To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

[Medsy]

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

actually I was a student in the 70s, and I still have all my facilities to know how to interpret ingredients listings and statistics.

thanks for your input though.

"don't mind being called weird, unhinged or bat shit, but the entitled baffles me! Fair enough if I'd demanded it, but I still don't understand why asking nicely if something is an option would be entitled."

You don't see that asking someone who has picked up something to buy, if you can have it instead, is entitled? Are you really that self absorbed?

They had it - it was no longer available for you to buy. Asking them put them in an awkward situation. It is incredibly entitled behaviour. And the customers wife/partner was right - rude.

Its very entitled, id be shocked if someone asked me , would tell them where to go!

I'm not often lost for words but can imagine a wide open mouthed expression if someone asked me for the sandwich (or anything else) I'd already selected!

I know, i am genuinely horrified !!

People are weird nowadays. Cant talk to anyone anymore without offending them or putting them in an awkward position!

I think it was perfectly reasonable to ask. If someone asked for my sandwich i can either give it up for them and choose another and if i dont want to do that i can just say no 🤷🏻‍♀️
OP didnt demand the sandwich. She asked. The guy could have just told her “No thanks, i really want the cheese one.” No harm done to anyone. I was always taught that you can ask for anything as long as youre polite and prepared to accept a no.

It's fine to chat to folk, that's not the same as trying to get their food for yourself!

I was always taught that you can ask for anything as long as you’re polite

Hmm I’m not sure that’s a great rule of thumb for an adult?

I mean you don’t regularly ask shoppers if you can have an item in their basket or trolley do you? Ask the table next to you in a restaurant to give you their chips? Ask colleagues to buy you a drink when you go to the pub? It’s better to read the room, and follow societal norms rather than keep asking and being told No.

I thought most people followed the unwritten rule that you don’t ask shoppers for items in their basket.
Customers don’t generally haggle over who is more deserving of a product, that’s not how shops work, in fact it would be carnage.

It’s not offensive but a supermarket would be Hell if everyone was ignoring this etiquette and asking the person who grabbed the last of anything if they can please have it.
It’s not weird to think it’s a bit rude and self serving.

I dont know. It doesnt happen everyday that someone grabs the last of something i want right in front of me. So on the odd occasion it does happen i might as well ask for it.

So anyone selecting something you might want is "grabbing", whilst you are politely asking them if you can have it?

Jeezo, unless you are also the OP then I can't believe there are two of you...

I know what you'd be asking for if you tried that in my local supermarket.

When does it stop? Do you patrol the store checking to see if anyone has it in their trolly? What if they are loading it into their car?

Un fucking believable.

I think we can wrap this up now guys, with the conclusion being that mumsnet is home to a lot of very socially rigid people

I'll try again

socially rigid? Not right to ask what was asked end of , you clearly cant see what is wrong with this can you!

Why did you wish him luck?

You were wrong... We're not socially rigid at all; but you certainly seem socially inept.

Quite socially rigid of you to think you can just instruct everyone to stop posting on a public forum because very few people are agreeing with you.

Well if "socially rigid" means not being entitled and rude then count me in.

Socially rigid 😂

I mean you probably mean having a social conscience? Being socially aware?
Bless you: enjoy the rest of your Easter holidays x

Absolutely not unreasonable. IF you asked nicely and explained. I would not be offended by this.

Or that Mumsnet is an average reflection of UK social norms and manners, and the fact that you were a self absorbed lump hasn't sunk into your head yet.

Why do you think that?
Once someone else has selected it then it's no longer available to you.

I wish you all the very best of luck.

What? Why aren't you answering the question - why does your wish for a cheese sandwich due to philosophy trump mine due to disability?

This made me laugh.

Op posts aibu? Overwhelming response is yes. Oh you are all just socially rigid.....

Or alternatively op, you are socially inept if you think this is normal behaviour.

Ffs you’ve had to write in to get clarification on whether you’re in the right or wrong to ask a stranger about a manky sandwich !!! Get over yourself your off your fucking trolley 😂😂😂😂