SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

[Eastereggcheek]

SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

🤣🤣🤣 Are you genuinely pissed off about this? (I stopped giving mine eggs when they were about 14.)
How is this even an issue? 😆

Ah yes, April Fools. You got me!

I’m going to assume you are being sarcastic like I was😅

@SantaBarbaraMonica I'm sorry! I missed it 🤦‍♀️!

Then older dd has had five more years of eggs so unfair on younger dd.

My family did cut off at 18.

Going out and buying an egg and pretending it's from her aunt will not end well. What if/when she thanks her aunt for her egg? That would be very awkward!

Of course! I bet this is an April fools as I’ve never ever known anyone to be upset about something like this. Good spot @blackrabbitwhiterabbit

I'd be shocked if an 18 felt slighted over not getting an Easter egg. Also, if you follow the rule that eggs stop once the youngest is 18, isn't that unfair in the youngest? It stops for them at 18, but the oldest had it for a few years post 18?

To be furious is ridiculous. It's kind of anyone to give eggs to your kids, and to expect them to continue past adulthood is unreasonable.

Well buy a wee egg for your older DD as she hasn't got one from Auntie, but don't pretend it's from your SiL. You must surely sometimes treat your adult child differently to the one who has just become a teenager. It's not fair to either to pretend they're not at different life stages.

What I find more shocking is that you expect SIL to keep buying Easter eggs for your older child until she turns 23?!? Jeezo, I’m sure she’ll survive without a bloody Easter egg - maybe she could even buy one for herself!

Presents for nieces and nephews stop at 18 for me, they will get something for their 21st and if they celebrate big events but that’s it. I’d never consider buying an 18yo an Easter egg.

She’s 18, get a grip!

Where’s BIL? Is buying Easter eggs women’s work.
We use to buy a little present etc a T-shirt, but stopped when they went to senior school.
I can remember buying a pack of Easter cards(5) and giving one to DSis and she laughed and said I’m buying you a bloody card. I was just using them up.
Never bought eggs because they already got too much chocolate.

If your SIL has decided that 18 is the cut off then it will be the same situation on her birthday and Christmas.

I stopped giving my niece birthday, Christmas and Easter presents at age 18 but I will continue to gift her brother who is currently 14 for another four years.

I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek!
……the nerve to be this spiteful!

OP it’s good you have calmed down a bit now and instead, you feel it’s just ‘a bit uncomfortable.’

Nobody has the right to receive a gift. Teach your DC never to be entitled enough to expect a gift but to be truly thankful if one is given. I’m sure your 18 year old adult DD already knows this and will be gracious about this situation with the understanding that Easter eggs are lovely for children.
Its completely unnecessary to go out and buy a replacement unless you want your 18 year old to stay a child forever.

I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL! Would you find this inconsiderate?

Yes, it would be inconsiderate for you to do this. By all means buy an extra egg for your 18yo if you like, but don't pretend it's from someone else. Clearly, the aunt has thought this through - she knows that your older daughter has turned 18 since last year and that changes things in the aunt's mind. I doubt that her decision stems from meanness or spite, or even the inability to afford two eggs; she presumably thinks it's the right thing to do. Just give your younger daughter her egg when the two of you are alone. (And next time, don't play messenger - the aunt can communicate directly with her nieces, they're old enough.)

No, because then your older DD will have had eggs for more years than your younger DD...
Use 18 as the cut off age for each DD individually (or 21 if you need time to prepare your precious older DD)

I personally intend to buy my daughter an Easter egg until she tells me she's too old. I wouldn't care if a family member decided she was too old now she's 17 though. It's a chocolate egg not really worth getting worked up over.

I come from a large family with numerous aunts and uncles, resulting in a large group of cousins (15 of us!).

The rule was presents etc bought until 18 and then it stopped as it would just be too expensive.

Is dd1 really that fussed? At 18, I wouldn't have been.

Just tell your 18 year old adult daughter the Easter bunny must have made a mistake and only left one sadly 🐰

You're being massively unreasonable. 18 is an adult. I wouldn't have bought one for an 18 year old either.

Clearly OP doesn't expect the respect of a thank you, so that's another reason the aunt wouldn't have bought her an egg!

I think it’s different though when you’re buying for your own children. Mine are adults, and I buy for them and dh, but since my niece reached 16, I don’t buy for her.

I think you're making more of this than necessary. Yes, it would have been nice but at 18, I think an Easter Egg isn't a big deal.
As PPs have said, there needs to be some sort of cut-off. We have a reasonably large extended family and have stopped at 18. It's so expensive otherwise to get gifts for everyone. They're included in family events and so forth.
FWIW we don't do presents with most of the adults either.

If it stopped when younger dd was 18 then older would have 5 extra years of it and youngest will ask why it stopped when she was 18 and not 23. Tell your older dd that aunt has stopped buying her eggs now she is an adult. If she strops then you need to help her build resilience!