To ask for your most minor, irrational ick?

[trekking1]

The thing that men do that is completely normal to most people, but gives you the ick?

Mine is men wearing long socks with shorts. I'm sorry I just can't

Or maybe you should try and refrain from being sexist ? Maybe try that first ?

Weak handshakes.

I'm viewing houses at the moment, and this lovely young guy showed me round one a couple of weeks ago. Maybe mid-20s, but very knowledgeable and professional. We went to shake hands as I left, and it was just the weakest, nothingy handshake I've had in years!
I was always taught to shake hands firmly. Hold their hand reasonably tightly, do one or two quick "up and downs", and make eye contact. Maybe it's just not so much a thing nowadays!

Ok. Note to self..refrain from calling men out. Be a nice quiet woman. Sit down shut up. Ok.

When I was younger, men who brought their lunch to work in a lunchbox used to give me the ick.

I’ve come through it and now don’t mind it. 😅

Another colleague in my workplace heats up fish and eats it in the office next to others 🙄 you can also smell it on his breath too 🤢

Sorry I didn't mean to quote you 🤣

This is a genuine, irrational ick - I liked a guy, went on a date, went back to his house, all good. Nice place, lots of interesting stuff.

He gets out a Christmas Card Craft Kit and tells me he always makes his family cards. Ick activated.

I go to the bathroom. He has the entire Oxy skincare range in a line on a shelf. Ick solidified.

I had to pretend to be very tired and a bit queezy and get an early taxi home.

I don’t like it when men are too polished. If a guy turns up wearing brand names or his hair is meticulously styled and he looks too done up…it’s a no

🙄 It’s personal preference, not sexist.

I love a posh voice, others don’t. Who cares? Everyone has preferences, they’re not cruel, we don’t have to find everything attractive. Lots of men like small boobs, don’t like big bums or whatever. It’s fine. We’re not saying anyone is worth less as a person, only that things give us the ick.

Mumsnet is a mainly women’s forum, so this is an appropriate space to have this conversation.

You sound ridiculous, getting offended because someone might not like something about you. 🙄

What's lighthearted about it?

Calling men out is fine if you are actually calling their behaviour out, a lot of the comments here are just people commenting on aspects of someone's appearance that they happen not to like.

Agree

😂. It is certainly a clear one. If it is ‘incoherent’ to you I can’t help you.

Pink spider-leg-hairy ankles with jeans rolled up.

And? It’s called attraction and personal preference. For every woman that doesn’t like something, there will be others that do.

Every woman is never going to find every man attractive and the same in reverse. Why are you getting offended? 🤣

The words are coherent, but many of the comments are not 'calling men out', they are critical of their appearance and behaviour because they don't like it and not because there is anything actually wrong with it.

The old 'offended' line - I am NOT offended, merely pointing out that criticising a man's behaviour or appearance, just because you don't like it and not because there is anything fundamentally 'wrong' with it, is essentially bashing. Crack on if it makes you feel better but don't pretend there wouldn't be outrage if there were a similar post written about women by men.

Cardigans- no man has ever looked good in a cardigan.

Baby names/voices- anyone who refers me to me as "my sweet lickle angel" or similar shit.

Yep, that’s the thing with icks. Chill out. Shocker, not everyone is going to find you attractive.

Yes, what a bastard, so many red flags there. A lucky escape. Phew!

'Chill out'? Really? 🤔

That's all well and good but saying things like "posh voices" or "sloping shoulders " or "hairy backs" - none of these features can be changed and it's derogatory towards men because you are placing a judgment on someone's worthiness by the physical attributes

What a load of pompous bollocks. I said I did not like the word "poorly" which is neither a masculine or feminine trait, it can be used by either gender. Neither is it a physical feature that a person cannot change, it is merely a word that I personally find "ick" and you told me I needed "therapy". Telling women they are "crazy" and need therapy just because they hold a different view point to you on something so entirely insignificant is misogynistic AF.

Yes! Me too. Even guitars in their houses!

Yes, really.

There’s no reason to be offended that not everyone will find you attractive and may find certain things about you unattractive.

Are you so vain that you think you appeal to everyone?