To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

[Medsy]

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

He could be completely thrown by your question and stand there mutely

What now?

Totally.
I despair at the self centred entitlement that seems to be increasingly normalised today.

You were very rude. He can choose what he wants to buy and got their first.

I'm Coeliac and if I saw someone picking up the last GF 'anything' including a sammie, I'd assume they were too. It would never even occur to me to ask them why they were buying it, nor to say "I'm Coeliac, do you mind if I have that?".

Trust me, there are plenty of times I've seen someone take the last loaf of GF bread, frozen entree, or pre made item or load their cart with the last 3, 50, or 100 of whatever it is on the shelves. I just sigh (quietly), make a small moue (being sure they can't see me) and move on.

Unreasonable comparison.

Coeliacs don't have a choice in their dietary needs. Vegetarians and vegans do.

Omfg 😂 the audacity. You cannot do that!! He’s allowed to buy what he likes vegetation or not.

If the man had been my autistic DS, he’d probably only have eaten the cheese sandwich but he’d have felt obliged to give it to you because he’s very polite. So I’d have been cross with you too.

I said Roy will have the cheese butty. What did I say, Roy?
You said don't let the bossy vegetarian have the cheese butty.

Presumably the bloke likes cheese as much as any other omnivore, he doesn't have to want meat for every meal. That's the benefit of not being vegetarian. I say this as a vegetarian. I don't think carefully about whether I should leave the last hummus and carrot sticks in Boots in case a vegan wants it when I could have the Higgidy cheese roll instead.

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

Surely if your philosophy was that important to you, you would be happy that the man was choosing a meat-free sandwich? And keen to encourage it. By encouraging him to take a meat sandwich instead, you're communicating to the shop that they need to order more meat sandwiches, rather than letting them realise they need more vegetarian since they'd run out, and to order more vegetarian and fewer meat in future.

If you really cared about your philosophy, you would forego a sandwich if that prevented someone else from eating a dead animal, no?

What utter horseshit.

Why are your philosophical beliefs any better than someone who chooses not to eat processed meat? Of course it’s a choice - just a different choice.

FFS don’t become vegan, you’d just reinforce every negative stereotype of vegans out there

Ot would not have bothered me if u had asked me.

Omg so entitled of you!

Not a philosophy.

I don't think you were rude. I suppose you did put him in an awkward position if he's not vegetarian and really wanted the cheese sandwich, but I don't see the harm in asking, because the alternative was for you to go hungry.

Put it another way - I wouldn't have minded if someone had asked me that.

That's pretty rude (a) he might be vegetarian (b) he might prefer cheese

but I don't see the harm in asking, because the alternative was for you to go hungry.

I doubt it unless that one sandwich was the only vegetarian item in the entire shop and the store the only one in town.

I doubt there was absolutely nothing else OP could have eaten, she just felt entitled to the cheese sandwich.

I think these ones are vegetarian, but there are lots of weird things that aren't actually vegetarian, like figs.

Entitled CF.

I really want to see a post headed 'woman asked my husband for the last cheese sandwich'😂

Yes I'm not sure I got that either!

This is a key point. Many are overlooking. You should have sacrificed the cheese sandwhich dor the greater good.

Figs?!

Yes, you were very definitely unreasonable, and so entitled to boot. He got there first - why do you think your needs trump his? Unbelievable!