To think it won’t be hard to conceive?

[Wedonttalkaboutprunesno]

Baby #3?

but I’m approaching that age where fertility starts it’s decline but I do have a high AMH.

our first were 7 months and first month so would it stand to reason that #3 would be the same?

my age worries me a bit but I spoke to my GP and they were quite dismissive of any concerns, and said if I’ve conceived 2 naturally there’s no reason to think a third would be challenging

If you wish to have tests done privately then why not contact a fertility clinic and enquire about the tests and procedures they do? It's not something I've had experience of but I'd assume they'd be interested in how long you have been ttc?

I conceived dd1 and dd2 within a month of trying at 29 and 34 respectively. Ds was conceived after I missed the mini pill once at age 30. With dd2 I had no reason to believe that conceiving would be difficult or take longer other than increasing age but I'm a glass half full person and would have preferred to have dealt with any issues had they arisen. They didn't.

If you feel it would help you mentally to enquire then do so. Personally I'd just crack on with ttc.

You could have an AMH test but it won't give you the answer.

Plenty of people have absolutely fine AMH levels but struggle with primary or secondary unexplained infertility.

There is really no way to know, you just need to crack on if you're ready

It is not just about conceiving but also about whether your pregnancy is successful. There is a higher rate of miscarriage as you get older.

If you want a third child it may be best to just get on and try. I’m not sure that having tests is going to give you a definitive answer.

Dc1 conceived at 26. No trying!
Dc2 conceived at 28, first month of trying.
Dc3 conceived at 39, after 4 years of trying.
Same husband.

I conceived after two cycles but miscarried. I naively assumed it would be easy to conceive again but it took over two years. Very depressing time. I'd like another, but no luck after three years.

I know several other people who conceived easily the first time and took years the second time. I also know people who couldn't conceive for years and went through ivf to have their first, only to then have a surprise second baby naturally very soon after.

So basically I don't think you can tell or assume.

@Wedonttalkaboutprunesno I get what you're saying. It's heartbreaking trying and it not working, and just because you already have children doesn't mean it's any easier.

Ultimately you just don't know what will happen and tests won't help either. You can get unexplained infertility or can end up getting pregnant against the odds. I think you need to decide if it's worth trying with the potential for it to not happen or decide to not try and be happy with what you have. Trying sooner rather than later is probably better if you want to go down that route as it can be so frustrating being older and wishing you had started earlier as the odds get stacked against you.

I really can’t see what you’re so upset about. Unless you’re coming at this from a more sensitive position?

My GP said exactly the same to me (and I hadn't even spoken about conceiving again, wasn't on my radar at that point anyway), I was just mentioning that my cycle hadn't returned regularly after my child was born. I was 33 with a toddler that had been conceived while I was on the pill so presumably I'd been pretty fertile at that point, and as it turned out Iwell in peri menopause, periods completely stopped by age 36ish.
Not trying to scare you, but there is just no way to know, if you want a baby start trying