To think it won’t be hard to conceive?

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Baby #3?

but I’m approaching that age where fertility starts it’s decline but I do have a high AMH.

our first were 7 months and first month so would it stand to reason that #3 would be the same?

my age worries me a bit but I spoke to my GP and they were quite dismissive of any concerns, and said if I’ve conceived 2 naturally there’s no reason to think a third would be challenging

What a weird, goady post

It's not a vast majority - over 50% of pregnancies at age 42 will end in miscarriage.

Your age is a huge factor in this so I’m awaiting the potential drip feed.

Not my intention. It was the quote from the GP

35, I said in my OP the age when fertility starts to decline

It’s not about having a high egg count or conceiving quickly though. You need to conceive and carry to term (or near enough) and the baby be healthy and well. Statistically, as you get older, that’s as much a part of the concern as conceiving in the first place.

It’s a medical fact that the ‘vast majority’ don’t manage to have healthy babies in their late thirties and early 40s. Plenty do yes but it’s not the vast majority at all. Fertility declines with age, chances of miscarriage increase quite a lot.

But I’m not ttc, genuinely questioning the reasonableness of it being ‘easy’ to conceive if you have before

You did not say your age in your OP.

Yabu. This is a shitty post.

From the age of 35, I conceived six times. I had a first trimester miscarriage, a second trimester miscarriage and a neonatal death. All were conceived within three cycles but there was nothing easy about it as conception was just the start.

OP, you've conceived two naturally, within the normal range of time it usually takes. You're by no means old at 35, especially as you've already had two children. I strongly suspect you know this, and even if you didn't mean to be goady it does come across a bit that way especially as you've posted in AIBU. If you want a third baby, just get on with trying.

At 35 I wouldn’t waste your time getting fertility tests before even deciding to TTC, they wouldn’t tell you about your chances of miscarriage anyway. If you want a third baby now is the time to be cracking on and trying.

I’ve just gone through a bit of a rough patch work wise, so ideally wouldn’t start yet but would if I knew it might be a longer road, but equally wouldn’t want to wait and there be a problem, compounded with age

Felt it was implied when I said that age when fertility starts to decline

I fell pregnant the first month of trying with my first in my early thirties. Roll on 3 years and suffered secondary infertility trying for my 2nd. Spent years and years and £££’s on IVF.
My SIL had a very similar experience but didn’t do IVF.
Fertility for women does seem to really drop after the age of 35 and people tend to always think that this happens later.

Fertility is very unpredictable. My AMH was excellent -way better than my friends daughter who was 20 years younger than me. I was only able to conceive with IVF

Why would anyone no from that comment? Fertility starts to decline at 30 and then spends up later on before dropping off a Cliff. If you were 30 it’d be easier, if you were posting this at 42 obviously it’d all be different. At 35 who knows really. But if you mess around getting tests you are further running out of time, so I guess it depends how essential a third is to you. I absolutely wouldn’t take for granted you will easily have a third.

Eh? You’re not trying to conceive? But worrying that if you were, would it be a problem?

EXACTLY what the GP has said ‘At 35 if you have conceived twice before with no problem it should be reasonably easy’.

This is a very strange post indeed. TTC is so bloody traumatic for so many women, you had an easy journey and are creating problems where there are none. You said you wanted to know to avoid any hurt, you can’t do that, that’s life. You just never know, but looking at the bare bones of it - you’ll be fine!!!

I thought 35 was ‘the age’

im definitely NOT taking it for granted, rather the opposite. Worried if I mentally commit to ttc and it doesn’t happen, I don’t think I could pursue IVF (the financial costs with my other children etc)

Some sources cite 30 as the age fertility starts to decline. YABU.

Don't be so soft.

Why even waste the GP’s time before you even start trying. You struggle to conceive then you seek assistance. Nae ken the NHS is struggling and folk canna get appointments for actual problems?

No, we’re deciding whether to go for it, ultimately it’s not a fantastic time work wise but my cycle has been all over the place, should’ve put that in the OP. I’ve got quite a bit of anxiety about it actually.

the ‘if’ it would be so easy, if actually I’ve been so goddamn lucky thus far and my luck would run out and trying for a third feels like pushing my luck etc, but ultimately I really do want a 3rd, there’s a lot of reasons for and against

But TTC is only the first step of it. Chances of miscarriage or other things being wrong are higher, the fact is if you want a third you have to take a roll of the dice and accept what comes with it. With two healthy kids many would stick with what they have, but it doesn’t mean you should. But those private tests won’t give you all the answers, the GP can’t say much else at this stage. So I’d look at it as a holistic thing rather than just ‘should I commit to TTC’ before deciding if that makes sense.