SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

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SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

we stop buying totally once our nieces and nephews reach 18. There has to be a cut off somewhere (large family) and adulthood seems a good place!

Oh fgs!! If I had my time again, I wouldn't have started in the first place!

I guess you will have to do the decent thing and eat the solitary egg... 🙄

Reverse?

Catch yourself on! Having a cut off of 18 is more than reasonable and an 18 year old should have the maturity to appreciate that.

She does indeed. I spent Easter with her and have come home with a lovely jar full of biscuits - Easter present and a doggy bag of food left over from the weekend.

Good question. I’m interested to hear if Op OR anyone in OPs household ever give anything in return to SIL for Easter?

I gave my friend £50 for her child’s thirteenth. Instead of asking her daughter to text to thank me for the gift she started dropping not so subtle hints about how I should text or call her teen to say happy birthday (even though I was seeing her the next day for her birthday celebration) some people are all about take take take when it comes to them and their children but don’t consider giving.

That was the last time I bought a present or sent money for any of her children.

@SantaBarbaraMonica your post is totally ridiculous, the anger over an Easter egg is stupid.

Get over your issues 🤦‍♀️!

Does your adult DD buy an egg for her auntie? If she does, you might have a point. If she doesn't you are being ridiculous. I assume you are an only child OP. Most people don't buy for adult nieces and nephews and for aunties and uncles because most people have a lot of them and it isn't affordable. If you are from a smaller family where you have always given gifts to aunties and uncles your whole life I could see how you might not realise this is normal not to be treated as a child at 18.

Imagine being 18 and feeling sad about a chocolate egg 🤣🤣 OP I’m sure she isn’t bothered and why should SIL buy chocolate eggs for an 18 year old?!

She’s an adult, she can buy her own egg. I think it’s perfectly commonplace to stop buying one once a child reaches adulthood if the child isn’t yours. Would she have bought DD1 an egg when she was 13? The cost of living means that eggs aren’t cheap like they used to be either.

🤣🤣🤣 has your 18yo not realised she’s an adult and her sibling, at 13, is not an adult? You’re being ridiculous!

Yes it can't go forever and 18 seems the appropriate age. She's an adult she can vote and do lots of other things and is now considered an adult. She shouldn't be bothered and neither should you

At 18DD may be classed as an adult, but her brain won’t fully mature until she’s 25.
Egg for DD she will love it.

In our family at 18 you join the adult £10 secret Santa! I don’t think I’ve ever bought nephews and nieces Easter eggs…
I’d probably buy my own kids Easter eggs, no matter how old they get if they happen to be home for Easter!

Oh good grief

I don’t see why it’s awkward. Does the older sister care? Children get eggs.

This is a very simply issue. You say to your 18 year that she’s had x amount of years receiving eggs, and her sister will have the same. I’m sure your 18 year old wouldn’t even care. Massive over reaction, OP. I’d just be grateful my kids had received an Easter gift for so long, a bit cheeky of you to disregard that.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I should imagine it's mature enough to understand the 18 year old cut off reasoning though.

You are massively overreacting here, there is nothing wrong with an age cut off.

they are lucky that they got an egg from your SIL at all, I have never got my nieces and nephews an egg.

Maybe the 13 year old could share......

No 18 year old really minds being told that the world now considers her an adult, even if it means no chocolate. It takes a few years for the grim realisation to set in that adult life is an endless purgatory where every day is rent day and noone gives you chocolate eggs any more. Give her a bag of mini eggs or something as a consolation prize. Or maybe a rent book.

I am also interested in your use of the word ‘spiteful’ as this implies you believe a malicious intent on the part of your SIL.

Otherwise she might have given you and your adult DD the ‘heads up’ in order to manage expectations. Or perhaps that would have caused pre-Easter drama. Only you can answer that though.

Curious as to why this task is on your SIL at all.

18 has always been the standard present cut-off with extended family in my family too.

I was just coming on here to make this point.

Who did your 18 year old buy an egg for? 18 is an adult not a child.