To say I'm dreading Easter Bank Holidays ?

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DH & 2 mid teen DC at home. They will game, maybe see mates etc. They are too young to be left at home all day alone. Me and DH are always around, even if we're in & out the house doing errands etc.

There is nothing going on this bank holiday. Its due to rain the whole time. DC refuse to go away (uk). They might come out for a day. I do not want to be stuck at home doing jobs the whole time. Which is what I do most weekends.

I'll go for a run, see local family etc but apart from that it's going to be be bloody boring. I could go out with friends but I would feel bad leaving DH at home, alone, bored on a bank hol weekend. I don't even know if my friends are around tbh.

What on earth am I going to do ?

Tbh, Friday night I just wanna piss off to the pub with DH. But a bit meh just the two of us. DC like us to be at home, even if they are gaming in their rooms. They like to know we are there. Boring.

Saturday we will go out with DC in the eve for food.

To add, DC don't do walks/ national trust/biking etc so anything like that is out of the question. We don't do the theatre. There's nothing on at the cinema.

Please can someone give me some inspiration. I can't face 4 days in the house/ doing jobs.

Don't you have a hobby or any home based activities you enjoy? I'd love a day to catch up on some reading and sewing, play a family board game I the evening, maybe some baking. My kids are younger and we do more together still but if get an hour when they're on their devices I put on an old film or pick up a book.

Yes us too.
My ds s are 19,19 and 23 …back from Uni
We usually do a marathon Risk…snacks essential. Now they are older wine and beers too.
Then shorter games like Catan. Or Bagatelle, Batgammon etc

We ve always played board games though and mine also go to a local board game cafe or ask their friends over who all arrive with lots of different ones we ve never played.
Its, I suppose, not for everyone though, but it’s never too late OP.
I would suggest turning off the wiki for a time,

I'm finding the teen years boring, but mine is autistic so has no social motivation and there's a limit to how long I can leave him because his idea of feeding himself is grab pack of biscuits and scoff and has poor awareness of his bodily needs. He can be left for a few hours between meals, but not all day as he'd have no sense of when to go and eat.

Most of the suggestions made so far easily stack up in cost very quickly by the time you're paying for a whole family, especially when children are at adult rates.

We've also had health issues in the family to take into account over the winter so even without the relentless mud and rain, it's been difficult getting out so far this year.

Sounds like you enjoy almost nothing so of course you will feel bored and fed up !
Instead of going off seeing your friends and leaving DH home alone, why not both meet up with couple friends? Why is it "meh" for the two of you to have an evening out together? Find a fabulous, new restaurant if your local is dull. Do any local places have live music?
Ask the DC what ingredients they need to make a family meal, then go out and leave them to prepare everything for Easter Sunday lunch.

Surely it doesn't have to be 10 hours or nothing?

Why can’t you leave them 10 hours….do they have additional needs?

The only problem here are the parents. Your children dont do anything other than game ...you bought them it all, never had rules and time limits and never raised them to accept that family time is not negotiable. If you dont change the rules now then you can't complain

Don't you have any books in your house?

JFC book something and tell everyone to pack a bag.

DD14 me, my partner and his DS 19 are off to the coast for a few days. No whining from them about friends or gaming.

You are not a prisoner or a slave. If you want to go to the pub, just go.

I’m dreading Saturday. Shoppers go unnecessary crazy because we are closed for one bloody day! Yet the smaller supermarkets like Tesco Express and Sainsbury’s Locals are open! Always a massive queue to their little car parks.

Plus many customers still presume that we are only open short hours on GF and EM or closed! Nope! The only places are places such as post offices, banks, doctor surgeries, libraries etc.

Stop the crazy nonsense of shopping like there’s no tomorrow.

I will be busy as got three days of code checking to do as told to reduce stuff even more if it has Monday’s date as we are dead after 5pm

@Auburngal

The supermarkets are closed?

I was thinking this too 🙄who goes on mumsnet asking how they can spend their time? She says she's seeing local family and going for a run..that would be enough for me! So bloody ungrateful!

Do you work, OP? What happens with the kids in the hols if you do?

Have a fakeaway /takeaway one evening, have a roast on Easter Sunday, see a friend one day, go out for a few hours with your DH once or twice too. Your DH and yourself could each choose a film to watch plus you could suggest family film night with a pizza. I can’t see what there is to dread.

As an aside, even though they are "expensive for what they are" people mention pizzas often because, assuming people are buying supermarket ready made or takeaway, rather make from scratch, there is hardly any clearing up afterwards so more time for other stuff.

If they are too young to stay home alone then they are too young to decide they are not going away. Who's in charge here?

Bet your glad you started this thread op. You forgot this is mumsnet and kids aged 12 are left alone all day regularly and parents do what they want.

I'm dreading it too. I get five days off work but no one to see (live alone, no kids, friends all busy). I have a health condition which is causing me lots of pain so I'm limited in what I can do anyway. I am counting the days til it's over and I can go back to work.

@BeCoralKoala you need to start your own thread . Sorry to hear you’re having an awful time.

I'm a primary teacher with three kids age 3, 13 and 16. Not enough money to go on holiday so two weeks' at home. Daughter's preschool term-time only so she will be with me 24/7 and hubby at work throughout.
Can't wait....not!!!

I said YABU because you said the kids are too young to be left alone, AND they "refuse to go anywhere". Well it can't be both. If they're too young to be left alone then they're young enough to be bloody well told "you're coming away with us". And if they are old enough to properly refuse, then they are also old enough to be left alone during the day while you take yourself off for a spa day or you and DH go down the pub.

The new Ghostbusters is out at the cinema, and it’s really good. Very nostalgic and entertained me and my son.

Surely just pottering around and not doing much is the default for most folks on a bank holiday weekend? What’s with the angst about it? Just embrace it, watch Netflix, eat chocolate and enjoy the break 🤷🏻‍♀️

Tbf OP, you do sound like quite a boring bunch.

I might have missed this but why can't you and DH go out for less than 10 hours....why don't you do a short day trip? Why does it need to be all day or not at all? Pop out for a morning/afternoon if the kids can't be trusted for a whole day.

In the evenings, go out if you want. You can't be held hostage by your teenagers! They can come along if they're too scared to stay at home by themselves.