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To not wait with my wife for her message?

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Cnthnfne · 01/04/2024 21:33

I’ll keep this brief: I (38M) was shopping with my wife (36F) and children (DS9 & DD7). After we had done most of our shopping, DW wanted to get a massage at a massage stall.

As we joined the queue, I asked DD is she wanted to wait in the queue with DW or if she wanted to visit a few shops with me & DS.
She said she’d wait with DW and I went off to another shop with DS.

After 5 mins, DW phoned me and said she wanted to go home: after 5 mins of waiting DD became bored and starter complaining about the wait and DW left the queue.

When I got back to them, DW was raging, annoyed at me for not staying and waiting with her. I offered to wait in line for her whilst she shopped but DW just walked off, towards the car park.

the journey back was in complete silence. She has been felling unwell lately, and perhaps I should have been more thoughtful but I feel her walking off and then it not talking to me is an overreaction.
we had some days book off this week but I fear they will be wasted as she’ll be in a foul mood.

OP posts:
Iwasafool · 02/04/2024 18:35

PaperDoIIs · 02/04/2024 13:49

@Iwasafool tbf, you don't have to actually imagine it because it's right there in the OP.

As we joined the queue, I asked DD is she wanted to wait in the queue with DW or if she wanted to visit a few shops with me & DS.
She said she’d wait with DW and I went off to another shop with DS

Not one mention of what his wife said or did or of him informing her what's happening. Just asking his DD and leaving.

Yes there is a mention of what his wife said, When I got back to them, DW was raging, annoyed at me for not staying and waiting with her. Nothing about the wife being upset about him leaving the child just that she was annoyed that him and the children didn't wait with her.

FilthyforFirth · 02/04/2024 18:38

Why should you be a mind reader? DW should have said, 'No DD you go with dad'.

She should have specified if she wanted to wait alone. Though I think its weird and selfish to do this when out with family anyway.. yanbu

MegMarchHare · 02/04/2024 18:54

StormingNorman · 02/04/2024 18:10

Why are you on an online forum?

Everyone is entitled to express themselves and share their viewpoint. We never got both sides of the story, most of the incidents we discuss are relatively petty because that’s the stuff of real life and everybody who posts could be told to bugger off and speak to the people involved IRL.

Well, I'm a mum, on Mumsnet. If anyone thought I was being a dick for posting a certain thread on a certain forum, they would be free to tell me so. I'm tired of men coming here to score points against women.

StormingNorman · 02/04/2024 19:19

MegMarchHare · 02/04/2024 18:54

Well, I'm a mum, on Mumsnet. If anyone thought I was being a dick for posting a certain thread on a certain forum, they would be free to tell me so. I'm tired of men coming here to score points against women.

He’s not trying to score points. It comes across to me as his batshit crazy wife gaslighting him and he is trying to work out whether he was in the wrong. In his follow up posts he makes far for allowances for her than I would. Stroppy mate needs to grow up.

Amara123 · 02/04/2024 19:22

No matter what "side" anyone is on, in this thread, no one actually knows what happened.
The best we can do is offer the OP a range of viewpoints for him to consider and reflect on, maybe explore with his wife.
Anger and accusations between posters is not helpful to the OP.

BarryTaylor · 02/04/2024 20:16

MegMarchHare · 02/04/2024 18:54

Well, I'm a mum, on Mumsnet. If anyone thought I was being a dick for posting a certain thread on a certain forum, they would be free to tell me so. I'm tired of men coming here to score points against women.

Calm down love.

Nowayhayday · 02/04/2024 20:34

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