To think it won’t be hard to conceive?

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Baby #3?

but I’m approaching that age where fertility starts it’s decline but I do have a high AMH.

our first were 7 months and first month so would it stand to reason that #3 would be the same?

my age worries me a bit but I spoke to my GP and they were quite dismissive of any concerns, and said if I’ve conceived 2 naturally there’s no reason to think a third would be challenging

Why have you posted in AIBU? not in Conception?

I was there for another Reason and just asked the dr, not got a specific appointment for that purpose

No wonder the doctor fobbed you off then. You don’t just go in with a list of unrelated complaints. What did you want her to do exactly?

What I don't understand is have you actually been ttc and have had no success? Or are you looking for the experiences of others? What is it that you want people to address?

Hi OP, the NHS will not do any tests at all when you are not even actively ttc and it’s worth noting that with children already you will not be entitled to much on the NHS.

However if you want to then there are lots of private clinics who offer “fertility MOT” type things so you could always do that if you want some info.

That said though, none of those gives any guarantee re secondary infertility so either way it is really a “until you try you’ll never know” situation x

It was an unrelated query but in the general vicinity to make it relevant

i guess if it’s actually ‘easy’ if you’ve conceived and carried to term a few times before even when considering age

Sorry but this is quite crass and unnecessary. You’ve had two kids. If you want a third, start trying. Asking the opinion of internet strangers will not get you pregnant. There is no way to know if it’ll happen but the odds are in your favour. Of course you have to prepare for it not happening but be grateful for what you do have

You can’t go in with - for example an ingrown hair on your labia - and ask about conception. Again, what did you really expect the GP to say?

Mmm secondary infertility is a real thing. No one can honestly predict. We can guess using the law of averages, and basing our advice on our own experiences but that's all.

So - conceived first baby fine. Then four years of secondary infertility, combined with recurrent miscarriages when I did get pregnant. Gave birth to dc2 at 35.

I've recently turned 36 and have just had a BFP the first month of trying for baby number 2. I've had two previous pregnancies - both conceived the first month of trying, my first ended in miscarriage.

I don't think YABU to think you'll conceive ok with baby number 3 but nobody really knows as there are so many factors at play. Age really isn't the biggest one at 35 for most people!

All my friends have had no problem conceiving in their mid - late 30's, on the other hand in my younger sisters (now very early 30's) friendship group 4 have needed IVF - 3 have had babies.

Good luck if you decide to TTC OP!

GP could have advised her to make an appointment to discuss it if they thought it would help. Plenty of people ask another quick question while at a GP appointment, the GP isn’t a robot they are fine with this. I no OPs post has been quite goady but asking the GP isn’t really the issue here.

You just don't know I'm afraid. I fell pregnant first time with my first, had a couple of losses conceived quickly and then my second successful pregnancy took almost 3 years to conceive (starting at 32) It's such a luck of the draw situation

no way of knowing.
i'm 40 and get pregnant at the drop of a hat.

Nobody bloody knows, do they?

I conceived easily but had loads of miscarriages before my eldest (all through my 20s), then started ttc for my second in my early 30s and I didn’t conceive for a year. I contacted the GP, then conceived 4 times in 10 months without treatment, stopped ttc while waiting for IVF, and then conceived without even trying two months later.

How frequently do you get pregnant?

But there is nothing to help - she wasn’t even trying for a baby. They don’t get involved for at least a year.

That's deliberately obtuse.

I no that but OP clearly didn’t.

I don’t think I understand your question.

You had no problems conceiving twice before, and you’re now at an age where fertility starts to decline? Then I’d hazard a guess that you’ll have no trouble conceiving this time, either

I conceived my third the first month we tried.

I would assume so but that's all anyone can do. If you're ovulating and your cycle is regular, you've got a great chance every month especially since you know there aren't other issues at play.

I wouldn't go for tests unless you've had a year of no luck.

No, most GPs are not fine with you veering off the subject and getting into another area entirely.
Most of them have a ten minute slot per patient, and will only discuss whatever the original problem was.
Understandably.

It wasn’t ‘another area entirely’ though was it.

I think genetics play a role as well. My mother carried healthy, easily conceived pregnancies well into her mid-forties, as did my sister, so I would assume myself to have a pretty good chance of that as well were I to continue having babies. Conception isn’t as much the concern (from what I understand) as egg quality and odds of a healthy term pregnancy. In your shoes I would not be prematurely worried.

But the GP told the OP this and she’s still whittering on about it, when in actual fact she was just wasting the GPS time.