To have asked him to choose a different sandwich

[Medsy]

Don't know if it's because it's Easter or what but my local co-ops sandwich section was totally barren, only meat sandwiches left (I'm vegetarian). I saw a man go for the last cheese one there was, so I asked him if he was vegetarian and if not, would he mind if I had it? A woman (wife?) appeared and went batshit at me and called me rude.
It made me quite pissed off actually. I wouldn't have a problem with say a gluten free person asking me if they could have the last gluten free sandwich.
WIBU?

Maybe...I wasn't really that invested. I was just checking if my girls wanted sandwiches and if so, which ones. If he felt that his need was greater, fair enough.

Nothing whatsoever wrong with asking, bit batshit to claim otherwise. So long as you were polite he could politely say no. People are SO weird, imagine thinking this was anything unacceptable. Sorry about his horrible wife too

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I mean I wouldn’t have gone bat shit, but I’m defo not giving it up either. It’s not his problem you’re vegetarian, what happens if he can only eat certain ingredients. Screams entitlement on your end OP.

I think it’s not really the done thing.

the etiquette in a shop like that is if you’ve picked it up, nobody else has any right to it

Rude. Your wants don’t trump anyone else’s.

I eat meat, but I would have chosen the cheese sandwhich too

God, all this talk of cheese sandwiches really makes me fancy one… or some bat shit 🤔

I can’t believe the indignation here. She just ASKED. Don’t ask - don’t get. He could have said no. Is the issue that people just can’t imagine saying no??

You could probably have got either a single or small pack of rolls or some crackers, and then some cream cheese and a pot of ready made salad.
Supermarket sandwiches are pretty rank IMO.

I'd have no issue saying no.
I would be wondering what on earth makes her think she's more entitled to the sandwich than me, the person who has already picked it up, though
Others have already given examples where randomly asking some folk may create difficulties.

I am cringing. YABU

It’s a matter of time before someone with too much bank holiday time on their hands pretends to be the enraged wife and writes a post after too many Easter wines.

That's really cheeky and unnecessary.

You could have bought a loaf and some cheese slices seeing as you were in a supermarket.

I think it’s fine, his wife going crazy, I really don’t understand that.

It’s a sandwich at the end of the day, not the end of the world. I wouldn’t have minded. Also the man can say no, imagine that, so everyone losing their minds can just relax!

..which is in actual fact your preference.

you choosing to restrict your diet doesn’t mean every one needs to bend of backwards for you. I’ve never heard such entitled behaviour.

If it's any consolation OP, I'm not veggie and if you'd asked me if there was a meat version I would consider I would have been happy to give it to you. I can't have pork so if that had been the only one left I would have said sorry I can't have what's left either. But if there was a nice turkey and cranberry I would definitely have swapped. If you ask politely I'm not sure why people give others 'a mouthful of abuse' instead of 'no sorry'.

You know, your reactions like this are making you come across worse. You WERE incredibly selfish and entitled. I thought it was a made-up thread at first actually. But being sarcastic like that towards people who've called you out on what the vast majority of people appear to perceive as pretty appalling behaviour just makes me wonder what the point of your thread was, if you're not going to listen to the answers.

I am quite mortified for you as well, as a previous poster said. Is this sort of thing a one-off, or do you have form for entitled behaviour?

YABU, sorry. It doesn't matter if he was vegetarian or not - he's chosen the cheese sandwich! It's frustrating but I'm not sure if there's any polite way to ask a shopper to give up what they've chosen!

I'm v picky about prepared sandwiches - I don't like mayo or a lot of the typical combos - but I don't have any dietary needs. I wouldn't change my choice and I'd be annoyed to feel obliged to explain my sandwich choice to a random.

Exactly this! It IS a preference! You have made a choice and you prefer not to eat meat. Bizarre that you can't see that!

Having flashbacks to Ross from Friends: 'My sandwich?? MYYY SANDWICH???'

First in, first served. I'd have said no, having been lucky enough to find something that fits with my restricted diet, but wouldn't like being put on the spot for your preferences when my medical need (that I don't have to explain to you) limits my own options and isn't a choice.

I’d of had no problem letting you have it, you can either say yes or no

And why would he have to give op a reason for keeping the sandwich he’d chosen?

You were rude. Don't be so entitled. Even if he wasn't vegetarian, maybe he wanted cheese. He got there first. He wife/girlfriend was right to stick up for him.

@Xmasbaby11 exactly