that I started googling and looking around for another necklace similar, when lo and behold, I’ve found the exact necklace on eBay! I did some searching around on sold catalogs for auction houses and it looks like the shop sold off some of its stock since they were shutting down, and it’s ended up with another seller who has put it on eBay.
However, it’s £300. I’m currently on maternity leave, so things are tight at the moment.
I have savings I’ve been keeping for clothes and makeup, but I feel guilty spending that amount in one go. However, I know I’ll be so sad if someone else buys it! It’s the sort of item I’d keep forever (18k gold).
I feel like I’ve been give a second chance to buy it!

Would I be unreasonable to buy it?? Help!

I hope you manage to get it. I would look at it as a gift for yourself for going through birthing a child. I’ve just bought myself a pair of earrings after going through surgery, they were a gift for myself and I feel it’s justified 😁.

A small local jeweller was closing down after 50 years and had a beautiful pair of pear earrings that I coveted.
Everything was 50% off.

I told DH as he was at a loss for what to get me for Christmas.
He went by the shop for a week but it was closed.
We assumed the closing down sale was complete.

The next day I walked by and it was open again-the gentleman owner had been poorly.

I never wanted something so much until I couldn't have them.
I bought them then and there and relieved him of the stress!

Enjoy the necklace @Weetabixagain

Buy it, life's too short etc.

@Weetabixagain I desperately wanted a large beautifully carved rocking horse {Antique}
I bought one -many years have passed, and I still get daily pleasure out of looking at him- I never had one as a child, and desperately wanted one.
My excuse ? ''It's never too late to have a happy childhood'' - his old owners were lovely.

Have you done an image search on google to see if it's stocked anywhere else? It may be something that is in stock all year round on another website and then you don't have to rush into it?
Do you have access to other funds if you needed an emergency three hundred quid in the future? If so, I would definitely go for it.

Buy it! A wee investment to celebrate this pregnancy 🩷 then show us, I NEEEEED to see it

When Liberty shoe department first opened I was mooching through and there was a pair of the palest lavender slip on pixie( as in fairy pixie) Chloe ankle boots in the softest of soft suede. The sort of boots that you can almost guarantee that on the first day you wore them it would rain, or you would step in a dead pizza or something. They weren’t really boots for wearing, they were boots for putting on a shelf and stroking, but I wouldn’t have had the willpower. And if I had bought them I would have ruined them, worn them to death, but I would have loved them til the end.

What a wonderful post! Liberty's is lovely - I know just the kind of boot you mean, Just for stroking.
I can imagine the smell of them as well, that sweetish new suede scent.
They would have had to have been house shoes only.

The Universe is sending you a message - there is no such thing as coincidence. It is meant for you.

Email the seller and say you like it and explain the situation. Either they'll sell it to you for less or they won't.

And if you need to justify it yourself think of it as a future (maybe) present to your baby (if it's a girl!).

Overinvested in this now - please make sure you update us OP! Some things are just meant to be ours... you can't argue with destiny!

There was a one of a kind ring I wanted as an engagement / wedding ring and decided against it and regretted it. A year later on a whim I checked eBay and it was there! I made an offer and I now own the ring that I really regretted not getting!
Buy the necklace!

I often think (and am proved to myself) that if you're thinking about it so much then it's a sign from the universe (or your bank or credit card!) to buy it.

If it's something that will give you joy whenever you wear it, then buy it. I often think that if I buy something extravagant - if I wear it a lot then I x (times) the amount of times I could/would wear it and if it evens out then I get it.

I really need you to buy it! Get all the other stuff you need on Ebay and vinted to keep the universe in balance. I promised it will bring you joy x

I agree.

I failed to buy a cat sculpture (I don't even like cats!) also about 25 years ago when I saw it in Debenhams.

It's still there, in my mind, and I often think it would lovely in this corner, or on that unit, just to finish off a room.

Buy it before someone else does and it's gone forever!

Make an offer anyway. Contact them and offer £240 then you can move up in £10s.

Voting has closed now, but I agree with others- you can afford it, so get it. Sometimes we see items and like them, go away and think about it, and decide they weren’t for us after all. You’ve a done the thinking and gone looking for it. You clearly really want it and it sounds like you can afford it, so get it.
Then post a picture of it. 😊

Expensive items of jewellery tend to be slow to sell on eBay. If it’s £300 that suggests a buy it now item, or do you mean it’s been bid up to that price ? If buy it now, does the listing have an option to make the seller an offer ? If so try that first. If not, then you could also look at the listing to see how long it’s been on, how many ‘watchers’ there are and whether this is the first attempt to sell it, or if it’s been relisted. If it looks as though there hasn’t been much interest try messaging the seller and ask if they would be prepared to consider a lower price for a quicker sale. If they agree and relist with a lower price you need to get in fast before someone else does. Ultimately it depends on how badly you want it and if you can scrimp to afford it. Good luck whatever you decide.

Do you have a birthday or anniversary coming up on the next few months? If so I'd be asking DH if it (or part of the cost) could be an early present. That's what I sometimes do if I want something that feels too extravagant - feel less guilty if it's a present!

In the circumstances you describe, I would buy it.

It's not a whim, it's something you really want.

The decision making process I employ when faced with similar decisions is this.

What will you regret most in 6 months time? Having bought it or having not bought it?

And, if the worst comes to the worst, you can always resell it in the exact same way that you bought it.

Click on watch. Leave it for a few days and many shops offer you a discount.

Buy it. Just had a baby? It can be a “push present “ to yourself. Also the years ahead will be full of money spent on someone else. Treat yourself this time. May be handed down to this baby someday. Wear clothes you own and dig out some old makeup from under the sink or beg and borrow from friends for a bit to mentally make up for the $$.

We always regret the things we didn't do more than the things we did. Buy it!

Yeah buy it.

I still think about a pair of leather lace front knee boots (sort of pirate-ish, but lovely) in my exact half size, last in the shop in the sale, that I didn’t buy 20 years ago. Regret it to this day. I feel like the whole course of my life might have been different if I bought them 😭😅

Depending how much money you have saved, I'd go for it. On ebay -which I didn't realise until recently- when saving items in watched items...the seller can then send you offers for the item.