To say I'm dreading Easter Bank Holidays ?

[Pappadontpreach80]

DH & 2 mid teen DC at home. They will game, maybe see mates etc. They are too young to be left at home all day alone. Me and DH are always around, even if we're in & out the house doing errands etc.

There is nothing going on this bank holiday. Its due to rain the whole time. DC refuse to go away (uk). They might come out for a day. I do not want to be stuck at home doing jobs the whole time. Which is what I do most weekends.

I'll go for a run, see local family etc but apart from that it's going to be be bloody boring. I could go out with friends but I would feel bad leaving DH at home, alone, bored on a bank hol weekend. I don't even know if my friends are around tbh.

What on earth am I going to do ?

Tbh, Friday night I just wanna piss off to the pub with DH. But a bit meh just the two of us. DC like us to be at home, even if they are gaming in their rooms. They like to know we are there. Boring.

Saturday we will go out with DC in the eve for food.

To add, DC don't do walks/ national trust/biking etc so anything like that is out of the question. We don't do the theatre. There's nothing on at the cinema.

Please can someone give me some inspiration. I can't face 4 days in the house/ doing jobs.

Whose the parent here? You want to go to the coast for a couple of days then you inform them you're going to the coast for a couple of days. Are they going to moan? Get somewhere with a TV and take the games console, let them sit and rot in an air bnb so you two can go enjoy yourselves. If you can afford to you could let them bring a mate each.

You're putting up your own barriers here by letting a 13 & 15 year old run your life.
Go to the coast
Take the teens bowling and let them bring a mate
Go somewhere like a shopping centre or entertainment Park where you can go your separate ways then meet up for a meal
Plan a games night as a family, use chocolates as chips for betting on the outcome etc
Go to an escape room together

You mentioned local family, alternatively could a local family member be 'on call' for emergencies so you amd DH can go away?

What do your teenagers do in the school holidays when you’re working?

Sorry but this sounds so negative. You sound like a bit of a bored teen yourself.. why can't your mid teen kids be left alone for a few hours?? I used to love being home by myself for a while from the age of about 12/13. You sound like you just can't be bothered to find things to do? I hate when people say this ("it's so boring! There's nothing to do here!!") Unless you live in a teeny tiny village that just has like a village shop and pub and you can't drive then I'm sure there are things to do. Put your foot down and insist that your kids go for a walk to a beach or something?? I don't drive so rain doesn't bother me, just get on with it, get your coats on and go out!lol! Turn off the WiFi, go old school and do some baking, play board games, go for a swim at the leisure centre? local easter egg hunts? Shopping? Meals out? Picnics? Any arts/crafts events happening in your area? Pottery painting? Bike riding? Bowling?
Where I live we have;
Skate parks
Roller disco/ice skating
Bowling
Theatres
Leisure centre
The beach and boating lake
Arcades
Many many lovely woodland areas to go for walks/bike rides
Parks
Pottery painting
Jewellery making
And I'm sure I've missed some things and I know that not everyone will have all of this or even some of this but (my own personal rant here) all I hear is "ohhhhh I'm sooooo bored!! He's/she's sooooo bored!! There's nothing to dooooooo!!" There bloomin well is!! Get out there and see for yourself!! 😂😂😂

you sound quite miserable OP. The list of things you don’t enjoy and not one thing you do like to do? No interest in any culture or experience? Every weekend is committed to cleaning and sorting?

I have two kids 8 and 2 years. Friday we went to my brothers and hung out with his kids/ate lunch/helped sort their garden. Played cards and had dinner, came home to bed. Yesterday, I met a friend for lunch and a gallery exhibit while DH took kids to a park. We then had a nice evening building dens with a film in the background and making dinner. Today DH and his dad have taken kids for a wet walk in the woods while I make Sunday lunch a read a book of poems. We’ll have lunch together and chill. Tomorrow, we’ll maybe mooch around the local town for a bit and get the girls some clothes for an upcoming holiday.

Chores in between.

Not sure what you are expecting from a BH, but if you don’t enjoy doing things that’s not setting you up for much contentment in life.

No 1 way to have both DS at each other's throats ime

Turn it around.
at least you are not doing a hot sweaty 12 hour shift in the hospitalty industry on minimum wage this weekend.
Our village is rammed and hospitallty staff run off feet.

its defeatistto say tou just have to do jobs amd you cant go out as not fair on dh .

I do remember this age and it can feel that you are stuck in like when tou had a baby .. but -
this is what I did

if they wanted to stay in and you feel
like it too- pour a glass of wine and read a good book, have a face pack . Many and afternoon I did this —sometimes inviting a friend with or without her dc .

insisit they go out - but make some of it what they like . We had a dog - that helped - include food ! Little areas of intrest.
we also allowed them to take a mate each - we had 2 cara s at the time as essential cars user jobs- so we took 2 cars if needs be .
we wd go to a river for eg -!let them be kids - mess about - have a laugh - skim stones - paddle- then cafe for hot choc etc .
its fun with mates .

took it in turns to go out - dh wd go for bike rides- then swap -!id go to a garden centre or anything else i fancied - just an hour or so .

dh and i wd also go to a local arts centre drink wine and snacks- walk back after a chilled cole hours- only ten min away

its tying this age - but be creative and tou can get lots of freedoms too .

At that age your giving them to much say on what they want to do or where they want to be, so much say that you don’t do anything! You and DH are the grown ups you decide the plans. Saying that though you don’t sound like you have many interests going by your updates

Wow think you are pandering to them a bit too much. Family is all about compromise my 14 & 12 year old want us to pay for electricity and wifi for them to game then they come for a nice family walk with dog or visit to a place of our liking. If they don’t learn now that life is full of compromises they will struggle when they start to work. I would also question why they can’t be left alone for a few hours for you and DH to go for a nice lunch one day or meet friends at the pub for a few hours.
With regards to housework you all pitch in.

This is my actual life. I DO leave my teen, but I’m on my own, no immediate family. I’m trying to build friendships but it’s a long road, as others have families that come first. Especially on celebration weekends. It’s often a lot of time to fill that should be fun and I feel very negative about it too.

It’s not that I won’t go out, but that it’s not fair to be constantly out. My fourteen year old doesn’t like it, but I have explained that she can’t expect me to stay home so she can ignore me. If she actually wants me, I’ll prioritise her. We find compromises.

I'm dreading the two weeks of Easter hols! Teacher here. Husband working every day, two kids at home for first week. 3 and 13!!
Any suggestions??! Wine?!!! 😆

i have a 13 and 16 year old and they are left at home. The 16 year old will cook a meal if i leave instructions. They are quite capable and constantly in contact.

What are you joing to do? Well... 'get a grip" for a atart.

What did you do in the end @Pappadontpreach80 ? I was thinking what we did and if any of it would have helped but think almost everything was on your list of don’t likes.

We went for a walk along the coast, had a Lego building afternoon, a day where we walked through a local park with a river and mini waterfalls and a small farm and then wandered into town to go to an art gallery. We also went to a national trust site, saw a couple of films, took part in some events put on by the local Hindu association to learn about Holi & met up with extended family for a meal. There must be things you do like. Next time you have a holiday maybe just book something you do fancy so you don’t end up with nothing to do?

Friday: I had a chilled day. Did the gym, had a long bath then shower, hair wash and dry for the weekend.
Saturday: Out with dc & dh, lunch & drinks out, then dinner out with family
Sunday: saw other family & friends
Monday: gym and chilled at home

So basically you did nothing much Friday and Monday. Washing your hair doesn’t really count as an activity, Surely that needs doing after the gym anyway!

I think this bank holiday needs to be a push for you to actually find something you like to do and gain new hobbies and interests.

i had to work this weekend so my daytimes were taken up but I still

did gardening, mowed the lawns etc
had dinner at a friends and watched a film with them
hosted friends one night for dinner and did a games night with them.

so basically what you did but I didn’t have a free daytime. It’s ok if it’s what you want but your life is passing you by whilst you ‘chill’ and wash your hair!

If you enjoy just doing nothing I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. Most people like the odd quiet day with no pressure to get anywhere or achieve anything. If you are bored though then just do something. Even if you aren’t desperately excited about it you might find you really enjoy it once you get started.

Can you think of anything you enjoy doing other than eating and drinking with friends or going to the gym, @Pappadontpreach80 ? Maybe it will help to make a list of things you’d like to do.