Husband stole kids' Easter eggs

[AnnBoo]

Not sure if this is unreasonable, my friends seem to agree with me but wanted an outsider's opinion...

I'll try to keep this short.

Last night my hubby went out to the pub while I stayed home with the kids. I fancied a night out myself- haven't had one in months- but didn't have the option since he wanted to see the lads. He said he would go only have a few rounds and be home by about 10:00-10:30pm, but stumbled in at about 1. I was already in bed, and woke up to the slam of the front door but fell back asleep shortly after he came in. This morning I woke up around 6am to set up the kids Easter egg hunt, but to my surprise the cupboard was empty. I then found a huge heap of cardboard and tin foil beside the sofa. All 4 Easter eggs- 2 each for the kids- were demolished, along with brown smears all over our new beige sofa. LIVID!
It's not the first time he's done this too! My 7 year old daughter's Christmas chocolate disappeared late one night, luckily with enough time to replace before Xmas day. But this time, I've had no chance to.
My kids came downstairs so excited this morning but their faces absolutely dropped as I told them what happened. My husband was hungover and dead asleep in bed until midday, when he got up I explained to him how upset he's made the kids. He didn't even bat an eyelid before he went to make his coffee.

I've asked him to stay at his mums for the next few nights, or until he replaces the chocolate (which he's refusing to do). AIBU?

Jings.

I can sort of understand having the munchies for some chocolate, being a bit drunk and disinhibited and making a very poor decision but...

the total lack of humility, apology, complete mortification that should have been present when he realised what he'd done to the children...urgh. I couldn't get past that.

@AnnBoo there's got to be more of a backstory here. He's not a good guy, is he?

You are missing the point.

Does he often behave like this and refuse to apologise or put things right?

he must be incredibly spoilt to see nothing wrong with his actions.

He is showing you what he is, believe him.

Make sure you change the locks while he’s at his mums.

@AnnBoo

So he's gone to his mum's, GOOD! Put the time to good use.

My suggestion for this period of 'freedom' is that you take a good look at the totality of your marriage, rather than focusing on just the issue of his greediness and selfishness in stealing his children's chocolate. Chances are there are a lot more problematic things in your marriage than just that.

Think carefully, are we better off with him or without him? And I don't mean financially. I mean emotionally and physically. Does he support you and the DC emotionally? Does he model a positive image to the DC? Does he help you out in practical ways and carry his share of the 'familywork'? Is he steadfast and does he keep his promises? Do you sometimes imagine what your daily life would be like without him and end up feeling that it would be less stressful, even if harder in other ways? These are only a few of the things to think about. And the most important, would he be open to changing with the help of counseling.

These aren't things you can figure out in an afternoon. They take careful consideration. And if you don't like what the answers are, careful planning to make an exit plan.

On Easter Sunday morning?

Wow what a cretin. Incredibly selfish and greedy without a single care given to his children's feelings. This will stay with them forever. What an absolute waste of space.

Why, exactly, is she getting the replacements?

@NatNoo , why on earth should she?

I hope his mum is ashamed of him, I know I would be if my DS.

how often does he go out? How come you haven’t been out for months?

I'm sure they would rather have no dad at all than this waster if this is how he treats them.

I hope this was said tongue in cheek!

What a nasty drunk your future ex husband is. Yanbu

@NatNoo you have a low bar, and OP’s DH doesn’t regret or feel remorse

This action and the lack of remorse just demonstrates what an absolutely horrible person he is. I really don't think you'd be wrong to divorce this man. Not because he ate the eggs but because he's an arsehole.

Where? Supermarkets are shut today, and in any case the shop I went to on Saturday was out of almost all large eggs, all medium eggs and all egg hunt type treats. Plus the husband was snoring until after midday and the kids were expecting their hunt when they got up. You really need to raise the bar!

Not everywhere is England. Other parts of the UK have shops open as normal on a sunday, including Easter sunday.

People without the ability to empathise or apologise or feel guilt, shame or remorse are fucking scary and don't belong in a relationship.

So don't be persuaded by anyone, like his mum that this is 'men being men'. It's not. It's a seriously disturbed individual being a seriously disturbed individual. Get rid!

The night before when she wanted to set up the hunt?! 7am?! Are you for real?

Oh look. The husband has appeared.

I don't and neither does anyone I know. Drunken bad behaviour isn't universal.

So you're calling the OP a liar based on your ability to eat chocolate,

You really need to get out more if your life is that small

And no, not everyone has a shop locally where replacements can be found. All large supermarkets are closed today.