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Asked for help in ASDA and she had a breakdown.

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Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 12:54

Not sure what I'm asking about being unreasonable for, but am I unreasonable to be shocked?

So it was my fault. I had gotten round and started scanning things on the self checkout after having done my whole shop and realised I had take my card out of my pocket and left it on the side at home. I'm a single mum with a condition which affects my memory, so I have to check 100 times for things before I leave the house but this morning DD was taking her time getting ready for school and I was being picked up by a local minibus service as soon as I had dropped her off and was in a rush.

But I had some ASDA vouchers on my phone from free school meals for the holidays and £7 in cash as I had had a 10 euro note lying around and had cashed it in at the beaureu de change booth. (Remembered that but couldn't remember my card!). My phone doesn't let me do that google pay thing, as it isn't a good enough phone.

I explained to the supervisor that I wanted to cancel my order and put some bits back and he took me to the customer services, but the lady was talking to some of her friends for ages. Eventually I explained to her the situation and told her that I wanted to just scan enough for £37 and put the rest back. She didn't help me figure it out, but just cancelled what I scanned so far.

So I went and grabbed one of those scan and go things as I have an account with them, so I could add up the most important parts of my shopping and put back anything over £37.

Anyway, after I had spent about half an hour doing this, I had 15 minutes left until the minibus was leaving and I went over to the bit to pay for scan and go. As I never use cash, I didn't know that you couldn't pay for cash at the scan and go bit, as it doesn't actually say that when you queue up, and I'd never tried to before, so it wasn't something that crossed my mind.

I scanned the vouchers I had on my phone and had £5.53 left to pay. It was only then that I noticed that there was nowhere on the machine to put cash into.

So I called for assistance to explain, thinking they could maybe transfer my payment over to customer services for me to pay the rest in cash, or help me re-scan everything in the self service bit.

When a different girl came over this time, I calmly explained the situation and she looked at the screen and got really stressy, saying she didn't know what to do, as I'd used gift vouchers for some of my shopping. So she asked for help on her headset and I think they told her to find a supervisor and she stomped off (I think they said this, because she walked over to the cash registers and the ladies on the minibus later mentioned in passing, that they had gotten the supervisors to man the cash registers as it was a bit busier than usual).

As she was stomping off, a lady with limited english was trying to get to the self service tills for trolleys and she was getting aggravated at them for walking through the scan and go to get to the self scan for trolleys, next to it. Kept shouting at them to leave the scan and go back around to get into the two person queue, but they didn't understand. She had a huge loud huff about it, threw her arms up and walked off.

But on her way to the cash registers, she let out a huge shout and said "I'm OUT", and kicked her headset angrily across the floor. I don't know if she threw it on the floor or if it fell off her head first, before she kicked it. I wasn't watching I only looked up and saw her because of her shouting and huffing.

Then she walked past me and in the opposite direction to the customer service desk, and never came back. A lady who had witnessed it all (customer) looked and me and said "I'm standing back", as this staff member had been so angry walking past her.

There was no one left in the scan and go area, and I couldn't press the button again for assistance, as she hadn't scanned her pass to reset it. I couldn't just cancel the transaction and go to self scan as I had already scanned my vouchers on my phone and would have lost them.

After about 5 minutes, another worker came into the scan and go and started helping other people. I asked her if the girl was coming back and she said 'no.' I said 'did she just quit?' and she said 'no, she just...' and kinda sighed with exasperation. I asked her for help and she looked at the screen and said 'yeah i know', and scanned her pass to reset the assistance screen and walked off. I had to wait for her to finish with new customers and then asked her for help again and she got really annoyed at me and said 'it's because you can't use cash here'. I calmly said, 'yes I know, but it was a mistake, I didn't realise.' She walked off again. I was about to just leave my £5.53 cash at the customer services desk and walk out, as I'd been standing there for ten minutes now waiting for help, and the minibus was due to leave, when the man next to me (who was also annoyed as he had just been made to re-scan his entire shop for picking up 2 different flavours of hams on an offer, instead of 2 the same) paid for me on his card and I gave him my cash. So the staff were refusing to help me otherwise.

I know I created the situation with my forgetfulness and not realising I couldn't pay cash until too late, but surely there's a better way to handle someone having made a mistake and asking for help to pay. They were all huffing and puffing about having to help customers, and normally they're just standing around chatting, so it seemed like they just didn't like having to engage with people for that busy day.

I was wondering if I should complain, but maybe the girl who shouted and kicked her headset across the shop after my request blew her mind, had been having a bad moment in her life.

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PrincessTeaSet · 28/03/2024 16:41

Pinkdelight3 · 28/03/2024 13:54

This. You want people to make allowances for you so do the same for them. Sure they're staff, but they're humans too and dealing with many people like you and worse, pushing them to the brink. Ask for better signage at most.

Helping a customer is literally what they are there for. It should not be pushing anyone to the brink to help a polite customer in a customer service role. Nor is it making allowances. Aggressively kicking things around on the other hand is completely unacceptable.

I find it extremely annoying that supermarkets now expect customers to act grateful they're allowed to shop there!

bryceQ · 28/03/2024 16:43

It sounds exhausting. I would try to forget this experience and not spend any more energy on it. Sounds like such a needless situation. Can you put your card on your phone so you always have an alternative in future

ForgotTheBiscuits · 28/03/2024 16:46

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Rosscameasdoody · 28/03/2024 16:50

This is why I no longer shop at ASDA - either in store or online. I can only speak about in store experience at our local one, but the staff are rude, dismissive and poorly trained. There are also not enough of them on the shop floor and when you ask for help there’s a lot of huffing and puffing.

Online I have had several shops cancelled at the last minute without warning or explanation - including a Christmas which, thankfully, wasn’t the only one I’d had booked or I’d have been in trouble.

Their express delivery service is a disaster, very late delivery, missing items, ridiculous substitutions and regularly received cheaper versions of things I’d paid more for - example, 4 x pint cans of beer ordered and charged for, and 4 x smaller cans delivered. And on a number of occasions express delivery failed to turn up - it was only when I rang the store that I was told the order had been cancelled because they use Uber drivers and there were none available. For nearly £9 for an express delivery I expect to be treated better than this.

So none of what you say surprises me. Do what I did. Vote with your feet and shop somewhere else.

Laughingfaceemoji · 28/03/2024 16:50

I don’t know what’s going on at Asda at the minute the staff seem so stressed. I overheard one girl say to her manager that her pay was missing a week and a half and her manager just shrugged and said well the cut off has passed now so you will have to wait. If they treat their staff so badly then it’s no wonder service will suffer.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 28/03/2024 16:55

Doteycat · 28/03/2024 16:38

All that means is that you are wrong too.
And as you know, its impossible that this would happen at every transaction so your point is irrelevant.
The asda staff, and every other CS employee is paid to do customer service. Not just the easy ones, all of them. You dont get to choose who you do your job for, every customer should be looked after.

No still think you're wrong.
If its the staffs role to help every customer to do exactly what the customer wants then how do you know every transaction isn't going to be as ardous and querulous?

WhatNoRaisins · 28/03/2024 16:56

These shops have chosen to put in self service tills, they need training procedures to ensure staff know what to do with them.

PooSniffer · 28/03/2024 16:56

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ChronicOnVodkaAndTonic · 28/03/2024 16:57

What the hell am I reading on here... its this complacent attitude to shit attitudes that have landed us in the crappy society we're in today...

Honestly since covid people have become incapable of adulting effectively.

WhateverMate · 28/03/2024 16:59

You can't pay with your phone but you can scan vouchers on it?

concernedchild · 28/03/2024 16:59

ChronicOnVodkaAndTonic · 28/03/2024 16:57

What the hell am I reading on here... its this complacent attitude to shit attitudes that have landed us in the crappy society we're in today...

Honestly since covid people have become incapable of adulting effectively.

Yeah the OP has. If you forget your card, go home. Don't inconvenience staff.

tangledupp · 28/03/2024 17:00

I have also stopped shopping at Asda as the staff either cba or get treated badly, it seems like a pretty toxic place to work. I did a click and collect for a small parcel there and it took ages for them to bring it to me, and when the employee handed it to me I just said hi and thanks and he just pulled a face without saying a word. Another time I used self-checkout and they offered to scan my shopping for me, saying it was quicker, so I let them and the woman scanning didn't realise I had bought 2 green milks and 2 blue, so she scanned 4 blue by accident. Wasn't a problem for me but her superior had a right go at her for it.

I don't think it's worth complaining because it seems like the one who threw her headset probably has form for it, judging by the other employee's reaction. It's not right that she kicked off that badly but from my own experiences at Asda and what others on this thread have said, there seems to be a bit of an issue with the culture there. I've worked in these types of jobs and I always made the effort to be helpful/polite but I also know how stressful it can be sometimes if you've had rude customers all day (not you OP) and an unpleasant manager.

Anguish · 28/03/2024 17:02

Boomboxio · 28/03/2024 16:39

If the companies install these new modern technologies in their stores they have to make sure their staff are able to assist customers using them. That includes vouchers, cash, etc..

If the stores accept those form of payment, then customers are entitled to use them and staff have to be able to help them if they encounter an issue.

Yes, that is true, however OP clearly was taking the mick to the point where she overwhelmed the employee and is now seeking revenge on her by trying to get her in shit with her employer, that is not the behaviour of a normal, well adjusted woman.

ChesterFoxE · 28/03/2024 17:02

Just for future reference, you can use scan & go with cash but not in the specific scan & go cashless tills if that makes sense.

I go to the normal self service tills.....use the scanner to scan the code on the till and it will download it there......a little trick I learnt much to the annoyance of staff🤣 then I use cash. Simple.

Nolongera · 28/03/2024 17:02

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Bitcoin then. And Drachma.

Doteycat · 28/03/2024 17:03

concernedchild · 28/03/2024 16:59

Yeah the OP has. If you forget your card, go home. Don't inconvenience staff.

Ah stop
Its their actual job.
People here are rediculous.
No wonder CS is gone to shit.

TorroFerney · 28/03/2024 17:05

Springingintolife · 28/03/2024 13:13

Yeah I get that, but I wasn't doing anything to push her over the edge. I was calm, smiley and polite and took accountability for my mistake. The woman she shouted at wasn't doing anything like that either, just trying to get somewhere and she didn't like the way she was doing it.

I won't complain though, but if it's bad in there again, I will.

i think your mistake may be thinking this is anything to do with the interaction she had with you, it won't have been, it's never about that thing is it.

Having said that, it sounds awful so a complaint may help staff training/mental health considerations.

Anguish · 28/03/2024 17:05

Doteycat · 28/03/2024 17:03

Ah stop
Its their actual job.
People here are rediculous.
No wonder CS is gone to shit.

what is your job, PP?

WhatNoRaisins · 28/03/2024 17:08

It's customer service, it's your job to inconvenience yourself for others.

MushMonster · 28/03/2024 17:12

Yes, complain.
I knew this would be interesting from the point you said customer services was talking to her friends for ages.....
For whatever reason they think they are entitled to ignore customers in some places. Enough complaints will get the message to their management. I bet you they have the longest list of them already.

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 28/03/2024 17:14

WhatNoRaisins · 28/03/2024 17:08

It's customer service, it's your job to inconvenience yourself for others.

Have you worked with the public much? You honestly think it's OK to purposely inconvenience (the state or fact of being troublesome or difficult with regard to one's personal requirements or comfort.) people doing a stressful job?

AngelQuartz · 28/03/2024 17:14

Id complain OP. You received really poor service.

It’s not your fault that you didn’t realise you couldn’t pay with cash at ‘scan and go’ and the workers there should have kindly explained and helped you- that’s what they’re there for.

I also don’t know why several posters are struggling to understand your opening post. I understood perfectly well.

WhatNoRaisins · 28/03/2024 17:15

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 28/03/2024 17:14

Have you worked with the public much? You honestly think it's OK to purposely inconvenience (the state or fact of being troublesome or difficult with regard to one's personal requirements or comfort.) people doing a stressful job?

Yes and it can be stressful but it's part of the job. It doesn't sound like the OP was being aggressive at all.

colouredball · 28/03/2024 17:18

@AngelQuartz

I also don’t know why several posters are struggling to understand your opening post. I understood perfectly well.

It's probably down to cognitive ability. I struggle with the a lot of information and couldn't make it to the end of the post. OP has since said she didn't want to leave anything out. Neither one of us is 'wrong' - I do wonder though why when you are claiming to be much more able than the likes of myself, you fail to understand that humans ability differed in all areas. Interesting.

godmum56 · 28/03/2024 17:20

I stopped going to asda for exactly this reason

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