To say I'm dreading Easter Bank Holidays ?

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DH & 2 mid teen DC at home. They will game, maybe see mates etc. They are too young to be left at home all day alone. Me and DH are always around, even if we're in & out the house doing errands etc.

There is nothing going on this bank holiday. Its due to rain the whole time. DC refuse to go away (uk). They might come out for a day. I do not want to be stuck at home doing jobs the whole time. Which is what I do most weekends.

I'll go for a run, see local family etc but apart from that it's going to be be bloody boring. I could go out with friends but I would feel bad leaving DH at home, alone, bored on a bank hol weekend. I don't even know if my friends are around tbh.

What on earth am I going to do ?

Tbh, Friday night I just wanna piss off to the pub with DH. But a bit meh just the two of us. DC like us to be at home, even if they are gaming in their rooms. They like to know we are there. Boring.

Saturday we will go out with DC in the eve for food.

To add, DC don't do walks/ national trust/biking etc so anything like that is out of the question. We don't do the theatre. There's nothing on at the cinema.

Please can someone give me some inspiration. I can't face 4 days in the house/ doing jobs.

When I say leave DC all day I mean for 10hours or so while me and DH go on a day trip. We wouldn't leave them that long or go that far if they are home alone.
They won't game all day every day and will see mates etc. They will game in the eves and expect at least one of us to be around.
We don't like the theatre, I mentioned that before anyone suggested it as an option. None of us like theme parks.
I haven't suggested meeting up with my friends because I don't think that's fair on DH. "Sorry DH, I'm out with friends in the day/eve, if you're mates aren't around then tough, you're home alone for the day/eve". When I know he is feeling the same as me about this weekend.

Why cant you leave them for 10 hours?

I was baby sitting local kids when I was 11 and 12 (and my sister)

Obviously that was the 'old days' when we didnt infantilise children.

So two parents both want to go out and for some reasons arent making plans to go out? Even though their children are old enough and capable enough to entertain themselves for the day. Do they have door keys?

Youre the adults, tell them you are going on a day out with them one of the days if you want a day out.

Hike with pub food or drink at the end is always a go to for us. The teens moan before we go but soon start enjoying it. Or a seaside town (assuming you dont actually live in a seaside town so this isnt something you do every weekend) and let them take a football to play on the beach whilst you and dh have a walk round. Or whatever you want fancy really. Dont let them spoil your bank holiday weekend, just tell them they are coming...they can just make the best of it.

Why does a day trip mean being out for 10 hours? surely there is somewhere you can go that doesn’t take 10 hours?

But even then if the teens are old enough to make food and are seeing mates etc that wouldn’t stop me going.

I think the tail is wagging the dog here. Your kids sound selfish and you sound like you let them get away with it.
I have a gaming mad mid-teen.
over the 4 nights we will go out for a family curry. DH and I will let him have an evening gaming session and we will go to the local pub for a drink without him, We will see friends at least one of the evenings and he will come with us (drinks/chatting/ends up with cards or a Wii game with their older teens and other friends from the village) and the last one we will go bowling/cinema/ etc.
In the daytime, DH and I will leave him alone for a whole day whilst we crack on with the garden. We will all choose 1 thing we want to do on the other days and I am voting for a vintage market, DH wants us all to play Padel and DS has voted for a dog walk at a big park where he can take his scooter too for a whizz around.
I think it’s massively important that they can do things that aren’t just on their own terms all the time and I guarantee you the thing my DS least looks forward to will likely be the one he has a brilliant time at!

If your husband feels the same why are you not having a conversation with him about what you should do? I can't wait for our kids to be at an age we can leave them and go out for lunch or a mooch about a garden center by ourselves.

I mean, come on, you are being dictated too by a couple of kids. Make them compromise 2 days of hanging around 2 days of trips out cinema walk etc if they say no do it alone and leave them. so what if they like you around. If they like it so much, they will come

Turn off their gaming equipment and get them outside!

What a hellish way to live.

This is crazy
Why are the kids deciding everything that goes on?!
Tell them you’re all doing xyz at x time until y time, then they’re free to do as they please
Also a day out for you & DH doesn’t need to take ten whole hours (wtf!)

There are plenty of things to do with teens (bowling, skating, swimming/water park, trampolining, ninja warrior type course, cinema, museums, theme parks, even just a walk round a new city to explore with a nice lunch) but you seem to have given up

Sounds like you enjoy almost nothing so of course you will feel bored and fed up !

I agree with those saying you are putting up barriers to your own enjoyment. There are four days in this weekend - you could go out with your friends one night, your husband could go a different night, and you could invite friends around for a meal or drinks another night, or arrange to both meet them for a long lunch. Also the weather isn't looking THAT bad - you definitely won't be confined to the house with only rainy dog walks to vary things.

Also why is the pub ‘meh’ with just your DH? Don’t you enjoy each others company?

Why not go into a local city and do something they want to do. Climbing, adult crazy golf, axe throwing and shooting ranges are popular round here. You could then go for a chain pub lunch.

Why can’t you go out for the day with DH? You don’t have to go out for 12 hrs. If your children don’t want to come that’s fine- nothing worse than sulky teenagers. It doesn’t mean you have to stay in all day.

This is so weird!! My kids were left home alone from the age of 11 and 12. Get your man and head out for the day ffs. Let them game or chill at home. Get a grip!!

You're miserable because you're allowing yourself to be held hostage - by guilt re your DH, by your DC wanting to game and have you around to ignore while they do it!

Fuck's sake, woman!. They're all getting to do what they want, you're not. Tell them that at least one of the four days is going to be spent doing something you want to do, and with good cheer.

And stop with the guilt, and stop letting teenagers guilting you (I've never heard anything like it!! Little princelings!).

Exactly
I am not sure what you are complaining about, you are the one that doesn't want to do anything.
Really not sure why you can't see your friends.

But just do whatever you want to do and stop whinging

There are four days in this BH weekend.

You have one night out, your DH has one night out, you have a big lunch/dinner party on Sunday and go to the pub with the adults thereafter.

The kids are dragged out by the scruff of their necks for a big walk or similar on one day, no excuses.

They do sound babied and spoiled - woman up, OP. You're the grown-up.

Is this a joke, your going for a run your seeing family which some people don't have and your worried your going to be bored.

Relax, the day will come and go,what's wrong with spending some time at home anyway?
YABU.

Travelodge and premier inn can have really cheap deals mid week even in the hols . Is there one near you? Could sneak off with DH in the middle of the day, don't even have to spend a whole night or spend some time together there , then you have a few hours me time then so does DH.

In your situation I would:

Have a fancy lunch/picnic out with DH one day depending on funds/weather

Walk with pub lunch/city and museum much with teens one day

Evening drink at the local with DH

Bit of gardening

Bit of housework/life admin

Bit of batch cooking

Bit of personal pampering

Virtual wine with a friend/video call one evening

Family movie/games night

Sort out my makeup and dressing table which I've been meaning to do for ages

Post some stuff To Vinted

See DPs at some point

No way would I be bored!!

Im interested in why you specify a 'chain pub lunch' (shudder)

Oh my god, woman, go to the pub! Get your life back!

Your DC would 'expect'.
Is this a joke?
I would also be happy to leave DH and go out for a few hours with friends. And vice versa,
All sounds a bit of an unhealthy mix in your house.

Can you not go out with your friends one day, DH another, drag the kids out for lunch or something another, then do something with DH on the 4th day? Surely if they are mid teens you can go out for a nice long lunch together and leave them at home?