SIL didn’t get DD an egg bc she’s “too old”

[Eastereggcheek]

SIL has bought my younger DD, 13, an easter egg but not my older DD, 18, because she’s now an adult. I was absolutely furious when I found out! What an absolute cheek! You don’t buy one without the other. I haven’t given younger DD her egg yet as I don’t want my older one to feel left out. I’m going to go to the shops in a bit and get one for older DD and pretend it’s from SIL!

Would you find this inconsiderate? I would never have the nerve to be this spiteful!

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That would be SO UNFAIR on the younger one! The older one got 5 MORE YEARS of Easter eggs!

YABSU for your drama. Teach your kids (and yourself) not to be so entitled.

Christ, she's 18, not 8!

It doesn't matter if you're still buying your kids eggs when they're 40 but expecting others to, or to treat adults the same as younger kids, is unreasonable.

There's nothing unfair about that, your eldest has had 18 years worth of chocolate eggs and your 13 year old will stop getting them at the same age ?

Spiteful is an odd choice of words.
What makes you think her decision is based on spite?

I think it would have been nice for SIL to say something first.

Does she have many to buy do you know?

Does daughter still live at home?

What if she thanks her for it when she next sees her?

My cutoff is 18 for niece/nephew presents

That is a shitty thing to do, and I am shocked at the amount of people saying YABU @Eastereggcheek When I buy for kids in peoples families, I would buy for ALL of them, or none. No matter what the age. (As long as they are living at home.) FFS you can get a chocolate egg for £1.49! I will only stop when the YOUNGEST is 18.

Leaving one out is pretty shitty behaviour. Your older DD is 18 yes, but she is barely out of childhood, and she does have feelings. I would have got one for your other DD too, or told your SIL to take the 13 y.o's back. Ignore the people mocking you. I 100% agree with you.

I may be projecting slightly, as I have a brother 10 years younger than me, and I got all sorts of goodies from female friends of my mother's, and neighbours and the like (always had a kit-kat every Friday afternoon from the lovely elderly lady across the road when she had been food shopping.

Then my brother was born, (when I was 10, nearly 11,) and HE was everyone's favourite new toy and HE got all the goodies, the chocolate, the gifts, and the toys. I got nothing from anyone. Had a present at Christmas from a few people, but no more Easter eggs, and was told I was too old for presents at around 12-13 years old. Just got them from my parents. My little brother was showered with gifts from everyone. Aunts, cousins, neighbours, mum's friends etc etc etc.

I felt resentful and angry towards my brother for a while, but realised after a little while that it wasn't his fault. But yeah, people fussing over him and buying for him, and acting like I was fucking chopped liver, was very hurtful and upsetting. I was younger than the OP's 18 y.o. DD (it started when I was just 10-11,) but it would have still been hurtful if I was 18. But yeah anyway, the fact it DID happen to me, makes me know how hurtful it is.

@LeafRed · Today 14:12

We still buy an egg for both our children, they are 21 and 18. I wouldn't buy for one without the other, that goes for anyone else's children I would buy for too. I don't see why Easter eggs are only for children. Fuck that. Both Dh and I got an egg too.

Same here. We buy for our 2 as well. Both adults! Imagine that!* * There are some weird and rude posts on this thread!

But then the older ones get years of presents more than the youngest. That’s not really fair.

Very normal behaviour from your SIL.

If they were children under 10 then absolutely would agree with you, don't buy for 1 and not the other, but at 18? YABU OP. Don't be ridiculous!

She has to stop at some point and 18 is a very normal age to stop buying Easter Eggs for other people's children.

Surely that's what everyone does - stop at 18.

Are you expecting her to be buying her an egg when she's 42?

Why? That means older daughter has had several years more Easter eggs?

More importantly, your SIL doesn’t have to buy your kids anything at all! It’s kind of her to even bother. You sound incredibly entitled.

My DC 23 and 20 haven’t received eggs from their Grandparents for years! SILs and BILs have never bought them and we don’t buy their dc them either. How many eggs do they need?

I’m guessing by OP’s silence that she has bought SIL zero eggs but still expects eggs for her dc.

I bought my 65 year old sister some mini Easter eggs, it's just a little gesture showing people you care about them

If SIL stops when the youngest hits 18, we'll just see a post in a few years saying how unfair it is that SIL bought Easter eggs for 1 child until they were 23 but the youngest missed out because they only got eggs until they were 18 😂

Gosh yes how spiteful of her to decide all on her own

She should have consulted you first

Quite standard I think. My aunts/uncles gave Christmas and bday presents/money and Easter eggs up until each of us turned 18. 18 is old enough to understand this.

Grandparents aren't around in our case. We tend to buy a buttons egg or similar for nieces or nephews we see at Easter.

I think you are incredibly rude. You are raging that your SIL has been nice and bought your child an Easter egg. Rude! Your other daughter is an adult. It would have been nice to buy her an egg too but they didn't. Just say 'thanks' and stop being rude and ungrateful.

Your eldest daughter is 18, not 8. I’m sure she’ll get over this immense injustice eventually.

This has happened this year for my children because one is 18. But I do agree 18 is cut off point for family members buying although I have brought my 18 year old the same amount as siblings

It shouldn’t be uncomfortable really - she’s 18. You can tell her the younger one won’t get them when she turns 18 too if you do think it bothers her.

Just curious - does your Aunty have any kids? Did you get Easter eggs for them? And if she doesn’t have kids, do you give her anything in return for Easter?

I used to buy my childhood friend’s three kids Easter eggs,and birthday presents etc and then after a while I realised how one-sided it was. Their excuse would’ve been that I didn’t have kids to buy anything for but it was still massively rude that they didn’t think to get anything for me. I just pulled the plug on it all tbh.

Presumably she buys for you? Not necessarily at this occasion but other similar small gestures?