To think it won’t be hard to conceive?

[Wedonttalkaboutprunesno]

Baby #3?

but I’m approaching that age where fertility starts it’s decline but I do have a high AMH.

our first were 7 months and first month so would it stand to reason that #3 would be the same?

my age worries me a bit but I spoke to my GP and they were quite dismissive of any concerns, and said if I’ve conceived 2 naturally there’s no reason to think a third would be challenging

Honestly? You have absolutely no way of knowing. Secondly infertility is a real thing, but equally, you could get lucky first time- many do!

That's like asking how long is a piece of string. Good luck with it!

There’s no way of knowing for sure but like you i’d assume luck was on your side.

Well it will be easy until it isn't. No way of anyone knowing.

Every mum I know (including me) wanted more childten than she was able to have, and had been tricked by our culture into believing that mid thirties is an easy yime to have kids.

My eggs worked fine at 31 and stopped working permanently at age 33. IVF didn’t help. I wish you better luck.

I’m ttc#3. So far 2.5 years. Starting IVF next month. Totally fed up. #1 took 4 years , #2 first month trying and it’s looking like it’ll be a long journey for #3 (I have PCOS)

See that’s the thing, I wanted to know if maybe I should look into any sort of tests, I had my amh done a while ago but I’m utterly clueless, because I don’t know if I’d pursue fertility treatments in the form of ivf for a third so wanted to know like what tests the gp would recommend (I’d pay private) but didn’t get a lot of success answer wise

Wish you all the success in the world babe

Do you realise that's a really goady, nasty OP you've posted?

If you want to ask the question, fine. There are ways of doing that. But you didn't need to post it as a smug AIBU, did you?

I'm not sure that the OP intended it to be goady.
She was just asking for opinions.

Which is why I asked 'do you realise?'

I know people can become a little unaware of how they come across, but I do think this was crass.

I was unlucky with our third try. Concieved the first two quickly (at 30 and 32). Tried for a third at 34 and stopped trying after 5 years. Tests showed nothing wrong and we couldn’t afford IVF etc (and also felt we didn’t want go that far when we already had 2 children).

If you’re worried there’s no harm in being informed and prepared, I wish I had looked into things sooner.

It wasn’t my intention at all, I was saying actually I’m worried it won’t be that simple, but I saw my GP and their response was on the lines of you’ve conceived 2 times before it will be fine…

so my aibu is, is that statement actually correct? I’m not sure, I went there seeing (due to my age and larger potential gap between 2 and 3) that maybe things have changed and what tests what dr recommend, but was told basically it will be fine because you’ve done it before.

definitely didn’t mean it in a nasty way

I’m not sure why you’re preempting all these problems before you’ve even started to try? It should be ok if you already have two but like other posters have said, you never know until you try

I just don’t know where to look or what tests to request

You don’t need any tests. There’s no actual problem. It’s like me going for a liver test, why would I? Or a hearing test? Why would the GP waste resources testing the AMH levels of a female that has conceived naturally twice with no issues. Start trying, if you fall pregnant, yay! If not, pursue it with specialists. But they will be able to rule out numerous issues instantly with both you and your husband due to the fact you easily conceived before.

You’ve not stated your age, which is hugely relevant, if you’re 42 I can see why you’re concerned. If you’re 32, I wouldn’t worry.

Start trying.

So I don’t get my heart set on something which would hurt if it didn’t or couldn’t happen

I conceived all of my babies very easily, but I had a great many miscarriages, too.

I conceived baby number four at the age of 38, in the second month of trying.

Stands to reason? . Er, no.

There’s loads of tests you could get but it’d be rather bizarre to get them unless you’re trying and it’s not happening.

have a look at the price list of your nearest private clinic and it’ll give you an idea of what’s on offer- sperm analysis, internal check of fallopian tubes etc. But it’s very common to come up clear on everything and still have issues, the same as you could have a ‘low’ result of something yet conceive first time! It’s really not an exact science.

When you get a bit older it's not necessarily conceiving that the problem, it's miscarriages. I had 4 between my 2 children.

I conceived my third DC the first month of trying in my forties. A friend of mine had 3DC, all conceived in her forties. Many of my friends have had a pregnancy in their forties. The reality is the vast majority of women can carry a healthy pregnancy to term in their late thirties and into their early forties. If you've had two healthy pregnancies then your chances of conceiving again are much higher than for someone of the same age who has never been pregnant. Go and have sex with your husband instead of worrying about a possibility on here.

How old are you?

Unfortunately Anyone attempting to have a child runs the risk of heart break though as anything can happen whether it’s your first pregnancy or 21st. I think this is just an unavoidable risk of the process sadly OP

Thanks for replying. But no, it's got nothing to do with being 'unreasonable'. There's a TTC forum on MN.