To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

[Medsy]

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

The last time I was in the co-op someone asked me to buy them a bottle of vodka, and on the way out someone else asked if I was ready for judgement day. So you would have hardly crossed my radar OP. I don't think it was that bad really. He may have just been grabbing whatever was nearest and not cared that much, and if he
didn't want to swap, all he had to do was tell you no. No need for all the drama and offence taken.

She was right, you were really rude.

You should just leave other shoppers in peace.

I generally avoid pre-packaged sandwiches as they aren’t great, but I buy one occasionally if I’m in a rush and en route somewhere. Despite being a meat-eater, I always buy a cheese sandwich. As others have said, the meat in packaged sandwiches is usually very low quality and not at all appealing. So if you had asked me to let you buy the sandwich and I had agreed, I would have ended up without a sandwich.

Did they not have any of those pasta pots? Or was there another shop in the vicinity?

I do think you were a bit U to ask. I’d have felt really awkward and guilty if you’d asked me- even though I don’t think people should be made to feel guilty for buying a sandwich that they want to eat.

Yabu if the last one is being picked up it’s just bad luck, I have to have the gluten free ones and if I saw someone else picking it up I’d just go buy something else not from the meal deal instead of asking as it’s just going to piss people off or make them feel guilted into giving up the sandwich.

You should bear the burden of your "ethical" choices and not pass them on to others.

Throughout this whole thread I don't see that the man said he is a meat eater - maybe he is vegetarian too 🤔

I have no difficulty believing Op was rude as her sense of entitlement comes through clearly in this thread. Thus there is no point taking her account of the woman's reactions as unbiased. Someone saying "Excuse me? That was rude" is not going batshit.

Wtf?! No, choose something else.

Well I guess it's OK to ask but chances are he chose the sandwich because he wanted cheese/didn't fancy the meat ones!

Can’t believe you gave a proper passive aggressive good luck as your parting shot.

so entitled. What does it matter if he’s veggie or not, he’s entitled to buy and eat as he pleases, the cheese sarnies aren’t only for vegetarians. I’d not have abused you though, , I’d just have taken it off my husband said I’ll have it darling, laughed and walked away from you. Your petty good luck would have had me proper chuckling though.

Why did you say good luck to him? Was that suppose to be a dig at his wife?

I dunno whats more annoying, you asking, or all the people trying to look clever by pointing out that cheese might not be vegetarian.

Very few places now use non-vegetarian cheeses in pre-prepared products like sandwiches, you'd have to actively seek them out. There isn't going to be the big drama you are hoping for when you cause a vegetarian to realise they've inadvertently been eating cheese with calves rennet in it!

Ooh outing yourself are you 😂

What is concerning is that you felt asking him was an option? Wtf is wrong with society. I am vegetarian and would not dream of doing this. Entitled much to even consider it

I think you were cheeky to ask, as you were probably relying on him being too polite to say No

You could have survived on crisps, biscuits and fruit, or a veg pasty, or sushi

Well clearly I live on another planet (duly accepted!) because I actually feel the complete opposite to you. I find it concerning and sad to live in a society where someone can't politely, in a friendly way and applying no pressure, ask if there's any chance someone would be okay with swapping sandwiches. It's hardly "Hey do you mind if I take a dump un your basket?" is it?
He could have said "actually I'm veggie too" or "actually I've been really craving a cheese sandwich, sorry!" and I would have said no problem! Or he might have said "sure, I was torn between that and the chicken coronation anyway so knock yourself out".

YABVU.
Even 'asking' is putting pressure on someone.

I wouldn’t have found it rude in the slightest if someone asked me that. Depending on what was available I might have said no but assuming they weren’t going to get annoyed with my response it doesn’t hurt to ask.
I don’t think I’d have done the asking though, I’d have just silently cursed myself for not getting there a minute earlier.

It's not rude to ask if he wouldbe prepared to let you have it. He can say yes or no. It is rude to lead with a gatekeeping question that implies you are more worthy of it.

Not a big deal either way, though. The replies on this thread are OTT. Some people must live extraordinarily sheltered lives if a non-threatening encounter with a stranger asking for a favour is considered rude.

I really hope this is true 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Actually asking if he's a vegetarian, brilliant.

We have no idea about other people's lives or circumstances though.

I'm a vegetarian and I wish I had your balls. I'd probably be quietly fuming. You gave him a choice, which is more than his wife did.

Yeah you were rude. You were rude asking if he was vegetarian.

Exactly my point. Someone's going to eat the meat so it might as well be op