To not want child I don't know bunking in with us?

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We are going away soon to attend a wedding. Me, dh and our ds age 8. We are staying for a week as the wedding is quite far but in a great location so we decided to turn it into a holiday.

My sister and bil, and my sister's friend (I'll call her Judy) and Judy's dh and child, are also attending the wedding and will be staying in the same accommodation. It's a large B&B house with individual rooms/apartments.

I don't know Judy other than to say hello (this is relevant).

Dh and I booked our accommodation first, it's a one bed apartment with kitchen and sofa bed in the lounge for our son. We told my sister about it and she and her dh booked another of the apartments and decided to also make a few days of it too, fine.

Sister told Judy about the B&B and Judy then booked up the last room. Judy's room is only a double room rather than an apartment. My sister has told Judy that her dd can bunk in with us for the week and share the sofa bed with our ds. Also that Just can share our kitchen.

The dd is 12 or 13 afaik. We don't know Judy or the dd. I've spoken to Judy in passing but I've never even met the child.

I've said no but my sister is saying I'm being selfish as Judy hasn't got room and the dd will have to sleep on an airbed.

Judy needs to cancel her booking and find herself suitable accommodation elsewhere. Everyone can still meet up and spend time together even if they are staying in different places.

Hi Sister

It’s a real shame Judy can’t count. The best I can offer is sending Judy and her Husband a link to a camp bed on Amazon. I’ve also got an old sleeping bag from Millets she’s welcome to. It’s not my fault she has paid for unsuitable accommodation for her family. Under no circumstances do I want a 12/13 year girl sharing a sofa bed with DS. He’s 8! They’ve never met. It’s his holiday too! Surely even you can see this is a recipe for disaster? This is our week off, a family holiday if you will, do I want to host another child? Did I want to go away as a big old, jolly group? NO THANK YOU! You are far more accommodating than me, so ask said 13 year girl to squeeze in the middle of you and your DH? Thought not!

This has got to be the height of CFery.
Not a snowballs chance in hell would I be OK with this
Get them told!!

Cancel your apartment and stay somewhere else.

No to a strange kid in your room.

No to anyone else using your kitchen.

Your sister isn't being very nice.

In hindsight I wish I kept it quiet where we are staying. We're making a week of it so the apartment suits us perfectly.

Ah, but she thinks she is! She thinks she’s doing this other family an immense favour! If I was OP, I’d be tempted to look for other accommodation!

"I've said no but my sister is saying I'm being selfish as Judy hasn't got room and the dd will have to sleep on an airbed."

How exactly is that your problem??? 😂

This has made me laugh out loud.

I need to start being like this with my sister because she has pulled many stunts like this over the years under the pretence of helping everyone out.

To get this clear, (I often get the wrong end of the stick on these)
You have a boy aged 8
Judy has a 12 yr old girl
The children will be sharing a sofa bed.
Is Judy happy with that? Is the daughter happy with that arrangement? What does your boy say?

In fact, under no circumstances would my DH want a random 12yo girl sleeping in his accommodation. This is all bringing back a long-buried memory of my uncle being accused of inappropriate behaviour by a friend of his daughter's who'd gone round to "play" (as it used to be called back then, just hanging out we'd call it now). He'd done absolutely nothing wrong, but the girl was troubled and acting out. Terrible situation for her, her home life was a complete mess and she was seeking attention. It also caused terrible problems for him which he never fully managed to shake off (he's passed now).

Just no. I'm guessing your sister doesn't have any DC of her own?

The number of threads on here about "helpful" sisters and their "nice" ideas, I'm glad I only have brothers 😂

Yes only I said no. I haven't even mentioned it to my ds because I said no. We don't even know the girl because the mother is my sister's pal not mine.

Problem is sister has got huffy and says I'm being unkind. Her pov is that the children will love it and it will be one big happy camping trip. It's a wedding so we all have to pull together and make do

If your sister has booked a similar style apartment she could put Judy's daughter up on their sofa bed

Tough shit, just fucking tell her no

My response would be: “LOL absolutely fucking not, don’t be so fucking weird!”

Making a 13 year old girl share a bed with an 8 year old boy is completely fucking weird and that nobody in these two families actually knows one another is even more bizarre

The old chestnut is apt here...
No is a complete sentence

i don’t think Judy and her DD are even up for this ridiculous bed sharing situation. Judy is probably trying to think of a way out of it.

And here’s where I point you back to my earlier suggestion to just laugh at your sister’s huffing.

Her POV amounts to diddly and squat and should be ridiculed at every turn

we all have to pull together and make do 🤣🤣 bollocks to that, it's a wedding, not WW11!

Absolutely!!!!

I don't think there is a sofa bed in their room, all of the apartments/rooms are slightly different. Even so, it's not up to us to accommodate the child in our son's sofa bed.

So your sister is organizing a family bunk up that inconveniences everyone except herself? Stick to your guns Op!

Just say the plan is to have a romantic getaway with your husband and actually you were hoping your sister would have your child while you and your husband had some very loud and adventurous sex. So no can do sadly.

There’s no way the 14 year old girl wants to spend a week sleeping on a sofa bed with an 8-year old boy in an apartment where she doesn’t know anyone - she absolutely wants to stay with her parents.

Your sister is odd.