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To want every woman in England to vote Tory at the GE

927 replies

Hurrydash · 29/03/2024 18:00

Wow. I started a thread with 1000 posts on a topic in 12 hours and Mumsnet got ‘full’

One more off the bucket list!

So MN told me to start a new thread if I wanted to post anything else. I didn’t particularly but there were some queries raised in the first thread.

Thank you to all first thread posters, even the small minority who were abusive to me and/or my opinions. Coherent arguments may have been more persuasive.

I have read many posts, but not all. I do have work to do!

In answer to some queries:

Yes I was drunk - explains GR typo in the first title not GE. Although that could well have been a Freudian slip too.

I am English living in England.

I’m not an entitled git living in a Stately home eating cucumber sandwiches. Like most I have been hit very hard by mortgage rate and utility price rises.

I restricted my request to English voters because I don’t understand other UK countries voter motivations.

a) Scotland has voted in a party which in my opinion is morally bankrupt (maybe financially too?) and totally incompetent.

b) Wales has elected a party which means when they go for a drive they’ll likely be overtaken by cyclists - maybe very fit joggers too

c) I genuinely don’t understand Northern Ireland politics. Didn’t even know there were no Tories there till reading it on one of the posts.

Totally get why so many won’t vote Tory, but for me freedom of speech is a die in a ditch issue.

Here’s what Angela Eagle is reported to have said will be in the Labour manifesto:

“• Strengthening the law so anti-LGBT+ hate crimes are treated as aggravated offenses”

For this I read anyone stating biological facts risks being banged up. JKR no doubt top of their hit list.

So give me another option to stop this madness other than vote Tory.

If all posters on the first thread had said they weren’t going to vote Labour due to their threat to women’s rights maybe Labour would have paused for thought about their policies. But seems very many women will vote Labour anyway so they don’t have to worry.

Very very happy to vote Labour and kick the Tories out if they will commit unequivocally to protect women’s rights, parents rights and freedom of speech. Otherwise not a chance.

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DuncinToffee · 31/03/2024 15:09

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:03

I won’t vote Tory.

But I won’t vote Labour either. I’m not going to let them take me for a mug. I’m not going to vote against my own interests, or those of my DD.

While women hold their nose and vote for Labour anyway, they get away with centring men and taking away women’s rights. There’s no reason for them to change while you vote for them anyway! I’m not voting for that. Fuck that.

Will you at least vote GTTO?

Otherwise you might as well vote Tory and there won't be any reason for them to change either.

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:12

IClaudine · 31/03/2024 14:53

So @ATerrorofLeftovers do you agree that we need to recognise that sex and gender are different and make sure that spaces for biological women are defended? That is basically what Dodds has said, but it doesn't seem to be enough for some GC women.

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jul/24/labour-will-lead-on-reform-of-transgender-rights-and-we-wont-take-lectures-from-the-divisive-tories

Dodds is NOT clearly setting out that safe spaces will be preserved for biological women only.

She and Starmer are trying to fudge the issue, thinking they're being clever and able to please both sides by using slippery barrister-speak and hoping we don't notice.

While they're still talking about 'all the women', as they did a few days ago, we know they are not committing to safeguarding women at all.

They need to be clear they will safeguard biological women and girls. Then they will get our vote. Simple.

Why won't they do this?

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:13

DuncinToffee · 31/03/2024 15:09

Will you at least vote GTTO?

Otherwise you might as well vote Tory and there won't be any reason for them to change either.

I won't be helping Labour while they're trying to bend me over and shaft me.

They should be trying to help me.

Nothingbutafartache · 31/03/2024 15:14

@zendeveloper wow how very smug!

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 15:17

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:04

If Labour make a clear and unequivocal manifesto pledge to safeguard women’s rights and safe space and make it clear this means biological women only, then I will be satisfied and vote for them.

It isn’t difficult.

Perhaps they have accurately judged that it isn't a priority for most of the electorate.

DuncinToffee · 31/03/2024 15:23

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:13

I won't be helping Labour while they're trying to bend me over and shaft me.

They should be trying to help me.

So you won't vote to GTTO and will accept another 5 years of the Tories mulling it over?

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:29

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 15:17

Perhaps they have accurately judged that it isn't a priority for most of the electorate.

Possibly, though the Tories clearly think it's a vote winner.

Maybe if Labour are thinking they'll get away with selling women down the river they are banking on:

a) a proportion of men not giving a shit about women;
b) a proportion of men actively thinking something that shafts women is a positive and is hence a vote-winner;

c) a proportion of women being oblivious to the issue because they're not on Twitter, MN etc (my 70 plus mother would fall into this category); and
d) a proportion of women being starry-eyed about an image of themselves/ an identity tied up in being oh-so-kind and virtuous and thus willing to sell themselves down the river (not fully realising the consequences).

So perhaps they think they're in the clear because - as you say - it's not a priority for the electorate.

But even if the above is true, I don't see any virtue or anything admirable in a party that would be so cynical and would act counter to the interests of half the population. So it's not a party I find attractive in its current guise.

BIossomtoes · 31/03/2024 15:30

Possibly, though the Tories clearly think it's a vote winner.

Do they? They’re keeping very quiet on the subject.

Bluepetergarden · 31/03/2024 15:41

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:29

Possibly, though the Tories clearly think it's a vote winner.

Maybe if Labour are thinking they'll get away with selling women down the river they are banking on:

a) a proportion of men not giving a shit about women;
b) a proportion of men actively thinking something that shafts women is a positive and is hence a vote-winner;

c) a proportion of women being oblivious to the issue because they're not on Twitter, MN etc (my 70 plus mother would fall into this category); and
d) a proportion of women being starry-eyed about an image of themselves/ an identity tied up in being oh-so-kind and virtuous and thus willing to sell themselves down the river (not fully realising the consequences).

So perhaps they think they're in the clear because - as you say - it's not a priority for the electorate.

But even if the above is true, I don't see any virtue or anything admirable in a party that would be so cynical and would act counter to the interests of half the population. So it's not a party I find attractive in its current guise.

The Tories have had 14 years to do something - why haven’t they ?

DuncinToffee · 31/03/2024 15:44

The Tories have had 14 years to do something - why haven’t they ?

It's the question nobody wants to answer.

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 31/03/2024 15:44

neverbeenskiing · 31/03/2024 14:14

The safeguarding of my daughter and vulnerable girls and women is more important than anything else to me.

Ah yes, it's all about "safeguarding". Safeguarding them from Trans people you mean? Not safeguarding their health (since the Tories are destroying the NHS), or safeguarding them from Domestic Abuse (since the Tories have cut DA services to the bone) or safeguarding them from pretty much any of the many, many other risks that exist to the wellbeing of women in our society?

As for your concern about "vulnerable girls", again you presumably think Trans people are the only thing rendering them vulnerable since Education, early years services, social care, specialist mental health services, youth services, substance misuse services and every other service that exists to protect vulnerable children has been decimated over the last 14 years. Not to mention the appalling rise in child poverty and homlessness that the Tories have allowed to happen and taken no steps to address. These are all pressing safeguarding issues that have been made increasingly difficult to address since the Tories came to power.

As someone who has made the actual safeguarding of children their lifes work I find it a bit rich when people who are happy to turn a blind eye to 99% of the risks to vulnerable girls claim that "safeguarding" is their number one priority because it fits their single-issue agenda.

Ay-MEN

Nail. Head.

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 15:46

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:29

Possibly, though the Tories clearly think it's a vote winner.

Maybe if Labour are thinking they'll get away with selling women down the river they are banking on:

a) a proportion of men not giving a shit about women;
b) a proportion of men actively thinking something that shafts women is a positive and is hence a vote-winner;

c) a proportion of women being oblivious to the issue because they're not on Twitter, MN etc (my 70 plus mother would fall into this category); and
d) a proportion of women being starry-eyed about an image of themselves/ an identity tied up in being oh-so-kind and virtuous and thus willing to sell themselves down the river (not fully realising the consequences).

So perhaps they think they're in the clear because - as you say - it's not a priority for the electorate.

But even if the above is true, I don't see any virtue or anything admirable in a party that would be so cynical and would act counter to the interests of half the population. So it's not a party I find attractive in its current guise.

No, I think the Tories are desperate.

I think Labour have other more pressing matters to think about and don't need to be distracted by this even if the Tories try to stoke it up to appeal to a minority of single issue voters.

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 15:49

DuncinToffee · 31/03/2024 15:44

The Tories have had 14 years to do something - why haven’t they ?

It's the question nobody wants to answer.

No they don't do they. Funny that. I see the GC feminists intending to vote Conservative have been a bit quiet on Philip Davies and Christopher Chope as well and their attitudes and behaviour being endorsed by the Prime Minister.

Underthinker · 31/03/2024 15:52

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 15:46

No, I think the Tories are desperate.

I think Labour have other more pressing matters to think about and don't need to be distracted by this even if the Tories try to stoke it up to appeal to a minority of single issue voters.

So their plan to simplify the gender recognition process must also be a distraction then? They should probably drop it and focus on more pressing issues I guess?

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 15:58

Underthinker · 31/03/2024 15:52

So their plan to simplify the gender recognition process must also be a distraction then? They should probably drop it and focus on more pressing issues I guess?

That's not what I said. They don't need to make any further commitments when there are more pressing priorities in the eyes of the electorate.

And they certainly don't need to get into competition with the Tories' desperate attempts to appeal to a minority when they're well ahead in the polls. Most of the electorate simply don't put this first and foremost

JessS1990 · 31/03/2024 16:14

zendeveloper · 31/03/2024 08:37

Ah don't worry, I am not allowed to vote, so won't ruin the result. Just allowed to pay a six digit amount in tax, which is somehow ok despite the bonkers views I hold.

Is it that you feel at home under the Tories as it reminds you of when you are growing up where a greedy few took all the wealth, were corrupt and insisted for the greater good that the rest lived in abject poverty?

Underthinker · 31/03/2024 16:19

@ilovesooty
The manifestos are yet to be written. If, as you say gender is an unimportant issue that no one cares about, then it can be left out entirely. If they choose to include pledges such as modernising the GRC process then clearly the party feel it IS actually an important topic and must be worthy of debate.

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 16:29

Underthinker · 31/03/2024 16:19

@ilovesooty
The manifestos are yet to be written. If, as you say gender is an unimportant issue that no one cares about, then it can be left out entirely. If they choose to include pledges such as modernising the GRC process then clearly the party feel it IS actually an important topic and must be worthy of debate.

While I accept that point, they certainly don't have to make the sort of commitment that the GC single issue voters are asking for, either now or at the manifesto stage.

JessS1990 · 31/03/2024 16:38

Is that the same Orban who has been doing everything he can to block EU aid to Ukraine?

Is that the same Orban who is reducing women's rights?

JessS1990 · 31/03/2024 16:46

Username947531 · 31/03/2024 14:50

I'm sure it is. I'm voting according to my conscience. Not tactically.

What is it @Username947531 about Reform that makes your conscience want you to vote for them?

Is it the way that the person who bank rolls them has today tried to blackmail an MP?

Username947531 · 31/03/2024 16:48

JessS1990 · 31/03/2024 16:46

What is it @Username947531 about Reform that makes your conscience want you to vote for them?

Is it the way that the person who bank rolls them has today tried to blackmail an MP?

I agree with their policies. I don't agree with the policies of the other parties.

pointythings · 31/03/2024 16:49

Username947531 · 31/03/2024 16:48

I agree with their policies. I don't agree with the policies of the other parties.

Their policies are uncosted pipe dreams.

JessS1990 · 31/03/2024 16:49

ATerrorofLeftovers · 31/03/2024 15:29

Possibly, though the Tories clearly think it's a vote winner.

Maybe if Labour are thinking they'll get away with selling women down the river they are banking on:

a) a proportion of men not giving a shit about women;
b) a proportion of men actively thinking something that shafts women is a positive and is hence a vote-winner;

c) a proportion of women being oblivious to the issue because they're not on Twitter, MN etc (my 70 plus mother would fall into this category); and
d) a proportion of women being starry-eyed about an image of themselves/ an identity tied up in being oh-so-kind and virtuous and thus willing to sell themselves down the river (not fully realising the consequences).

So perhaps they think they're in the clear because - as you say - it's not a priority for the electorate.

But even if the above is true, I don't see any virtue or anything admirable in a party that would be so cynical and would act counter to the interests of half the population. So it's not a party I find attractive in its current guise.

The Tories repeatedly have acted in ways that go against the interests of far more than 50% of the population...

ilovesooty · 31/03/2024 16:52

Username947531 · 31/03/2024 16:48

I agree with their policies. I don't agree with the policies of the other parties.

If those policies appeal to you you are of course free to exercise your vote accordingly. They might even come second in a few seats where voters are racist, homophobic and spend their time complaining about "woke".

They aren't likely to get any MPs and statistically will cause damage to the Tories.

JessS1990 · 31/03/2024 16:52

Username947531 · 31/03/2024 16:48

I agree with their policies. I don't agree with the policies of the other parties.

And you are comfortable with their leader trying to blackmail an MP today?