To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

[Medsy]

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

You're winding everyone up, right? Not like you couldn't have chosen something else in the shop. No one should be this entitled. He was there first. Why did you feel this was OK to do?

Op, you didn't deserve any abuse but you put the man in awkward situation. You cannot judge his reasons for going for cheese sandwich.

However, you were not that rude, maybe a bit clueless which happens to all of us from time to time.
Next time get some snacks for train and make a sandwich at home.

This threads reminds me that about 10 years ago I was in a busy supermarket car park in a parent and child bay, lifting my three year old grandchild out of her car seat. A car stopped and the driver thought that because she had a baby and the granddaughter could walk then she had more right to that parking place than me!!! I simply laughed at her as we walked to the store.

Stop going on about GF , no one would willingly eat a gf sandwich if they were not gf as the bread is invariably awful and they cost twice the price . You were totally wrong to ask him

That’s your choice and your problem, I’d have pulled you up on your awful behavior too.

I would too, to be fair. It’s the only way entitled idiots learn.

Classy

This thread is classic.

OP sounds worse and worse every time she posts.

BUT WHY DID YOU WISH HIM
LUCK?!

We all want to know

You’re a joker OP

Did you offer to pay the difference between the (certainly cheaper) cheese sandwich you felt had your name on it and the more expensive meat option that you feel he could definitely have been persuaded to.

And I hate the way that some women use patronising, ableist language like that when neurodiversity is weighed heavily (4:1) - in respect of ASD - towards males compared to females.

Good luck spending his life with the old nag who stood up for him and his love of mild cheddar. Right, op?

Philosophical reasons

Not everyone can "use their words"

Charming. The OP might have been in the wrong here, but there’d be no excuse to give her a “mouthful of abuse”.

You’re being incredibly sanctimonious and unreasonable 🤣

Asking whether he wouldn’t mind giving you the sandwich was technically fine. Unusual but that shouldn’t have gotten you yelled at. Especially if you asked politely.

But your general behaviour on this thread makes me believe that you probably weren’t particularly polite when you asked…

And you asked him about this diet? And implied that he should give you the sandwich if he didn’t have a particular lifestyle? No way. How rude!

You are not the only vegetarian in the world OP, what if he is too? Or maybe he is allergic to things in the other sandwiches? Setting all that aside he got there first. Even if he just fancied a cheese sandwich then he’s just as entitled to it as you. Was there no salads you could’ve had? Or a Greggs with a vegan sausage roll nearby?

None of your business what or why strangers eat. Choose something else!!!!!

Or maybe he was so flummoxed at the CF OP he was lost for words and trying to think how to politely say no until his partner told her she was rude to ask.

Sorry but no kind of dietary requirement (and I’m personally familiar with a few) makes you more entitled to have the sandwich in this situation. It would be different at eg an event where people had expressed their requirements in advance and had been specifically catered for. But here you were unreasonable. Every customer in the shop has equal rights to the sandwich and if he got there first then it’s his to take. If he’d been there 10 minutes earlier, he wouldn’t have needed to think “better not take this in case a vegetarian comes along soon”. Honestly, your behaviour was very entitled.

Could you not have just grabbed some fruit and a packet of crackers or a pastry or something. I can't imagine my first thought being to ask someone else to give up their choice.

Rtft to see the women only said "excuse me that is so rude". So she didn't give OP a mouthful of abuse at all.

Your lack of planning is not someone else's problem, op.

No, the diagnosis is. Women still struggle to be recognised or taken seriously, hence it was barely recognised women could even BE autistic, let alone ADD.

I'm not vegetarian or vegan. What I am is a bit odd with food. There are very few prepacked sandwiches I can bring myself to eat. Its psychological. I hate the textures of some. I fear illness from others. So for me that cheese sandwhich would be a choice, not a philosophical one but I'd definitely be wanting the sandwhich above all others