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AIBU?

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To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

684 replies

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:04

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

OP posts:
TulipCat · 30/03/2024 13:14

You don't buy meat sandwiches because you're vegetarian. I don't buy them because they almost always contain horrible processed meat which I don't want to ingest. Why does your dietary preference trump mine?

chocolategg · 30/03/2024 13:15

I can't believe you did that who do you think you are?!

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

TulipCat · 30/03/2024 13:14

You don't buy meat sandwiches because you're vegetarian. I don't buy them because they almost always contain horrible processed meat which I don't want to ingest. Why does your dietary preference trump mine?

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

OP posts:
RoomOfRequirement · 30/03/2024 13:17

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

This is the most hilarious, sanctimonious crap I've read on here.

Today, anyway.

loropianalover · 30/03/2024 13:17

This can’t be real - I’m cringing for you OP!

Why the hell would you tell a stranger to choose a different sandwich. Go to the other aisle and buy a loaf and veggie ingredients. Rude woman.

CarrotCake01 · 30/03/2024 13:17

Well it's something I wouldn't have had the balls to do 😂 I GUESS it depends how you said it. There's no harm in ASKING! Although whether he's vegetarian or not, if he fancied a cheese sandwich, he should have been allowed his cheese sandwich 🤷🏼‍♀️

Maxus · 30/03/2024 13:17

I would have had a similar reaction as his wife. How dare you?

DrFoxtrot · 30/03/2024 13:17

ADrownedRat · 30/03/2024 13:13

It is rude because you are making a request of a stranger that is a challenge to what they are doing and entitled to do (buy a sandwich).

You then put them in an unpleasant and awkward position of either feeling pressured to hand it over or refuse and feel guilty/challenged.

It's a pretty self centred thing to do really to ask a stranger to hand over goods they have already selected.

^this explains very well why it was rude to ask him

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 30/03/2024 13:18

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

Shame your philosophy isn't to have social manners.

RedRidingGood · 30/03/2024 13:18

@Medsy OP you are incredibly entitled. You put this stranger in an awkward situation. You're in a supermarket buy yourself a loaf of bread, a packet of sliced cheese and make yourself a sandwich if you needed one that badly. YABU.

AutumnFroglets · 30/03/2024 13:19

I don't know if I would have said yes as I only eat certain sandwiches myself but I wouldn't have minded you asking to swap. My mother always used to say "You don't ask, you don't get".

EDIT - good grief OP, I cant believe the replies you are getting. Did you ask to sacrifice their first born too? 😱

TulipCat · 30/03/2024 13:19

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

OMG, no wonder some vegetarians have a reputation for being entitled! 😂😂😂 I never eat processed meat because I don't think it's nice or very good for me. No way would I be changing that for some entitled veggie woman in the supermarket.

fieldsofbutterflies · 30/03/2024 13:20

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

😂

You're taking the piss, right?

kαλοκαλοκαιρι · 30/03/2024 13:20

Mmmm, maybe this would have landed a bit better if you’d not asked him anything about himself, just kept it to ‘this is the last sando i can eat, is there any chance there’s any others you eat too?’ cos I think it’s the asking him to justify himself/ if he was a veggie that’s got people’s backs up a bit and makes you sound a bit entitled. (fwiw i dont think you are entitled, just phrased it a bit clumsily)

All that said, I reckon it’s still not such a big deal, if you asked politely, all he had to do was say no. Where I live, this wouldn’t offend on either side. His wife sounds a bit much. Maybe she thought you wanted more than his sarnie.

OatFlatWhiteForMe · 30/03/2024 13:21

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

🙄

HurryupHenry · 30/03/2024 13:21

Oh op. Please stop! This is why we veggies have a bad name.

Was there honestly nothing else in the whole shop that you could have? No pasta, no salad, no fruit or veg?

SmileyClare · 30/03/2024 13:21

What does a “woman going batshit over a sandwich in the Co-op” look like? Confused Hmm

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

RedRidingGood · 30/03/2024 13:18

@Medsy OP you are incredibly entitled. You put this stranger in an awkward situation. You're in a supermarket buy yourself a loaf of bread, a packet of sliced cheese and make yourself a sandwich if you needed one that badly. YABU.

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

OP posts:
WaltzingWaters · 30/03/2024 13:21

Very rude and entitled of you.

Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 30/03/2024 13:22

Wow you are a bloody CF. Your philosophical choices don’t mean you get priority over anyone else

fieldsofbutterflies · 30/03/2024 13:22

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

I'm sure the co-op had something else you could have eaten instead of this particular sandwich though Hmm

Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 30/03/2024 13:24

Maybe she thought you wanted more than his sarnie.

🙄

Maxus · 30/03/2024 13:24

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

Maybe take a pack up next time? Don't expect people to exchange a sandwich just because you weren't prepared.

chocolategg · 30/03/2024 13:25

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:21

I'm hardly going to jump in a train with a loaf of bread am I?!

Why not?

InTheShallowTheShalalalalalalalow · 30/03/2024 13:25

Medsy · 30/03/2024 13:16

Because you don't buy them because of preference, I don't buy them out of philosophy

🤣🤣 this is one of the most sanctimonious and pompous things I've ever read on MN, and that's saying something.

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