To think it won’t be hard to conceive?

[Wedonttalkaboutprunesno]

Baby #3?

but I’m approaching that age where fertility starts it’s decline but I do have a high AMH.

our first were 7 months and first month so would it stand to reason that #3 would be the same?

my age worries me a bit but I spoke to my GP and they were quite dismissive of any concerns, and said if I’ve conceived 2 naturally there’s no reason to think a third would be challenging

And no actually, you said ‘to conceive’. So yes, guess you are enjoying the wind up. You and that poster suit eachother!

ok, this is getting a little silly, I did say to the GP we think we want another baby, but here I’ve used conceiving but you’re right they aren synonyms but in my OP I meant conceive and have said baby

over 40 is what they consider an older mum these days. I conceived a DC easily at 40 despite earlier fertility issues. Good luck, although what I would say is that it would be better prep to consider all the things you have now to be grateful for if it doesn’t happen than worrying about the reasons why it won’t!

Yes you are being silly. Like people would come on your goady thread in AIBU and guess your age from your vague declining fertility statement and guess that you’d not gone to the GP specifically ask ask about TTC, and then also guess you’d had an operation on your cervix. Clearly we’re all stupid and you’ve been perfectly clear. You’ve actually ignored many of the genuine answers and kept answering the poster who’s obsessed with asking you what you want the GP to say. All your posts have been about fertility declining with age but now suddenly it’s obviously also about carrying a baby after a cervix operation. Not sure how we didn’t guess.

didnt say you had to guess, I just didn’t want to talk about the surgery, just wanted to keep it high level.

ive read every helpful comment that’s actually answered the question rather than pick holes in my GP appointment.

I actually defended your GP appointment, your answers have still been deliberately obtuse to the things I mentioned though. I stand by what I said about enjoying winding posters up and being obtuse. Glad you feel like you’ve got something useful out of your thread though.

You honestly just don't know

Took me five years to conceive DD and had two losses on that journey (age 26-30). Then tried for #2 (aged 32) thinking it could be as long and caught on second cycle.

Whereas I know friends who conceived quickly for their first and have struggled with subsequent children.

Everybody is unique and many factors influence

I’m not that unkind.

its just what I meant, I’ve heard 35 being ‘the age’ and ‘have a baby’ to me implied it all. But that’s to me, maybe I’m assuming all think like I do.

What a pointless thread.

Not sure if anyone else has mentioned this but you can try Hertility for tests and/or have a fertility mot done privately which will give you some clue with what you are working with. Good luck @Wedonttalkaboutprunesno

I conceived my first, first cycle trying and 8 months into trying for my second. It's hard because I feel like I'm doing something wrong.

How old are you OP?

I'm about to turn 33

First took 8 months at age 27
Second took 1 month and I was EBF and hadn't had a period.
3rd was a one time Woopsie not planned at 31

Took me 4 cycles to conceive at 34. I would be thinking about risk of miscarriage and genetic abnormalities which also increase with age. When I had the 12 week screening tests my age was a factor in increasing the risk of problems.

I’m 35.

my first was a bit longer and harder we had a lot of comments on how ‘long’ we’d been married and not had kids yet so it put the pressure on when we actually did ttc, stress through the roof, so the 6/8 months (I can’t remember the actual time scale sorry) felt ages. I got diagnosed with pcos then too, I’ve since been told I don’t actually have it as my ovaries aren’t multi follicular. Second caught the first egg PP. so I guess I’m just a bit worried

I’d Get the NIPT test at like 10-12 weeks

That’s fair although the test won’t mitigate if there are any problems, it will just tell you for certain.

I really don't understand what you're looking to get out of this thread, OP. No one on here can magically predict your fertility and you must realise that. Age is a factor, but not the only factor in TTC.

I got pregnant the first month we tried with DC1. It took us over two years to convince DC2 and I was still well under 35. I doubt any randoms on MN could have accurately predicted that happening. Asking people online to guess whether you'll have trouble TTC or not is completely illogical.

Read a book “it starts with an egg”
it explains what tests you need to do and diet/supplements suggestions.

Been trying for number 3 since last spring. First was first month, second was within 6 months. I am mid thirties 🤷‍♀️

Nothing is certain. But at your age it is reasonable to assume it will be ok.

Things are finite, though. From my experience DC1 was easy (I was on the pill), DC2 was easy (first month trying), then we had 4 losses before giving up on TTC DC3. That was age 39-40 however.

I think I have that book!

id forgotten it even existed!

thank you!

Sorry for your losses lovely x

@Wedonttalkaboutprunesno thank you. It was so hard but we've come through it and are past that stage now.

Just wanted to highlight that age does start to come into it eventually! Good luck with your ttc.

Thanks babes x

I fell pregnant at 32 immediately, but ended in MC. Since then, and that was 9 years ago I haven't managed to get pregnant again. I have done all the tests and treatments (including ivfs) under the sun and still nothing. So no, there are no tests to guarantee your success. Btw, my tests and my husband's are perfect.