For DH to insist on vaginal birth not ceasarean

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Asking for a friend. Why would he care either way? She has a low pain tolerance and doesn't want to experience the most painful thing that can happen to a woman.

EDIT: He's absolutely lovely and basically a perfect partner in every conceivable way, which is why it's slightly out of character.

I think most people with bad experience of c sections seem to be talking about EMCS.

Everyone I know who’ve had longterm issues after birth have done after a vaginal birth. I’ve got a little scar and nothing else.

I agree

Wait people on here think a c section causes autism? 😂 good grief

Well id rather that than the births I went through.

Tricky to get an elective if you don’t have any prior risks. They’ll say you have a right to request an elective but the reality is not so considerate of the mother’s wishes

After a horrendous labour surely you’d want the baby out? And to have lovely pain free birth
I was the opposite. Finally couldn’t feel anything and got to just lie there 😂 and not die

Yes, as I said, not mutually exclusive.

I almost died during my CS. Needed CPR so maybe I can say I did die for a short while? Yet I’ll have another one if I have another child. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anyway this shows us that there are so many different views and experiences. And the woman gets to have the final say!

It’s changed. They’re really good with it now (at least in my hospital).

@Lelophants

Are you from a science background or do you have medical qualifications??

The theory is that it may contribute to the development of autism. Theories already outlined.

Not laughable. And believe me a difficult birth is preferable to having to be a full time carer. Many have to do so until the child is in adulthood.

It is 2-3 decades+ worth of difficulty vs maximum a few days difficulty.

I do wish I had been able to have a VB because it is hard to see my child suffer and know that the caesarean may have contributed.

@Changeusernameseeusernamehistory not tricky at all. Just have to tell the midwife that's what you want and she/he has to refer you to the consultant.

From all the posts you can see there are horror stories for CS and horror stories for VB.

One thing everyone does conclusively agree on is that the father does not get a say in what happens to the mother’s body.

My son is autistic thanks. 👍 I was in labour for a week and could have died. Pretty sure if anything ‘caused’ it then it would be the labour, not the decent bit at the end.

Also from what I read @Justkeeepswimming this wasn’t true of elective sections but emergency. So completely irrelevant to the op’s post.

Because it's sometimes safer for the baby, when you have a big baby and shoulder dystocia is a higher risk or polyhydramnios and at risk of cord prolapse for example.

He's probably concerned for her health, it's major surgery and has worse outcomes for mum and baby.
However, other than giving advice and his opinion it's ultimately her choice which he needs to respect.

Funny, from what I’ve read there is no statistically significant difference between emergency and planned caesarean and ASD risk.

I’m by no means an expert, but I do have some background in immunology and neurobiology which is probably why I believe there is some contribution

Ultimately, as is well documented and you will know, causation is a combination of environmental and genetic factors.

Those situations are for medical reasons not voluntarily opting for one

@Lelophants

Ps for both you and I caesarean was absolutely necessary and saved our lives and our children.

My point is if the caesarean is not medically necessary, why would you have it when the recovery time and risks are greater for Mum, and it has been linked to negative health outcomes for baby.

For me I obviously don’t have the choice anymore as too risky for future vaginal births, but if I did have the choice I wouldn’t take it. However everyone will have their own point of view and that has to be respected.

Because for me I had a horrendous vaginal birth and didn't want to repeat it. C section wasn't medically necessary but by far the preferable option for me.

Your decision (not his) but I would not voluntarily have a caesarean unless there is a medical reason.

@LucyOriellsHat

That is totally acceptable - if you had a traumatic birth previously and are liable to get extremely distressed going through VB again then caesarean is the best option.

I’m talking about someone who is 100% for and health with no trauma/ptsd/mental health issues.

But regardless, if someone decides to go ahead with no medical need that is their decision to pay for it or to push for it via nhs.

At the end of the day, it’s the choice of the woman who is pregnant how she wants to give birth.

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Bugger it! I vote that all women, from now on, must lay eggs... Cuts out all the faff... That's my contribution for the day, I thangyou! 😁

This.